KinkySanta 1,073 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 I went to the movies with this one guy a few days ago. I am aware he has a crush on me. Like half way into the movie he awkwardly just grabs my hand and holds it. I had no clue what to do and didn't want to make things awkward, so I just kinda left it there and let him hold my hand. He was even doing that thing with his thumb where you kinda rub the hand with it.. it was total hand holding It took me like 30 minutes of thinking, "Man I screwed up how do I move my hand without making it weird" before I was able to move it by claiming my phone was falling out of my pocket. I'm kinda into him KINDA, but I don't want to do anything because I am kinda with someone at the moment. Did I just lead him on? Did I just potentially make things more awkward while trying to make things less awkward? If you were him would you think I wanted more based on the theater hand holding? He's now texting me everyday. What are some things I can casually do to make him think I'm not interested? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SLEEP TALK 1,077 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 I am kinda with someone at the moment. Girl ... you should honestly just say it bluntly and avoid any other events by just saying you're not interested. I don't think you can break it to him "casually" at this point if he's texting you everyday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SlayingSeohyun 6,688 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 Ignore him if you don't want to be with him. Otherwise subtly hint that you're either not interested, or are though won't betray you current partner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kinjiki 1,999 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 Sounds like he's moving too fast. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
masketta 2,783 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 she has the body and head proportions of a caricature alien. OP you got a messy situation. you should put the breaks on the hand holding person because you are "kinda" with someone else. figure out if you are or are not with that person because you might end up hurting two people if you try and "kinda" be with those two people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeeYaWithYou 4,415 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 Just talk about the guy you're kind of with. Be like "omg the craziest thing happened to me and so and so" And when he asks who that is just tell him it's the guy you're seeing. Yeah he may hate you afterwards but, hey that's life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mgl 5,919 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 You should first think seriously about what you want to do and who do you want to be with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NATURAL NI KOISHITE 2,184 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 slut don't break his heart Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nocchi 590 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 here's my advice: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mnt21 702 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 If you don't see him on a regularly, send him a text telling him you're not interested and delete his number Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
masc twink 19 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 is he hot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Random_Asian_Guy 104 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 I am going to ask the question no one seems to want to ask. Why were you at the movies with dude if you are kinda seeing someone? You stepped in by letting him hold your hand. You should have pulled away pretended you felt a sneeze coming on or something by letting dude touch you now thinks he has a shots with you. You need to figure out who you want and what you want. If you don't want to get with movie dude then break it to him there is no such thing as breaking things nicely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrfox 462 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 OP you have to decide and be firm that if you want to be with your current or this dude right here. It would complicate things a lot someday if you continue leading on this guy that you know has a crush on you. This will hurt him but things heal through time, say to him that I have somebody right now and although I know your feelings I cannot accept it, I like you as a friend though. I am going to ask the question no one seems to want to ask. Why were you at the movies with dude if you are kinda seeing someone? You stepped in by letting him hold your hand. You should have pulled away pretended you felt a sneeze coming on or something by letting dude touch you now thinks he has a shots with you. You need to figure out who you want and what you want. If you don't want to get with movie dude then break it to him there is no such thing as breaking things nicely. I'm kinda into him KINDA.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternal glow 6,196 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 UHHHHH...why were you with him and letting him hold your hand in the first place if you're "kinda" with someone else? I think you need to sort out your own feelings regarding who you want to be with because it's not fair and respectful to those two guys. From my perspective, I think you pretty much suggested that he had a chance without exactly meaning to. I don't think there's a nice way to put it but you just need to be blunt without going round in circles. Guys tend to not get the message if you try to sugarcoat so just be blunt to avoid him misunderstanding and not getting it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lynnie 1,207 Posted August 11, 2014 Share Posted August 11, 2014 You should first think seriously about what you want to do and who do you want to be with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sully 4,318 Posted August 11, 2014 Share Posted August 11, 2014 Yes, yes you did make things worse. And yes that was leading him on by letting him hold you hand like that. But did you secretly want him to hold your hand? Since you said you are kind of into him, then you should think about if you want to be with him or the guy you're with now and let whichever you don't choose down gently. And screw casually, just tell him that you're not interested and that you're with someone so it won't happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Be natural 188 Posted August 11, 2014 Share Posted August 11, 2014 you are mean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScarletWhimsy 2,203 Posted August 12, 2014 Share Posted August 12, 2014 I think he wants things to get somewhere, and he's trying his best. But if you are not interested, then please have the decency to tell him honestly so he can move on and not be trapped in an unrequited kind of situation. He deserves to know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fufu 580 Posted August 12, 2014 Share Posted August 12, 2014 If I was him, i'd want to be told straight up. I've been led on before and it's horrible, especially when you see them with someone else without them telling you. It's unfair to keep 2 people dangling, even if it's just because you don't want to hurt them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaotallyAwesome 179 Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 Be honest with the guy who held your hand. It seems to me like he is on the back burner in case the guy you're kinda seeing doesn't work out. Being strung along is worse than being rejected, honestly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiSeo 3,948 Posted August 16, 2014 Share Posted August 16, 2014 Be honest. You must to tell him that you didn't interested in him. Don't give him false hope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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