Former AOA Member Mina Apologizes For Cheating Controversy + Announces She Has Broken Up With Her Boyfriend

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Former AOA Member Mina Apologizes For Cheating Controversy + Announces She Has Broken Up With Her Boyfriend

Jul 5, 2021

Former AOA member Mina has released an apology regarding her recent cheating controversy.

On July 4, Mina posted a statement on Instagram announcing that she had broken up with her boyfriend, whom she referred to by his last name (Yoo). She also admitted, “It’s true that both Mr. Yoo and I cheated,” before apologizing for acting “like a sly fox.”

Mina first revealed her relationship with Yoo on June 26, when she posted a photo of herself with a man on Instagram. She then confirmed in the comments that same day that the man in the picture was her boyfriend.

Shortly afterwards, an individual posted on an online community asserting that the man Mina called her boyfriend was actually the boyfriend of her close friend (hereafter referred to as A). The writer of the post explained that the couple lived together and had been dating for three years before Mina first contacted Yoo on Instagram by DM (direct message).

The writer of the post added that Mina had been aware of Yoo and A’s relationship, which remained heavily documented on his Instagram up until the day Mina posted the photo (at the time of Mina’s post, Yoo and A’s couple photos were still visible on his Instagram account). She also posted a screenshot of their DMs in which Mina mentioned on June 10, “You and your girlfriend look good together.”

Mina initially responded to the post by claiming that while she knew Yoo had a girlfriend when they first started chatting, she only started dating him after he had already broken up with A. However, screenshots of Yoo and A’s text messages posted by friends of A revealed that Yoo had not actually broken up with A before meeting up with Mina, but instead had lied to her that he was going to hang out with friends from the army. According to the screenshots, when A saw Mina’s photo and contacted Yoo out of shock, Yoo replied, “I’m sorry for hurting you up until the end,” before abruptly cutting off all contact with A.

As the controversy continued to grow, Mina repeatedly denied the allegations and threatened to take legal action against malicious posts and comments. She also posted on Instagram claiming that A’s father had been contacting her with death threats and had called her a “prostitute” and a “slut.”

A then personally spoke up for the first time to clarify that her father had never contacted Mina and had never even spoken about her—he had only contacted Yoo by DM to ask him to take down his posts about his daughter, and he had never made any death threats or mentioned Mina at all, let alone used any derogatory language such as calling her a prostitute.

A also revealed screenshots of her DMs with Mina from when she first realized that Mina and Yoo were involved. After seeing Mina’s photo, A messaged Mina to ask about it, leading to the following conversation:

A: Unnie, have you and my boyfriend decided to start seeing each other..?
Mina: Do you know me? Who are you
A: You said, “You and your girlfriend look good together”
A: [screenshot of Mina’s conversation with Yoo including the above quote]
Mina: Oh, that person?
Mina: So why are you DM-ing me?
Mina: He’s dating me after breaking up [with you]
Mina: Is that a problem?
A: If he had broken up with me, then why would our photos still be on my Instagram and Yoo’s Instagram? I really don’t understand why you’re pretending not to know. If he had broken up with me and then started dating you, it doesn’t make any sense that he would leave all his photos with his ex-girlfriend on his Instagram exactly as they are. Even on the day that you posted your photo with Yoo, the photos were still there, just as they were before. I’ll be clear: you posted your photo before Yoo and I broke up, and we only broke up because I saw that photo and the articles about it. Looking at the situation, I really don’t think you could not have known. Please tell Yoo to stop calling me. I don’t know why I have to be harassed more when I’m the victim.
[Screenshot showing Mina blocked A]

On July 3, a group of AOA’s fans came together to release a statement regarding Mina’s allegations that she had been bullied by her former bandmate Jimin during her time in AOA. The fans stated that they did not agree with Mina’s position, countering some of the specific claims she made last year, and they emphasized that while Jimin had left AOA and the entertainment industry, she had never actually admitted to bullying Mina.

On July 4, Mina posted a statement that began, “Yes. After listening to the opinion of those who have been badmouthing me, I wanted to quickly talk about this incident and then post it as a video, but people said they didn’t want to see my face, so I’m posting it as text.” 

She went on to state the following:

Translator’s note: Parts of the original statement were not written in full or grammatically correct sentences, as Mina herself mentions at the end of the statement.

What I heard from Mr. Yoo (I decided not to bother with concealing [his profile photo] since his name has already been in the related Naver search term rankings for some time) is that their relationship was already not good, that they were fighting a lot, that their personalities didn’t match, that he was dating her out of familiarity. Also, Mr. Yoo expressed interest in me first, and I felt drawn to him too because we connected so well in conversation. We also had a lot in common in terms of our background. But at the time, we talked about things like, “We shouldn’t do this because you have a girlfriend,” and “I’m in the middle of ending it,” and “I ended it for good,” and then we must have fallen for each other and started dating, right? Back then, I thought that since we started dating after they broke up, even if I hadn’t done anything to be proud of, it wasn’t cheating. Even now, I have a lot of older and younger fans with whom I became close friends, rather than calling them fans, and I still maintain those kinds of relationships.

At any rate, back then, I still thought, “If they broke up when they weren’t in love anymore, why is everyone so angry about this? Is it really just because I haven’t admitted to the cheating?” You may find this unbelievable, but that’s honestly how I felt. That’s why, back then, I wrote my posts very coldly, and why I spoke to the victim [A] in an argumentative tone, instead of a polite one.

After seeing his ex-girlfriend’s recent post on Nate Pann, as well as the KakaoTalk messages the two of them exchanged, I heard the honest truth from Mr. Yoo. It was all lies. Because of that, I was able to think about things from his ex-girlfriend’s point of view.

It’s true that both Mr. Yoo and I cheated. I’m truly sorry to the ex-girlfriend and her acquaintances, who must have been hurt because of me. Thanks to your mustering up the courage to upload the post, I ended up learning the truth, and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t blame Mr. Yoo at all. But it’s definitive fact that I am a perpetrator, and I’ve ended up looking like I only listened to one side and kept insisting that I hadn’t done anything wrong, and I admit that all of this is my fault and am truly reflecting on it.

There were no words like “prostitute” in [A’s] father’s text messages. I wasn’t saying that I’d heard those words from her father, but was just writing various things I’d heard here and there, and I was saying that I’d received threats that were [not death threats, but] at the level of death threats. The reason for this is because [in his text messages to Yoo asking him to take down his posts about A], he wrote the plural form of “you,” so I thought that I was included. And to make someone piss themselves, they would have to be at the brink of death or actually die. People only piss themselves when they are at the highest level of fear. People don’t piss themselves when they are just raped or wounded or beat up by dozens of people. That’s why I was so scared back then, and I thought, “Isn’t this going too far?” But after finding out the truth about everything, what parents would like it if the boyfriend of their precious daughter suddenly two-timed her with a random woman for several days… I understand.

Mina concluded:

I sincerely apologize. In this incident with Mr. Yoo and his ex-girlfriend, I am clearly a perpetrator, and because I realized this too late, I behaved foolishly. Of course I admit to my wrongdoings, and I would like to bow my head in sincere apology to the victim who was formerly his girlfriend. And of course I am currently no longer dating Mr. Yoo. From today on, I will only receive encouraging messages from people, and I will not respond to anyone. I will also be cutting off all contact with the fans that I am currently in touch with. I truly feel a great deal of guilt for being too free-spirited and acting however I wished, and I’m sorry. I also apologize for having disappointed many people.

Regarding the mention of Shin Jimin, I also want to ask. Why are many people bringing her up… and that statement [by AOA’s fans] was also a mess… she has nothing to do with this incident, and I also don’t want to talk about her. So don’t try to make me a perpetrator in this case with falsehoods. When it comes to the Shin Jimin case, I am a huge victim.

Once again, I apologize to the victim [A] for causing a disturbance with this incident. This kind of thing should never happen again in the future, and I will take more responsibility in my words and actions from now on to prevent further victims from arising in the future. I also apologize for not writing clearly, for rambling in my writing, and for using incorrect spelling and grammar. I also want to fix this aspect [of my writing], but I’m not that well-educated, so even though it’s embarrassing, I hope you’ll understand… I also admit I acted like a sly fox… I’m really sorry…

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[Nev Schulman]

What she did was wrong and if she's sincere I hope she understands the situation. The guy is a scum and I hope he repents. I also hope the ex girlfriend in the story is doing okay since she's the biggest victim of it all. Mina constantly saying she's the perpetrator and then insulting and degrading herself tells me she's still in a bad place mentally. 

She needs to delete instagram and not be active on social media. She also needs to refrain from being in a relationship until her mental health condition has actually improved. It will be hard for her to leave social media so I hope the people around her keep encouraging her to not post anymore for the sake of her sanity.

[Danee Danee]

Seriously... Mina is never at fault, she is always a victim and all the blame goes always to others. Always. 

It was all the boys fault, she contacted him first asking for erotic art, but yeah. He did all the wrong. And the way how she blamed the girl and her father was the fathers fault for writing the message in a way she misunderstood. And the way she dragged AOA members (others then Jimin) was just mistranslation by media. And how she rejected police investigation was her mothers fault. And everything else wrong with her life is obviously Jimin's fault. 

Edited July 5, 2021 by Danee Danee

[jello-kitty88]

I'm not sure I feel the sincerity of the apology, given that Mina seems to genuinely believe she is 100% the victim in any and all situations right now.

That said, I could be wrong. Anyway, the best thing she could and should be doing for herself right now is staying off social media and actually going and getting the mental help she clearly needs. 

[deobizone]

How is she a perpetrator? Smh I said on thread about this more precisely, but simply it's the cheaters fault always, not who they persue. Good on her from dumping him bc he's clearly a pos

[Elscian]

I'll say something I refrained from saying before due to minas health. If she really cared for her father, jimin telling her to stop crying could never have stopped her from visiting him in his last moments.  Its understandable, you chose your drama schedule over visiting him in an important time,  and so you have regrets.  But it cannot be all on jimin,  how does she overpower your father's dying wishes to see you? Im sorry this sounds harsh,  but blaming someone for something this big was also harsh, especially when it was revealed that you were even given rides to the hospital. And if you cared for the girlfriend's feelings,  you would not have spoken to her that badly knowing that you cheated,  even if it's because you thought she was in bad terms with Yoo. If it you were the one being cheated on instead, it would have been 50 shades of wrong that's for sure. I'm sorry that my post was really harsh,  but constantly using your mental condition to put others in the wrong and put yourself up doesn't sit right with me. I'm fed up of all these media portrayal  of mental conditions constantly letting you get away with things. The others can't even defend themselves thinking about your condition. I hope she will stay off the internet and get help from a counsellor 

[felidae]

She really should have stop using social media and get proper, better help.

[Elscian]

9 minutes ago, deobizone said:

How is she a perpetrator? Smh I said on thread about this more precisely, but simply it's the cheaters fault always, not who they persue. Good on her from dumping him bc he's clearly a pos

In this statement she changed her words.  Previously she said the relationship was broken up prior to them dating.  Now she said that she was aware that it was cheating but thought that yoo and the girl was in bad terms so she thought it was nothing wrong. Its definitely mostly the guys fault,  but the way she pretended to not even know the gf,  talk to her as if there's no reason for the gf to feel bad, and then block her off when she provided evidence of mina knowing,  is huge red flags of deliberate lying.  Plus she doesn't really think she's the perpetrator anw.

[sakurahanabira]

1 hour ago, Danee Danee said:

Seriously... Mina is never at fault, she is always a victim and all the blame goes always to others. Always. 

It was all the boys fault, she contacted him first acting for erotic art  but yeah. He did all the wrong. And the way how she blamed the girl and her father was the fathers fault for writing the message in a way she misunderstood. And the way she dragged AOA members (others then Jimin) was just mistranslation by media. And how she rejected police investigation was her mothers fault. And everything else wrong with her life is obviously Jimin's fault. 

Is this supposed to be a sarcastic jab at Mina? 

[Ghosty]

idk how to feel. i was looking at other comments and mina apparently made this comment

"I never said with my own mouth that I was bullied (made an outcast), it's just what the articles said. Talking about them at the time was hard and cruel for me but I but I hope all victims, including myself, would not hide and instead come out and speak confidently"

idek what's happening but she needs proper help, like seriously. it's like... i feel immense sympathy for her, but every time she releases a post or video, she opens her mouth again and over steps her boundaries and talks about the aoa members to remove the attention away from her current scandal. like in her ig live just hours ago, what does mentioning "there is a member who really likes sex?" have to do with your situation?

she is addicted to social media and struggling with mental illness, but not a single person in her life is stopping and supporting her. 

Edited July 5, 2021 by Ghosty

[seokii]

I'm past the "she needs help" point I'm more at the "this bitch..." point

Edited July 5, 2021 by seokii
and I'm putting it fucking nicely

[JNT-LEGGO]

At this point I don't even care if Mina's right or wrong or in between or whatever the fuck. I'm just sick of hearing about this girl. Like seriously, enough.

Edited July 5, 2021 by JNT-LEGGO

[Jikrytae]

"Oh, that person?"

How many "persons" do you have, Mina? 

4 hours ago, deobizone said:

How is she a perpetrator? Smh I said on thread about this more precisely, but simply it's the cheaters fault always, not who they persue. Good on her from dumping him bc he's clearly a pos

She knew he was spoken for, she just doesn't want to admit it. Even if he lied to her, it's her fault for being gullible and believing him over his ex. The evidence that they hadn't broken up yet was right there on his social media, as the ex said. 

Edited July 5, 2021 by Jikrytae

[Iljin Oppa]

Another T-ara sich. another girl group ruined cuz of the dumb dumb masses.

 

 

[Blood Orange]

5 hours ago, StanSatan said:

In this statement she changed her words.  Previously she said the relationship was broken up prior to them dating.  Now she said that she was aware that it was cheating but thought that yoo and the girl was in bad terms so she thought it was nothing wrong. Its definitely mostly the guys fault,  but the way she pretended to not even know the gf,  talk to her as if there's no reason for the gf to feel bad, and then block her off when she provided evidence of mina knowing,  is huge red flags of deliberate lying.  Plus she doesn't really think she's the perpetrator anw.

+ she also, for no reason at all, involved the ex’s dad into the situation. she blamed him of threatening her and degrading her, calling her all sorts of names, only to come out and say it didn’t happened. the dad threatened the boyfriend, which is not even uncommon for a dad or even brothers to tell a cheating boyfriend they’re going to kick their ass when they see him, but she wasn’t involved in anything with the dad. I know she’s unwell but people need to stop using that as a reason to not hold her responsible for the things she does. she was purposely trying to paint the ex in a bad light to take the heat away from herself. mental illness is not a shield, a free pass, to do what she has. 

[Locke03]

There's something that she said in her apology note that is coming off as a "red flag" and it makes me question whether her account regarding her experience in AOA is accurate or not. 

What she said about the ex's father...it bugs me. I can't read Korean and I don't know the exact wording of what she wrote in her Instagram, but according to this article, "She also posted on Instagram claiming that A’s father had been contacting her with death threats and had called her a 'prostitute' and a 'slut.'”

In her apology, she wrote that she didn't hear him say the words, but she heard it from others. If what the article stated is true, then why would she claim that the dad say those words to her in her Instagram post since she claimed, afterward, that she heard it from somewhere else? If there wasn't a clarification and if the daughter didn't contact her and posted the text, then people would have assumed that the dad did threaten or call her names. How can she make such a huge mistake? Also, I don't like how she trivialize some of the crimes (rape or beaten by dozen of people) in her apology as not "life or death" situations or doesn't garner extreme fear in others. Just because she felt these things would not elicit extreme fear in her, it doesn't mean it wouldn't elicit extreme fear to others. Just as the dad would use this term because to him, his daughter is extremely precious. 

In my honest opinion, her apology makes me question how much of her recount of AOA is accurate and true. There's no doubt in my mind that there are discord since other members have expressed or hinted there are discords. Also, I do believe that Mina's health, mentally, is not at her best, especially when she has access to the negativity in the Internet. I hope she just gets help...and thank goodness she broke up with the cheater. I won't take side on her situation with AOA since it is so obscured. 

[sakurahanabira]

6 hours ago, Ghosty said:

idk how to feel. i was looking at other comments and mina apparently made this comment

"I never said with my own mouth that I was bullied (made an outcast), it's just what the articles said. Talking about them at the time was hard and cruel for me but I but I hope all victims, including myself, would not hide and instead come out and speak confidently"

idek what's happening but she needs proper help, like seriously. it's like... i feel immense sympathy for her, but every time she releases a post or video, she opens her mouth again and over steps her boundaries and talks about the aoa members to remove the attention away from her current scandal. like in her ig live just hours ago, what does mentioning "there is a member who really likes sex?" have to do with your situation?

she is addicted to social media and struggling with mental illness, but not a single person in her life is stopping and supporting her. 

We don't know if they've tried and have given up on her, especially if she keeps refusing their help. In order for her to receive help, she has to actually want help. But if she keeps pushing the people who are trying to help her away, she's never going to get the help that she needs. And idk about SK but in the US if you're over the age of 18, medical practices can't force you to get treatment without your consent. 

[Danee Danee]

8 hours ago, StanSatan said:

I'll say something I refrained from saying before due to minas health. If she really cared for her father, jimin telling her to stop crying could never have stopped her from visiting him in his last moments.  Its understandable, you chose your drama schedule over visiting him in an important time,  and so you have regrets.  But it cannot be all on jimin,  how does she overpower your father's dying wishes to see you? Im sorry this sounds harsh,  but blaming someone for something this big was also harsh, especially when it was revealed that you were even given rides to the hospital. And if you cared for the girlfriend's feelings,  you would not have spoken to her that badly knowing that you cheated,  even if it's because you thought she was in bad terms with Yoo. If it you were the one being cheated on instead, it would have been 50 shades of wrong that's for sure. I'm sorry that my post was really harsh,  but constantly using your mental condition to put others in the wrong and put yourself up doesn't sit right with me. I'm fed up of all these media portrayal  of mental conditions constantly letting you get away with things. The others can't even defend themselves thinking about your condition. I hope she will stay off the internet and get help from a counsellor 

My dad died of leukemia and I can confirm there was nothing harder in my life then visiting him in hospital and watching him die. Its something really scary to see and tbh I get why she used her work as an excuse  to not go. Sometimes I did the same. But it was always only excuse. If she didn't spend enough time with him during his last moments it was because she was scared, saying it was work is just comfortable lie to make her feel less guilty and temporarily shut the regrets. Which proves (alongside of other things) she doesn't have good therapist but rather just someone who prescribe pills. But on the other hand she looks like someone who isn't ready for therapy - doesn't really look like someone who would be open to listening to someone other.

[Nev Schulman]

37 minutes ago, Danee Danee said:

My dad died of leukemia and I can confirm there was nothing harder in my life then visiting him in hospital and watching him die. Its something really scary to see and tbh I get why she used her work as an excuse  to not go. Sometimes I did the same. But it was always only excuse. If she didn't spend enough time with him during his last moments it was because she was scared, saying it was work is just comfortable lie to make her feel less guilty and temporarily shut the regrets. Which proves (alongside of other things) she doesn't have good therapist but rather just someone who prescribe pills. But on the other hand she looks like someone who isn't ready for therapy - doesn't really look like someone who would be open to listening to someone other.

Sorry you went through that. I am here to say that you are not alone. I had that same experience with a death relative and for the same reason I didn't visit them often. Don't beat yourself over it too much. I hope you are doing well. I understand why and don't be harsh on yourself. May he RIP

[Elscian]

2 hours ago, Danee Danee said:

My dad died of leukemia and I can confirm there was nothing harder in my life then visiting him in hospital and watching him die. Its something really scary to see and tbh I get why she used her work as an excuse  to not go. Sometimes I did the same. But it was always only excuse. If she didn't spend enough time with him during his last moments it was because she was scared, saying it was work is just comfortable lie to make her feel less guilty and temporarily shut the regrets. Which proves (alongside of other things) she doesn't have good therapist but rather just someone who prescribe pills. But on the other hand she looks like someone who isn't ready for therapy - doesn't really look like someone who would be open to listening to someone other.

I'm really sorry to hear that,  and I have to agree with you. It is very scary and heartbreaking,  and many people like myself also like to stay away. Can't imagine what you went through though, but I really hope that you won't keep feeling guilty<3 

Mina as well, this could definitely be the reason, given her condition.  However, saying its because jimin stopped her is hard to believe.  If she had said it was because of work, it would be understandable. Its probably as you said about her therapist and not open to listening. 

Edited July 5, 2021 by StanSatan

[Zhan Rui Sanda]

She accused the girl's father of sending DEATH threats.

It was a LIE and she admitted it.

And all it takes was 1 "I am sowwy"

Is it so easy???

Apparently "yes", cos you have a victim complex.

 

[Brightsun]

I used to feel sympathy for her