(Pann-Choa)[theqoo] MY DAD SAID THAT HE REGRETS THAT I'M BORN (TW: DEPRESSION)

[CannotBNamed]

 

(T/N: the whole post is a screenshot of someone's post from another community website)

 

I'm the maknae of 3 brothers and sister

 

My hyung caused a lot of troubles ever since middle to high school and couldn't get into his right mind up to his early 20's until he went to the army which snapped him back. He passed the police exam at 27 and left home.

 

My nuna was f*cking good at studying ever since she was young so as soon as she graduated, she got employed and left home at 24.

 

I discharged from the army at 22, left home to start a clothing business, lost everything and came back home.

 

Also, for 2 years, I was preparing to become a public servant but I failed this time again

 

Yesterday, I was eating and my dad asked if I ever hated my parents

 

And I said "of course not"

 

But he said that he did

 

He said "we shouldn't have given birth to you. If they could sell kids at the super market, people would buy your hyung or nuna but not you"

 

Ever since I heard what he said yesterday at lunch, I couldn't think of anything for the rest of the day

 

It might sound like a joke made to encourage me to study harder and motivate me. But couldn't he just said that instead if that was his intention?

 

I want to kill myself.

 

Should I give up on studying and wander around until I turn 30 and go light up some briquettes somewhere quiet? I'm seriously considering it

 

original post: here

 

1. Saying something to a test taker will haunt them for the rest of their lives.... This is too much, seriously... it's heart breaking..

 

2. My tears rushed out just by imagining myself in his shoes hearing that.... Seriously, there are things that you can say and things that you can't. This isn't gonna shock him but make him want to give up on everything

 

3. Seriously, can parents stop putting so much pressure on their kids.. His heart must be so upset

 

4. No matter how you say it, how can you hurt someone like that... Saying that you regret having your child is like hitting a nail in their heart

 

5. Every time I read posts like these, it just breaks my heart..

 

6. Why would they give birth to a kid just to say such things?...this is so sad

 

7. Please don't die and liveㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠ

 

8. Is he really his dad? It's not like he chose to be born either

 

9. I can understand. I'm the oldest hyung out of 3 brothers. My mother passed away from cancer and my dad said those words with a clear mind. He told us that if we weren't born, then my mom wouldn't have died. I don't know if I can comfort you but for the people who are in the same situation... I hope you can proudly live a better life

 

10. He was the one who birthed you. Then he shouldn't have gave birth to you. Who told you to be born? Are these really words that parents should be saying? F*ck

 

[abra]

What a horrible father

[Your Biggest Fan]

I've been in his shoes. I don't have a relationship with my father anymore even though my parents are still married to each other. Cutting him off was the best decision I ever made.

I hope this guy has a good support group that can build him up. It's a shame that he can't find it that love and support where it should be and has to go looking for it.

[XiuJoySolMinraeXingBunny]

If my parents said this to me, I would probably lose my already fragile will to live. I hope the op does not give up, there will be better days. 

[Lolly21]

You see, I have no sympathy for parents like these. At all.

I hope that person doesn't fixate on that too much and realize that it's not their fault if that parent is weak and insecure.

Not everyone is meant to be a parent but society puts so much pressure in conceiving...

[Walmart Goddess]

Lets see if the father has that same mentality when hes elderly and he needs their kid for financial help. Be careful how you treat others, it can come back to bite you.

My brother is in jail and i could care less about him due to his toxic behavior. You reap what you sow!

[No1]

On 11/2/2021 at 8:04 PM, Walmart Goddess said:

Lets see if the father has that same mentality when hes elderly and he needs their kid for financial help. Be careful how you treat others, it can come back to bite you.

My brother is in jail and i could care less about him due to his toxic behavior. You reap what you sow!

These kinds of parents literally have children just so that they have someone that will take care of them when they’re old and senile. If his children leave him, it’s his own fault.

 

The poor dude, I hope he leaves and finds better people to be with. I hope he doesn’t give up.

[YEO]

I hope OP doesn't give af about the father when he's old and cannot help himself. 

[jello-kitty88]

Parents should never ever say that kind of thing to their children. It just creates a blackhole of pain in your heart that never goes.

My parents supposedly tried for me for 10 years and you'd think I'd be treated like a treasure after not giving up for that long... HAHAHAHA! My mum spent near every day of my teen years telling me I was a 'waste of space'. What was the point of having me then?! Right before she died (I was 19 at the time) she tried to tell me how I was very loved and wanted but by that point it was hard for me to believe her. I wanted to but... Her actions and the things she said the most make it hard to believe. I humoured her at the time but it's still a rotting pain in my heart. I thought about it a lot back then during my teen years and to be honest, I still think that if I knew what I would be let in for emotionally, I would've aborted myself.

Anyway, I hope the guy doesn't give up. I hope he moves away from home as soon as he can and thrives. I hope he doesn't let his father take any credit for even the smallest successes he has and lets him just be bitter by himself when he's old and unable to help himself.