Bang 5,318 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Have you ever been so deeply in love to the point that you were blinded by it like maybe you fell for the wrong person or refuse to see the flaws in your loved one and people tell you to open you eyes? Or Do you know anyone who can't see the type of person he/she is dating? Did you Or The person you know manage to open your/his/her eyes? How did it go? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sanjja 545 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Caleb from Big Brother Season 16 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NappeunGZB 3,075 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 yeah, until I woke up one morning and thought "Wtf am I doing?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RiseBrah 156 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Yeah, I fell in love with a korean girl who said hi to me this one time, but then I realised she was ugly and not even a kpop idol, gross lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meems 229 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 I hope I'm not heading in the direction myself. An aunt keeps reminding me about my cousin's story just to make sure I keep my eyes opened with my bf. My cousin have known her husband from HS. She went to uni, studied law and graduated, worked for 2 years before she married him. All that time she kept in touch with him or was fully dating him, not sure BUT.... She only realized the flaws after the marriage, they are not really flaws, but like. She kept her eyes blinded with his mom and now she is annoyed from her and it kinda affects their relationship a bit. She is a lawyer and he works in a bank and I guess she makes more money than him and she is not happy with it or sth, idk I sometimes think she wants a baby like her sister who has 2 now but she can't because she wants the baby to come in a perfect situation, so sth like that. tbh I think she and her mother ( my aunt) should chill a bit, the guy is perfect for her just not financially I guess ( that's what aunt thinks). He is the only one in the world that can put up with her personality ( her own mother says this), but yeah.. she wasn't thinking well back then considering she was praising his family like they were angels and now she really doesn't like his mom. So love can blind, and unfortunately you wouldn't usually know u r but late :/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amix 12,096 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 my former best friend of four years did and i tried to (gently) confront her about it multiple times but she refused to listen to me. after a number of months it got to the point where it was ruining our friendship so one day i woke up and decided to cut her out of my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheProphetLaLa 1,123 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 I hope I'm not heading in the direction myself. An aunt keeps reminding me about my cousin's story just to make sure I keep my eyes opened with my bf. My cousin have know her husband from HS. She went to uni, studied law and graduated, worked for 2 years before she married him. All that time she kept in touch with him or was fully fating him, not sure BUT.... She only realized the flaws after the marriage, they are not really flaws, but like. She kept her eyes blinded with his mom and now she is annoyed from her and it kinda affects their relationship a bit. She is a lawyer and he works in a bank and I guess she makes more money than him and she is not happy with it or sth, idk I sometimes think she wants a baby like her sister who has 2 now but she can't because she wants the baby to come in a perfect situation, so sth like that. tbh I think she and her mother ( my aunt) should chill a bit, the guy is perfect for her just not financially I guess ( that's what aunt thinks). He is the only one in the world that can put up with her personality ( her own mother says this), but yeah.. she wasn't thinking well back then considering she was praising his family like they were angels and now she really doesn't like his mom. So love can blind, and unfortunately you wouldn't usually know u r but late :/ LMFAO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meems 229 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 LMFAO. What? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheProphetLaLa 1,123 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 What? ......I'm just laughing at your joke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meems 229 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 ......I'm just laughing at your joke. There was no joke tho Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheProphetLaLa 1,123 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 There was no joke tho ....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meems 229 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 ....... What part you meant? Did I say sth bad/ sth I shouldn't have said? She asked for a situation so I told her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bang 5,318 Posted August 17, 2014 Author Share Posted August 17, 2014 ....... Well, SH*T ps:I can ACTUALLY TOUCH the AWKARD. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheProphetLaLa 1,123 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 What part you meant? Did I say sth bad/ sth I shouldn't have said? She asked for a situation so I told her. Well, SH*T ps:I can ACTUALLY TOUCH the AWKARD. Lmfao I'm just messing around guys. I definitely think you can be blinded by love but I don't think that was the case for your cousin. It seems more like she was blinded by her false expectations of perfection. Everybody has flaws. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meems 229 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Lmfao I'm just messing around guys. I definitely think you can be blinded by love but I don't think that was the case for your cousin. It seems more like she was blinded by her false expectations of perfection. Everybody has flaws. Sure? You scared me there :/ Anyways, look. She is used to a certain lifestyle and ppl and my aunt kept telling her that it won't work and cause problems but she didn't listen. I think she was blind tbh, she is not seeking perfection probably, but sth to keep her life as it was I guess. It's been over 3 years since they have married and nth has improved. She didn't think about it and now she is seeing it. About his family, tbh families can affect relationships, she dislikes his mother a lot, nth happened between them but she figured it out after they got married so she was blind somehow imo. She is not bad, or perfectionist, not at all. She is actually so sweet and kind hearted, she is only stubborn and can be temper sometimes, that's all. Like I think if a problem was there from the beginning, and the person in love didn't see at all and kept saying nth was wrong and then figured it out, then she/ her was love blinded. It doesn't matter if they were seeking for sth great, the point they still missed sth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohsogrey 474 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Yes. For a couple of years I dated (and lived with) a guy who I now recognise is a sociopath. At the time my family made it known that they didn't really like him but they love me enough to let me find out for myself. I'm very strong headed but also very practical and I don't suffer fools lightly. We had a volatile relationship which if any of my friends had described to me as their relationship I would have advised them to get out, but I was blinded by the most passionate, intense love of my life that I will never really get over. All future relationships are now ruined! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inki 158 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 My cousin and his ex. His ex clearly used him for the whole 2+ years or so and didn't really like him for him, but rather what he did for her. She'd go out and party with a bunch of guys and went behind my cousins back calling him ugly and other things. A lot of us tried telling him to break it off, but he was too blinded to realize what was going on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheProphetLaLa 1,123 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Sure? You scared me there :/ Anyways, look. She is used to a certain lifestyle and ppl and my aunt kept telling her that it won't work and cause problems but she didn't listen. I think she was blind tbh, she is not seeking perfection probably, but sth to keep her life as it was I guess. It's been over 3 years since they have married and nth has improved. She didn't think about it and now she is seeing it. About his family, tbh families can affect relationships, she dislikes his mother a lot, nth happened between them but she figured it out after they got married so she was blind somehow imo. She is not bad, or perfectionist, not at all. She is actually so sweet and kind hearted, she is only stubborn and can be temper sometimes, that's all. Like I think if a problem was there from the beginning, and the person in love didn't see at all and kept saying nth was wrong and then figured it out, then she/ her was love blinded. It doesn't matter if they were seeking for sth great, the point they still missed sth. Hmmm. Well I can't say I know your cousin or her situation so maybe you're right and I agree that family is extremely important, especially if you're looking to build one. Also I never said your cousin was bad, just that maybe her expectations weren't very realistic. There will always be problems in relationships and people will always have flaws, you just need to decide if they're ones you can live with. Love shouldn't be blind but you should at least need glasses or else its no fun. XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Eight 6,542 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 A while back I was in love with a guy for 4 years. He asked me out and I immediately said yes. The relationship was full of his anger problems which he refused to address cos apparently admitting you have them is "weak". He constantly looked down on others, this made me uncomfortable as a lot of the things he said I could relate to my family (he comes from a rich middle class family and I come from a working class family) and he said a lot of racist things which again made me uncomfortable as my step family are all black/mixed race. But I was so blinded by love and the fact I wanted him for so long that I accepted his shittiness. Then one day he broke up with me cos I didn't have sex with him enough apparently (he sucked at sex lol so idc). It was only then that I realised that the relationship was all shit and I should have treated myself better and got out of it earlier. Remember kids, your crush isn't necessarily good gf/bf material. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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meems 229 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Hmmm. Well I can't say I know your cousin or her situation so maybe you're right and I agree that family is extremely important, especially if you're looking to build one. Also I never said your cousin was bad, just that maybe her expectations weren't very realistic. There will always be problems in relationships and people will always have flaws, you just need to decide if they're ones you can live with. Love shouldn't be blind but you should at least need glasses or else its no fun. XD Oh, ik you didn't say she is bad, I just mentioned it because I think she blinded herself that she didn't see what she actually wants and expects. Her situation is actually good, like she loves him and he does love her a lot, they are happy and have a lot of fun together like kids but when it comes to family issues or some financial issues she won't be so happy, still they don't fight or anything. So I think their marriage is successful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MK15 2,108 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 I have this friend I met in law school. She dated a guy for 8 years I think before they decided to get married. I always thought her boyfriend was weird, he'd always make sneaky remarks about her job or friends. For example one day she invited a bunch of friends from law school over (including me) for dinner so we could catch up (we had graduated a year before) and her boyfriend wasn't supposed to be there but his plans got cancelled at the last time or something like that (it was shady tbh) so he stayed and literally threw a tantrum in the middle of dinner because we were mostly talking about our professional lifes and he literally screamed stuff saying that we were "a bunch of elitist people who earn way too much and should rot in hell" like... what did he expect? we were all lawyers, we weren't going to talk about football I tried to talk about his behavior with my friend multiple times but she kept saying I was overreacting and seeing too much things in his words... Anyway, they got married but he became even worse with his remarks and behavior and she was tired to see him doing nothing all day long and hear him complain. Their biggest problem was their wage gap tbh, I think he was frustrated/jealous because she earned a lot more than him... around $8000/month and he earned a little over the minimal wage I think, it was something like $1800/month. Their marriage lasted three months. Good riddance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
＄UHOMIE 175 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 yes, but it was one-sided love im over that now, thankfully Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sully 4,318 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 I've been blinded by a hard crush/faux love. Blinded to the point that I convinced myself every little brief glance or even walking by me was because maybe he liked me. Yeah blinded because that was never the case. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darcy 951 Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 My older brother dated a girl for idek 3 years? It was hell, because he changed completely, forgot about his family, didn't let anyone talk to her and even quit his freaking job for her. At that time they both lived at my parents house and didn't do anything the whole day. They even ate in the bedroom. I can't even describe how ill this relationship was. He always said that she has depression and problems with her dad but it doesn't help to lock her up 24/7 in the damn bedroom. Man he was so blind at that time smh. Thank god I was in another town at that time because I would have had some serious arguments with him. Good thing is, it's over for about 4 years now and he moved on. Now he wants to date again and I'm honestly a little bit anxious about that. I just hope he finds a girl that has a strong mind and doesn't pull him down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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