how are you *really* doing?

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just checking in with my fellow OHers...

beyond the normal "good, you?"...how are you doing, really?

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1 minute ago, Crescent said:

not doing so well but doing better than the past few weeks! love progress

hitting a low made me figure out a lot of things so I have hope for better things coming soon

sometimes i have my most important realizations when i'm feeling the shittiest...glad you're feeling a bit better, hope things continue to go up for you  

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Just now, vesuvius said:

not very good at all.... grieving a family loss atm but trying to get excited for halloween. my costume is coming together well so its lifting my mood!

my condolences for your loss.  i'm sure your family member would be proud of you finding joy in the holidays despite the circumstances

what are you dressing up as for halloween?  i'm so bad with costumes ;-;

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Just now, Joyrider said:

I think I'm doing pretty well but i just watched Adele's new video for I Drink Wine and that song always makes me kinda sad. And the Itaewon tragedy has me a bit shaken up. It'll pass. On a side note, I find my appreciation for Adele deepening more and more this year.

How are you?

i remember enjoying adele's most recent album quite a bit but didn't end up revisiting most of the songs outside of oh my god and easy on me.  i should give it a relisten.  she definitely has a lot of good songs.

i'm recharging this weekend after a bit of a downward mood spiral towards the end of the workweek.  got my nails done, bought some shoes.  capitalism can't fix everything but at least i'll look like a baddie when this depression goes full-swing!

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4 minutes ago, mystic lux said:

I’m not doing well at all tbh, my great grandfather is critically ill in the hospital and just got diagnosed with liver cancer (and he has already beat cancer twice) I am just so sad and heartbroken 

oh no :(( not sure how to word this properly but i'm sending well wishes for your great grandfather and the rest of your family.  

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4 minutes ago, Shinki said:

I hit a deeper low recently and was very hopeless but that got better slowly, although I'm still not in a good shape at all. At least now I have a tiny bit of hope for the future (you would know why whispers elections) but yeah... I just don't have a stable ground at all it seems, everything since the pandemic became very fragile in my life

i can very much relate to feeling unstable.  even though you may feel fragile and hopeless...just know you are loved and appreciated by many and your own strength is what has carried you through life's adversities so far.  you know i'm not one to just say vague positive bullshit but honestly, i have all faith that things will get better for you.  so i hope you can have faith in yourself as well.

and whenever you need any support or even just a listening ear, you can always talk to me  love you friend

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Just now, No1 said:

I'm just fucking tired.

felt that deep in my soul.  may you find adequate rest...physical, emotional, spiritual (if you're into that)...any and all of the above.

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1 minute ago, eunheart said:

truth to be told, it's not really going well considering walking the pathway of my career. I still couldn't land a proper job to make a living, so I'm in quite a tight pinch. but if you're talking about my health, thankfully I'm still standing strong. things can be really difficult but for me to be able to keep it tight at a pace I'm comfortable moving is really a bless. also, as far less I'm engaging with everyone, I'm still thankful to see same old peeps I'm seeing everyday still being there in the discord servers and socmed-

I'm keeping myself on my feet, still fighting

we're always happy to see you around, eun!  careers are full of ups and downs but i know with your determination and skill, your pathway is the flower path

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3 minutes ago, Moodz said:

Kinda stressed? I've got to pack because I'm leaving for LA tomorrow and my phone needs to be fixed. I went to the library today and started having some anxiety over intrusive thoughts, but I feel better now I guess. And I have an assignment to finish but I'm debating whether or not I should just turn it in late because I don't have the time right now and it's not very important

And love troubles

 

i hope you enjoy your trip to LA!  packing is always so stressful ;-;  but hopefully your time there is worth it.

sounds like you know the gist of what you should prioritize re: time and academics.  you got this moodz

(love troubles...oh boy )

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3 minutes ago, RussianRoulette said:

I feel like I’m both good and bad at the same time? My life is a hot mess right now, I’ve barely slept for weeks, and I’m very stressed, but I’m trying really hard to turn my life around and I’m finally seeing progress?

I find out tomorrow if I’m officially getting a promotion at work which would come with a good pay raise, and with that pay raise I’m saving up to hopefully move abroad sometime next year

I’ve also been trying to up my self-care game to manage stress and as you said: capitalism can’t fix everything but I feel like the first step to not being a hot mess anymore is to no longer look like a hot mess. Fake it till you make it I guess?

aghhhhh i hope you get the promotion!!!  your efforts shall be rewarded one way or another, best believe…if not now then SOON (but really really hope for your sake it’s now!)

yes yes yes i agree wholeheartedly!  giving off Ick will only make you feel icky.  as hard as it is when you’re nearing rock bottom…sometimes putting on the nice shoes or wearing the real pants will make you feel like you can take on the day

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3 minutes ago, krystalized said:

I kinda was on autopilot mode this week because there was so much stuff to do. Plus, I've been pretty tired the past few days... Idk if it has to do do with the fact I passed out on Wednesday and I probably hit my head since it hurts like sh*t (probably should have asked the people who found me lying on the floor how they found me but I was just worried with other stuff) so yeah I've been taking painkillers but I'll guess I'm going to the doctor If I don't feel better by next week.

So... My award threads are on standby in the meantime

Happy Halloween anyways... I mean my mood is good even if my body isn't cooperating rn

girl...?! i hope you are not CONCUSSED.  i would definitely see a doctor, you should not be randomly passing out

and fuck dem badges, health comes first

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18 minutes ago, PastelPetals said:

I have had a hard month. I broke up with my boyfriend but we have stayed in contact and I am realizing if I stay friends with him we won't stay friends and we will just get back together and while that is not good for me it seems to be unavoidable unless I cut him off and I don't wanna do that. So I am in a bit of a pickle.

yikes  setting those boundaries is definitely difficult.  i guess self-awareness is a good first step?  like knowing the relationship itself wouldn't be good for you?

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17 minutes ago, Shalnark said:

I caught a stomach bug, I don't know how I manage to get sick every Halloween. I wanted to be a fairy this year .

awwww that sucks :(( get well soon  maybe you can eat the discounted post-halloween candy as compensation...

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8 minutes ago, Chiharu said:

Well, clearly I'm doing better than most ppl here...but currently stressed and annoyed bc my professor has yet to grade my final for this class and now I currently have an F in said class bc of it. I tried to email them about it, but they haven't responded, and since it's an online class, I have no other way to contact them since they didn't provide their phone number

that sounds frustrating.  surprised that they didn't just...provide a phone number in the syllabus.  all of the online courses i took still provided those...weird.

2 minutes ago, starsocks said:

pretty great, this week I started a four month holiday with no work or school

had a little bit too much to drink at a party last night, but otherwise, kind of awesome

enjoy your holiday!

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14 minutes ago, Shut Up And Take My Money said:

Not well I am considering going back to the psych hospital but I am not sure how to do it without people finding out. I've already gone once this year and now I feel like I only sped up my "recovery" so everyone else would stop worrying. 

hopefully i can word this in a way that doesn't sound preachy or anything...i hope this time you are able to prioritize your own needs  as considerate as it is to not want people to worry, you still deserve to take your time with your treatment.  i wish you the very best.

10 minutes ago, nana_moon said:

i feel kind of all over the place. this semester is fucking tiring and awful in terms of the work, and i keep having imposter syndrome about being in this university and the career path i'm taking. i wish i could lose some fucking weight even though i'm perfectly healthy because i feel fat as fuck. i really can't wait for this semester to end. i feel a little lonely sometimes and wish i could be in a relationship again, but no man around me is interesting at all.

on the other hand, i've made so many wonderful friends and i'm learning a lot. it's not all bad and i'm trying to take care of myself.

i went through imposter syndrome in uni as well.  not a great feeling. sorry you're going through that.

the semester should be over soon, at least if you're on a typical american uni schedule.  hope you and your friends can celebrate once all the hard work is done.

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6 hours ago, hyune said:

honestly i feel shit. i lost my mom to cancer in august and now i live alone, i spend almost the entire day studying and feel super lonely. i miss my sister but she's living across the country and i feel like my grandma is developing dementia. and probably as a consequence of that lately i've been feeling terrible about my appearance. on a positive note at least my studies since to be going well even if recently i am extremely demotivated so there's something.

that is so much to go through by yourself.  i'm glad you’ve found some positive side in your studies but if you ever need someone to vent to, you know where to find me, okay?

3 hours ago, Nelkoya said:

not good, i've been overworking myself and dealing with way more stuff than i should in my position. i even just removed a few of my days off from next week cause there's a lot of work i need to do and i can't entrust these tasks to anyone. so i'm not gonna be able to rest until the christmas break.

my life has been mostly about work these past months. i'm feeling the exhaustion coming, but i also don't see myself slowing down cause if i spend less time on work, i'll be spending more time on my personal issues, and i also don't want that.

my whole life i never felt driven by anything, just letting the wind carry me wherever it goes, but everything just feels emptier and emptier these days. i used to not mind it much as i still felt joy from the people around me, but i've been isolating myself more and more lately and the few relationships i have may not be the healthiest for me. i'm just questioning myself a lot, do i make the right choices? are the things i hold on even worth it? what even keeps me going?

koyer  i’m sorry you’re going through this.  it’s unfair for a company or workplace to rely so heavily on one employee.  you and i are a lot alike in the sense that we set aside our own needs in order for the work to get done as perfectly as possible and as efficiently as possible.  but we both know this is not good for preventing burnout.  i hope you are able to find trustworthy empathetic people to share your workload with…or that you can find a new role that is less taxing.

my therapist spoke to me lately about avoidance and how distracting yourself from certain issues by busying your mind can give the issues that much more power.  idk the specifics of what you’re going through but may you find time to take it all in and heal  and don’t let your self doubt make you forget all the GOOD choices you make and the positive impact you have in people’s lives.  you’ve certainly made mine better

sorry for the novel nel, love you friend