ღ✿♔Mina♔✿ღ 365 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I'm interested to know if they are any people here who are saving themselves until marriage and what their reasons are for doing so. Perhaps religion or other reasons? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Fei 742 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I don't really have reasons besides religion, having sex with someone is like having sex with every person they had sex before, STDs are strong these days. I don't think there is something wrong about having sex before marriage, but it isn't something i would do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nekci 1,995 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I'm religious which is why, but I think even if I weren't, I still wouldn't because I'd still be afraid of pregnancy and STDs. Not that people who have sex before marriage are bad or anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
akisame 3,880 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I have a religion, but I'm not greatly religious, I just find the idea of having sex before marriage very uncomfortable. I would only feel 100% comfortable giving my body to someone else, once we've been married, because I am assured that they're (hopefully) the only person I will be with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nyuu 336 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I am, but not for religious reasons. I just want to be 100% he's the right one and that I won't regret it. (Ofc we could divorce some years later, but then I'm sure I won't regret it.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auroras 4,218 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 Culture + religion + personal choice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sproutlette 268 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I have a religion, but I'm not greatly religious, I just find the idea of having sex before marriage very uncomfortable. I would only feel 100% comfortable giving my body to someone else, once we've been married, because I am assured that they're (hopefully) the only person I will be with. All of this. I feel this way completely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GalaxyRi 4 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I am, but not for religious reasons. I just want to be 100% sure that person is the one. I don't really take the whole "sex" thing lightly (just give it to anyone, ya know?). I'm awkward and slight timid as it is, I'd have to be completely comfortable with the person to the point that I would want to go there. It's just a personal choice even though some people think it's stupid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guitargeekette 5,960 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 There are still a couple of us out here lol. I'm a Christian, so of course I stick to honouring God with my body, which includes only having sex with whoever I marry. But tbh...even if I wasn't I'd do the same, knowing me. That's a high level of intimacy and I'm a picky person about my personal space. So there's no way I'd be sleeping with multiple and varying dudes who have slept with multiple and varying others. I want to know who I'm with is the ONLY person I'm with and he's only with me and we value the intimacy equally. Instead of it just being another past time, or a formality at the end of a date or sumn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrazyAjumma 1,925 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I did for religious reasons but probably still would have for personal reasons as well. Never regretted it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♥SNS-Shinomiya♥ 420 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I am the type the that doesn't care so much for sex....so religion aside that isn't something that I would be interested in anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Almondandlime 6,854 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 Not interested in it in or out of marriage tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pocket Hyung 3,962 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I have a religion, but I'm not greatly religious, I just find the idea of having sex before marriage very uncomfortable. I would only feel 100% comfortable giving my body to someone else, once we've been married, because I am assured that they're (hopefully) the only person I will be with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArseneLupin 4,475 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 well i dont think i ever want to marry sooo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TAEMON 1,006 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 I have a religion, but I'm not greatly religious, I just find the idea of having sex before marriage very uncomfortable. I would only feel 100% comfortable giving my body to someone else, once we've been married, because I am assured that they're (hopefully) the only person I will be with. this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kagehina 802 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 Religious reasons and because I don't want to give my body to someone unless I am fully committed to them (but then again I don't even want to get married) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
h0neanias 13,516 Posted July 17, 2014 Share Posted July 17, 2014 What if the sex turns out to be crap? Sure, it's still sex, but isn't it a bit risky still? IMHO before marriage, people should try living together -- even sexually, if they are sexual at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sully 4,318 Posted July 18, 2014 Share Posted July 18, 2014 I used to be 100% this. I didn't like the idea of giving my body and being that physically exposed with someone who didn't love me enough that he wanted to marry me (total commitment). And I didn't want to engage in something with a risk of pregnancy with a man that wasn't my husband. I don't want to get accidentally knocked up by someone who's just a boyfriend. But now I'm not 100% sure on no sex before marriage anymore. The change being that I'm starting to get more and more sexually frustrated as I get older. So it's making me flip flop. So not really sure if I will or won't wait anymore, although I'm still not comfortable giving my body to a guy who's not serious about me, and the possibility of becoming pregnant terrifies me, especially if it's just a boyfriend and not a husband. If I do decide not to wait, it will be with a man I've been in a committed relationship with. Like we've already been together for a long amount of time (I'm talking upwards of a year at least). What if the sex turns out to be crap? Sure, it's still sex, but isn't it a bit risky still? IMHO before marriage, people should try living together -- even sexually, if they are sexual at all. But crap sex can be fixed though as long as both parties are willing to communicate and work on it together. Hopefully someone would be able to tell if that's something their partner has the capability of doing (listening, communication, willing to work on problems) before they marry them. i figure if they're not that kind of person that would have been seen already before a proposal even happened. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heidi 111 Posted July 18, 2014 Share Posted July 18, 2014 Mainly religious, but also since I want to share that intimate moment with the one I'll be spending the rest of my life with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Irrelephant 4,710 Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 What if the sex turns out to be crap? Sure, it's still sex, but isn't it a bit risky still? IMHO before marriage, people should try living together -- even sexually, if they are sexual at all. If I set up my life to be modeled after dating and casual sex, of course I would want to live with them and have sex with other people and just really make sure the other person is who I really want to be with while being on the same page as I am. But I didn't, therefore my priorities are different than yours. If I find someone with the same priorities as me, the way we think about sex is conventionally different, and our expectations when we live together are different. There are always exceptions to the rule no matter which way you go. Both my grandparents are known to have very successful marriages, and their circumstances were a lot less liberating than mine. My parents spent around 7 years of their married life together before being completely sure they wanted to continue their relationship and have kids. My extended family has had their share of divorces and happy endings, doesn't matter if they dated prior or not. I'm a lazy person. My life is a lot easier this way. Everyone has different wants and needs, so I'm in no position to tell other people they can't do things another way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
potaeto 1,933 Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 I'm saving but not for religious reasons, just for me. I don't want to be regretting with someone I won't be marrying and the risk of STDs and other stuff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheProphetLaLa 1,123 Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 The only thing I'm saving for marriage is all the cupcakes and trash food my greedy little soul desires...lol jk i eat that shit now too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yuqin 805 Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 I am, but mostly because I feel like I want to give my future husband something only I can give him, to kind of show that regardless of whether we knew each other or not, it was still something only for him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
h0neanias 13,516 Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 If I set up my life to be modeled after dating and casual sex, of course I would want to live with them and have sex with other people and just really make sure the other person is who I really want to be with while being on the same page as I am. But I didn't, therefore my priorities are different than yours. If I find someone with the same priorities as me, the way we think about sex is conventionally different, and our expectations when we live together are different. There are always exceptions to the rule no matter which way you go. Both my grandparents are known to have very successful marriages, and their circumstances were a lot less liberating than mine. My parents spent around 7 years of their married life together before being completely sure they wanted to continue their relationship and have kids. My extended family has had their share of divorces and happy endings, doesn't matter if they dated prior or not. I'm a lazy person. My life is a lot easier this way. Everyone has different wants and needs, so I'm in no position to tell other people they can't do things another way. I'm not telling people what to do. Just saying it would be sad if it turned out that other person is a sadist, for example -- or gay, for that matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apathy 404 Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 Waiting is a huge, wasted effort. Society builds up the value of virginity way too much. In the past, STD's and unwanted pregancies were a much bigger problem. That's why religions put so many restrictions on sex. But it's not a big problem anymore, assuming you are smart and careful. God made sex pleasurable because it's meant to be enjoyed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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