Have y’all been keeping up with this Simon & Martina cat mess?

[PastelPetals]

The last video I saw of theirs was the Simon update video. Still not sure what's up with him and even more unsure why they still share a channel. I am sorry that their relationship ended up like this but fighting over a cat on youtube seems a bit much. I hope the cat is doing well and I hope maybe they operate different youtube channels in the future and that they can keep going forward acting like adults.

 

EDIT: So I have a few more thoughts. Simon creeps me out. I believe him as I have no reason not to but the slow quiet speech plus the therapy lingo remind me of people I met who everyone thought were so grounded but just ended up being self absorbed and liked playing the victim. I have been in a lot of therapy including some groups and there was always one like that. Also for the sake of the cat I hope they can both figure out the best way to solve this.

 

And finally Hot Take: Narcissistic abuse is not real. It's just abuse. Yes NPD is a pretty common mental disorder but it's still only 5% of the US population and most narcissists are not abusers as that would not help their reputations. If Simon is not diagnosed with NPD than it's not narcissistic abuse and even if he was I would be careful with that phrase. Again based on my knowledge and also knowing people who do work full time in the mental health field everyone says their wives have BPD and their husbands have NPD. Just call it abuse and describe the behaviour. Buzzwords don't help me understand what is going on. I assume Martina found him manipulative and that he played the victim but I might be wrong cus she never said that she said "covert narcissist" and "narcissistic abuse" . There is a ton of misinformation when it comes to personality disorders and people often just sorta swap symptoms around for whatever. NPD Mom or OCPD Mom or BPD Mom who knows certainly not random people on the internet with no training or a DSM-5. I am apologize for the rant but the copting of therapy terms without knowing how to use them had many many a life hard both within PD's and for other psychiatric disorders (like me!)

Edited September 19, 2021 by PastelPetals