Help: I can't stand my boyfriend's childhood, clingy best friend

[ultimatedork]

My current boyfriend has this childhood lady friend, and they're inseparable. They had a relationship in the past, but all that's dead, and they're just friends, blah blah blah... anyways, I'm not jelly about that. 

I'm annoyed at her. She is the most frustrating girl I've ever met. My bf and her are like bubblegum, they do everything together, she even has to be in the same place our dates are in. And when he decides to finally spend some time with me alone (which happens like twice a month), she makes a big deal out of it, dramatizes the whole thing, and comes crying to ME, as if to make me feel bad for the mascara running down her face. She is a manipulative bish, and one day tries to act like my best friend, but the next she's all moody at me for some unknown reason.

I can't stand her. 

I'm not sure if talking with my boyfriend will result in anything positive, or in an even bigger hissy fit from her part. I don't want to tell him "it's me or her" (which that idiotic bff of his has already done) because they're CHILDHOOD friends. But she just stresses me out too much and ruins everything that has to do with our relationship.

Help?

[Fuck OneHallyu]

bitch slap her

[I'm Always Right.]

 

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Solution. 

[krystalized]

ur boyfriend doesn't deserve you TBH. he can be with that sttupid manipulative bitch. u shouldn't accept that 

[Playgirl]

Sounds like she has a problem with the fact he has you in his life, which isn't cool. She is going to need to let go or you might have to say something to your BF. I would be really annoyed if I were you.

[aris]

Assuming she already gets the point and knows that you don't like her being there, go talk to your boyfriend about it.

 

Not to say that they have to stop being friends, but following you two on dates? If your boyfriend doesn't see how that's inappropriate after talking to him, then it's a lost cause and you two should just break up. It might be hard for everyone involved, but it's better to address the issue now rather than later. 

[PornStar]

bitch slap her

 

 

 

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Solution. 

 

 

your boyfriend is an asshole tho.

[twinky]

that's a problem. even more so if they had a past relationship and it's not purely platonic.

idk if your relationship with him is serious or not but if he really values his childhood friends, then she'll always be there whether you like it or not.

talk to your bf and tell honestly what you felt about his childhood friend, if he can put a distinct line between you and his friend and she can stops interfering then it's ok,

if not, then just think whether you want a man+ a childhood friend of him in one package.

or is she single? get her a boyfriend to distract her from clinging to your bf

[Knee]

wtf talk to your boyfriend about it and tell him to tell her to hop off his dick

 

he's your boyfriend, not her's

[Remus]

Chokeslam the bitch.

[CANCAN]

tell her to gtfo!!

[Destiny]

Tell him how you feel about her.

[Pluvio]

I wouldn't blame everything on the other girl. Your boyfriend should acknowledge that you're his girlfriend in the first place. Him letting all that happen freely is just wrong.

[Lynnie]

To me it sounds like she's being clingy for a reason. I wouldn't be OK with my boyfriend having an (almost) extra girlfriend to the right of him. To be honest, I  could not be able to stand her, I probably would have gone crazy by now. And I know the whole " me or her" kind of thing sounds bad but I would kinda bring it up to your bf, "isn't she being a bit too clingy?" Not matter what, I think it'll sound bad? 

 

He's your bf, not hers.

I think you gotta make that clear. 

 

And if your bf can't honestly see the problem, well, I  would end things. Don't wanna deal with unnecessary grief. Honestly. 

[Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband]

Seem your boyfriend has an un healthy relationship with this childhood friend, I would drop him like a hot potato, because it looks like a mess the whole

[Yuqin]

I'm just saying, if she's that much of a clingy bitch it's obvious she thinks of him, or wishes to be more than "just friends" with him. I mean, seriously, following around on dates and believing she has any say in how much time he spends with you?

 

you first need to talk to HIM about it, and if he says he won't do anything [i personally would cut things off at that point] talk to the clingy chick about it and tell her to lay the fuck off.

[Lets Get Layed]

make a sex tape with your bf and send it to her

[twinky]

Seem your boyfriend has an un healthy relationship with this childhood friend, I would drop him like a hot potato, because it looks like a mess the whole

 

mte, seems like the friendship is not totally platonic, there probably some feelings left whether on her part, his part or both of them

[SummertimeSadness]

she's a bish and your bf is the most to blame imo

[seungwan]

don't give him an ultimatum but you really do need to talk to him, if he's prioritizing his friends needs over yours maybe he should go date her again since he seems to be spending all his time with her anyway, it's hurtful and obnoxious on both their parts, your boyfriend for neglecting you and his friend for constantly butting in. if they are childhood best friends then they've spent well enough time together, now its your turn, talk to him and get him to talk to her to avoid conflict. hope things work out!!

[Jrump]

 

I'm not sure if talking with my boyfriend will result in anything positive, or in an even bigger hissy fit from her part.

Communication is one of the main ingredients for building a strong foundation in a relationship. The outcome will be much worse for you if you don't say anything.

[Sully]

Honestly I'm side eyeing your boyfriend too for even allowing her to to do all this mess. Why is he letting her take so much of your time together, why is he letting her do all this. It doesn't have to me a "it her or me" thing, but he needs to be told if he can't do what's needed in a relationship (i.e. spending time with your gf, not letting your friends intrude on all your time together and implant themselves into your relationship) then he needs to not be in one.

And he should know that she comes crying to you the very few times he does spend time alone with you so that he can sort that shit out. He needs to balance this out and tell her things have changed and he can't spend every moment with her like he used to.

[Yerowan]

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I'm not sure if talking with my boyfriend will result in anything positive, or in an even bigger hissy fit from her part. I don't want to tell him "it's me or her" (which that idiotic bff of his has already done) because they're CHILDHOOD friends. But she just stresses me out too much and ruins everything that has to do with our relationship.

Help?

 

On one hand, if she's already tried to give your boyfriend an ultimatum and he's still your boyfriend, that should tell you a lot about how serious he takes her dramatics.

 

On the other hand, if she's pulled that shit and continues to be super clingy and obnoxious and he won't put her in her place or start blocking her out of (at the VERY least) the time you two spend together, that tells you everything you need to know about his priorities regarding your relationship.

[TrueKingsQueens]

 

 

don't tell him if u do it will only make u appear as immature childish jealous women in front of him not just that that the number 1 major turn off for guys , so don't do it  OK 

 

here what u should do when u are alone with your boyfriend and she happen to appear smile and tell her Oh it's nice to have u here with us clingy to ur boyfriend infront of her hold his arm sweet talk him make it seems that even if u are here we don't care cuz u are invisible to us , don't get mad or show that u are upset the more u do that the more she will keep doing it  

 

and talk to your boyfriend more often try to find out everything about him try finding something that only u would know tell ur boyfriend u wanna go with him on surprise date and make the place where u go secret even he doesn't know about it , take him there and tell him to turn off his Phone .....  Kiss him hug him more then she ever did that the only way u will make her feel inferior , show her her place as she is only his childhood friend nothing more nothing less 

 

u mention that she already had relationship with him find out why they broke up , I am sure she do that not because she is bad person or something she think she know him more then u , and that she would have better chance with him then u  , remind her that she and him are already over and u are the certain Queen , she is Ex 

[~~ FA ~~]

I'm just saying, if she's that much of a clingy bitch it's obvious she thinks of him, or wishes to be more than "just friends" with him. I mean, seriously, following around on dates and believing she has any say in how much time he spends with you?

 

you first need to talk to HIM about it, and if he says he won't do anything [i personally would cut things off at that point] talk to the clingy chick about it and tell her to lay the fuck off.

 

I agreed to this. But sometimes, guys are dense so he might not see there is anything wrong about it. If that is how things goes, if I'm at your place. I'm gonna break up with him. It's not worth to have the extra headache. If he's truly yours; then he will work things out for you.