fufu 580 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 so, I sorta wrote this somewhere else, but I think it's worth sharing here too. It's a little bit edited, so it may not make 100% sense, but just please bare with it, because it's important that I get it out. ++++++ Due to some unfortunate events in my life and the life of others around me, I feel the need to say this to the people. A lot has been made of depression and suicide lately, due to a certain celebrity passing. Most people made a minor fuss, said RIP and then a day later were over it. However when you wake up to the news that someone close to you - a close friend of mine for many, many years - tries to end their life, it puts a lot of things into perspective. One of my best friends is lying in intensive care because he tried to end his own life. I can't bare that thought, so I need to clear my head.You are responsible for other people. Your words and actions carry weight not just for you, but for everyone you interact with. We are all interconnected, and we are all responsible for making life better. I'm not saying a crude joke here and an occasional argument there is a terrible thing, but a deep seated resentment, a long running dislike or even abusing someone else's life choices really do have an impact. A lot of people seem to try and make themselves feel better by belittling others, or making people feel sad. Sadly, all you're doing is making two lives less worthwhile; your own and the person you abuse. You can change that. Being nice isn't hard. Being friendly isn't hard. Not taking yourself too seriously isn't hard. I'm not always the nicest (although I try so hard here), but I do try with people who extend it back. Sometimes my jokes are misinterpreted and to those who may feel I dislike them, that isn't the case. It''s not always a case of 'Treat people well and they'll treat you well', but the nicer you are to others, the better you will feel about you being you.Give people a chance. Give them the time of day. Life can kick us all in the d*ck, or punt us in the c*nt sometimes, and it's important to know that if we need it, there's someone there for us. Don't end up feeling alone and isolated. Just share a positivity with others, and feel it in return. You don't have to be the best of friends, but just don't let people feel alone, even when surrounded by others. Life is hard enough, even with good friends.Be positive, with yourself, and with others. +++++ I've had a distressing last 24 hours or so, and I want people to know that you are never alone, and I want to make sure I do something positive. Whatever your problem, worry or issue may be, people want to help. If anyone here has a doubt or worry, tell someone. I am always happy to help or listen to anyone. I just don't ever want anyone to go through what my friend did. Thank you if you read this, and i'm sorry if it's rambley and vague. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sun☼Shine 4,273 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 so, I sorta wrote this somewhere else, but I think it's worth sharing here too. It's a little bit edited, so it may not make 100% sense, but just please bare with it, because it's important that I get it out. ++++++ Due to some unfortunate events in my life and the life of others around me, I feel the need to say this to the people. A lot has been made of depression and suicide lately, due to a certain celebrity passing. Most people made a minor fuss, said RIP and then a day later were over it. However when you wake up to the news that someone close to you - a close friend of mine for many, many years - tries to end their life, it puts a lot of things into perspective. One of my best friends is lying in intensive care because he tried to end his own life. I can't bare that thought, so I need to clear my head.You are responsible for other people. Your words and actions carry weight not just for you, but for everyone you interact with. We are all interconnected, and we are all responsible for making life better. I'm not saying a crude joke here and an occasional argument there is a terrible thing, but a deep seated resentment, a long running dislike or even abusing someone else's life choices really do have an impact. A lot of people seem to try and make themselves feel better by belittling others, or making people feel sad. Sadly, all you're doing is making two lives less worthwhile; your own and the person you abuse. You can change that. Being nice isn't hard. Being friendly isn't hard. Not taking yourself too seriously isn't hard. I'm not always the nicest (although I try so hard here), but I do try with people who extend it back. Sometimes my jokes are misinterpreted and to those who may feel I dislike them, that isn't the case. It''s not always a case of 'Treat people well and they'll treat you well', but the nicer you are to others, the better you will feel about you being you.Give people a chance. Give them the time of day. Life can kick us all in the d*ck, or punt us in the c*nt sometimes, and it's important to know that if we need it, there's someone there for us. Don't end up feeling alone and isolated. Just share a positivity with others, and feel it in return. You don't have to be the best of friends, but just don't let people feel alone, even when surrounded by others. Life is hard enough, even with good friends.Be positive, with yourself, and with others. +++++ I've had a distressing last 24 hours or so, and I want people to know that you are never alone, and I want to make sure I do something positive. Whatever your problem, worry or issue may be, people want to help. If anyone here has a doubt or worry, tell someone. I am always happy to help or listen to anyone. I just don't ever want anyone to go through what my friend did. Thank you if you read this, and i'm sorry if it's rambley and vague. I wholeheartedly agree. I feel odd admitting this but for the past year or so I've been going through severe depression. And yes I have had that nasty thought, the life changing/ending one dance through my head more than once. Having someone/finding someone to talk to has made the difference between life and death. One number that I have saved on my phone is the hotline. Yes it might be scary to reach out for help, but be brave. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. And please when someone comes to you for help, care; I mean really care. You don't know how much power words can have when someone is in that state. You can't hear, see or feel the good around you. It's like you are walking under water. Will you let that one drown? Be swept up be the under current of such a merciless disease? To everyone whether you know someone who is dealing with depression or you are that someone, don't give up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inki 158 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Good for you for writing this out. It really is important to give people a chance. There's so, so many unsaid things going on in people's lives that many of us may take for granted. Even for the people who seem to be unrelenting douchebags, probably have something going on with them they're dealing with. Even if it seems and feels like you're alone, I guarantee there is, at least, one person who's willing to listen or talk to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saltysugar 405 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 I know how it feels to be depressed and suicidal because I've tried to commit suicide twice. But now I'm happy because I have a gf who I love so so muuch and she accepts my flaws. I fell in love with her because she loved me when I couldn't love myself. I know I'm creepy but since you always talk about her, I really wanna see a pic of what she/you looks like. Haha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fufu 580 Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 I'm so glad you found a way out, and that people know where i'm coming from. I really am. The thought of people being unhappy hurts me. I know it's futile, but my only goal is to make as many people feel happy and feel loved. I never want someone to feel alone in life. I feel alone every day, so if I can relieve just one person, even by proxy, I feel like i'm doing something worthwhile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyunlady 146 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Thank you for sharing those words idk... most of the times its really hard for me to stay positive to all of the things happening around me.. like i'm here trying to be a nice friend but why my friends didnt try to do the same for me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fufu 580 Posted August 16, 2014 Author Share Posted August 16, 2014 Thank you for sharing those words idk... most of the times its really hard for me to stay positive to all of the things happening around me.. like i'm here trying to be a nice friend but why my friends didnt try to do the same for me? I know how you feel, I feel that way a lot. But don't give up. There will be someone out there who will get you. You just need to find them. It may seem hard, but it's better than giving up. I'm always happy to talk and help people as best I can, should you ever need it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Your Juan and only 5,432 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 I see where u are coming from and sorry about your friend. Omg a 13 year old last week committed suicide, it was the saddest thing our town has heard (in our community that is). My family really spends most of the time belittling everyone which did add more to my depression. Depression is a terrible thing and I've come to accept that it'll be with me forever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xiah.junsu 3,364 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Thank you, OP, for this post! I'm reminded of yesterday morning's event. I was in the train, tired because I boarded the wrong train (realized it 4 stations after) and had to make a U-turn. I was rushing somewhere but my time was wasted in the train instead. It didn't help that I'm not a morning person. So, I grumpily stood in the train waiting for my correct station. There's an empty seat in front of me but I was too upset to sit. Then, a foreigner, probably in her 50's, asked me whether I wanted to have the seat. I was pleasantly surprised because with her age, she should be sitting instead. Plus, in Malaysia, everyone is selfish as fuck. They don't give seat to others. I proceeded by gesturing her to take a seat. While sitting, she has this sweet, most genuine smile I've ever seen while looking at her camera. She must be reminiscing her happy moments while looking through her photos. Throughout the 4 stations, the smile never left her lips. She didn't realize it, but the simple smile she carved made my day. Even the smallest gesture might mean something to another person Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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