I want to break up with my boyfriend but I don't know how

[yeokdae]

So yeah, we've been together almost three years and I can honestly say I'm not happy anymore. We're not getting along and I'm not happy sexually, emotionally or just in anyway at all. I think we should have stayed friends. 

But the point is that I really wanna break up with him and I don't know how. I've only had two other serious relationships and one ended in a huge fight and the other ended over the phone. 

I definitely don't want this to end either one of those ways but I don't feel right coming up to him in a moment of peace and calm and say I wanna break up. I don't want to do it when he's happy or sad about something else or when he's just sitting on the couch because I'll feel like I just pulled an emotional drive by (plus we live together) 

How do I do this? What do I say? I want to remain friends but I'm miserable in this relationship and I want it to be over 

Edited January 3 by yeokdae

[Thatoneuser]

There is never really a good time to break up with someone. Just do it when you can. I have been broken up with in so many bad ways but I moved on from them. So just remember that all you need to do is just be honest with him. You can keep it short and you don't have to say anything more other than you want to end the relationship. That's it. Most importantly, just make sure you are safe. I wish you luck. 

[sour candy]

Well if I were you, I'd make a plan to have other living arrangements set before you break up with him so that you aren't going to be living in the same space as him for long after the break up. 
I was having serious relationship issues earlier this year and we went on a 1-2 week "break" (still exclusive obviously but giving eachother space and not acting romantic towards eachother so I could think about my feelings and what I truly wanted). We ended up stronger than ever after the break but if you don't believe that working it out is an option, you just need to be honest with him and rip the bandaid off

[Moodz]

I agree with what the other users said, but maybe try and meet in a public place when you do it. Like a cafe. It minimizes the risk of a fight breaking out/a scene being caused as well as keeping you safe.

[MelanatedBeauty]

Girl...I broke up with someone on their birthday... rip that bandaid off and get your life moving 

Edited January 3 by MelanatedBeauty