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Does age matter to you in a serious relationship?


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I've been thinking about this recently. 15-20 years may seem like a short amount of time to some people,

but the other person has already experienced many things and basically lived a chunk of life before you were even born.

 

Obviously neither party is underage, but would you have a long-term relationship (possibly marry) someone who had a considerably large age difference from you? 

 

ex). 21 yr old and a 42 yr old

 

also, would it affect you wanting child? because there are situations that present difficulty have biological children together

 

ex). one party was already married and has kids and doesn't want anymore

 

ex). one party is unable to produce a child/has difficulty with reproduction

 
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if the feelings are there...and you are secure enough as a person, to be in a relationship that other people will have their opinions about....i think it doesn't really matter that much. I would imagine that something like, children, would be a discussion you had prior to getting very involved... If the older person doesn't want children and the younger one does...i feel like that's a road block you can encounter in any relationship, regardless of age. If it's a matter of fertility....there's always adoption, something more people in the world should be doing anyway.

 

Me personally, i don't seek out people with large age gaps ... but if it happened....well....i guess i wouldn't be opposed to it if we clicked at all levels. I can't see myself clicking the way i need to with someone who's that much older or younger than me anyway....

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It matters to me, and no I wouldn't date someone with a big age gap from me. 

I want to get married, so I'm looking for a man I could maybe marry one day, not looking for someone just to have a fun time with. Guys too much younger than me tend to not be wanting to enter long term committed relationships, settle down, or are looking for someone they could marry one day. So we wouldn't mesh well.

 

And guys to much older than me remind me of middle age dads who let themselves go, seem uptight to me and not fun loving and laid back enough. People seem to lose more and more sense of humor as they age, so big gap older guys are out of the question. I'm not into serious or uptight people. So we wouldn't mesh that well either.

 

He pretty much needs to be around my age by a few years.

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i think it's weird when a fully developed person goes after someone who has only just developed. like a 30 year old man going after an 18 year old girl, to me is a bit creepy. I think an age gap isn't so bad, like 5 years or so, but more is kind of treading into another generation, so problems can pop up.

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A 20 year gap is quite large for me, but I don't think it would matter if I was in love.

 

I've always believed that love had no limits, whether you love another person of a different race, religion, age, or even if that person is a dog or elephant instead.

 

So no, I don't think it matters. What would matter is if we had completely different tastes and interests, which is what happens quite often with age gaps. I find it hard for me to date girls younger than me; just because we like completely different things or we just don't have the thing that helps us 'click.'

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Yes, it matters to me.  It's essential that I share a lot in a relationship and a big age gap can make that difficult.

 

I try not to judge other couples, though.  If they are happy, that's what is important.

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Idk, I just feel like I wouldn't be able to connect with someone who has such a huge age gap compared to me :/ I wouldn't really go more than a few years older tbh. That said, if someone else was in a relationship where the age gap was huge, I wouldn't care because that's their business and I'm only concerned about my own.

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yup it it matters to me, my parents tell me i should end up with a guy at least 10 years older and i'm like :imstupid:  :omgwtf:

My dad is 13 years older than my mom and she does nothing but complain how he has thrown himself to old age and is boring and she wants to have fun, I don't want to end up like them

When i was younger i'd only like guys up to 2 years older, now that i am 20 i have developed the hots for idea of dating a 24-26 year old :megusta:  is that guys that are 20 havn't matured yet . So, I prefer guys up to 6 years older and not younger at all :smile: .

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