ZGirls' Carlyn Is pregnant & will be leaving the group

[Jikrytae]

8 minutes ago, Walmart Goddess said:

that your logic of saying people with opinions on certain countries must also be from said country is INANE. I'd like to see you say this to anyone who has anything to say about the Israel/Palestine situation or North Korea

 

Its called reading.

 

Most people are uninformed about the situations in those places, especially the ones who talk the loudest, so I'd gladly say this to them. I just find it funny that you think you can simply do some reading on another country and suddenly think you have an intimate knowledge of all their social issues, to the point that you can so casually stereotype them like it's nothing. You don't have the full picture unless you've actually lived there and seen how things work firsthand. 

[Walmart Goddess]

3 minutes ago, Jikrytae said:

Most people are uninformed about the situations in those places, especially the ones who talk the loudest, so I'd gladly say this to them. I just find it funny that you think you can simply do some reading on another country and suddenly think you have an intimate knowledge of all their social issues, to the point that you can so casually stereotype them like it's nothing. You don't have the full picture unless you've actually lived there and seen how things work firsthand. 

casually stereotype??? They have the highest birthrate in Southeast Asia. its a statistical fact.

Even filipino media will tell you this themselves. So your whiteknighting is a bit misguided. IDK why you seem emotionally bothered by something that is a widely known fact.

[No1]

6 hours ago, KentasGlittery EyeMakeup said:

I personally don't want to go through a pregnancy myself, nor do I want to have children. I haven't said a word about keeping the baby. I'm pro choice. She can give birth to the baby or she could have an abortion. She could give the child up for adoption. She can do whatever she wants and I'd feel the same about it - that none of us have the right to decide for her whether that is throwing her life away or not.

In a perfect world, yes. It would be, "Oh I'm having a surprise baby, yay!", but it's not. I don't necessarily disagree with what you said, but it's very idealistic. Reality is grim though, and IMO, it's better to accept the hardships of life than dream about a fantastical world were everything would resolve with positivity and hard work.

Edited June 17, 2021 by No1
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[Mrs. Morale]

7 hours ago, No1 said:

Old fashioned? The old fashioned thing to say and do is keeping the kid and smile and pretend to be happy because it’s a “blessing”.

 

No, havinga kid is not all that it’s pegged out to be, pregnancy can destroy a woman’s body, and then she’s obligated to raise a person for at least 18 to 20 years IF they manage to be financially stable, are not sick in any way and a myriad of different things. Don’t pretend women in Asian countries aren’t forced to quit everything that makes them a person to look after their child; no job, no extra income, less or no personality for their own, no time, but a hell of a lot more work...yeah...sounds like a hoot.

I can tell you of the many women who regret having children. And before you go the predictable way, note I said regret, not that the don’t love their children. But it is a taboo thing to even think that in the first place, much less say it, so they bury it and pretend everything is all dandy when it’s not. 

That’s why I said I hoped this is a planned pregnancy, because if it’s not, all the time she worked her ass off to become an idol wasted, her aspirations gone just like that.

Normalizing not wanting children and aborting unwanted pregnancies must be the thing to do, especially in this day and age where raising a child is becoming increasingly difficult for the majority of the lower to mid class, but too many are concerned with policing what a woman must do and even think.

It reminded me of one of my former classmates. We graduated together but she was a few years older than me. She was 20 & I was 17. She gave birth one year after graduating from high school. I remember during her pregnancy she made some very alarming posts on social media; cursing at her baby's daddy, depressing self-hate, etc. Ofc we reached out to her, asked if she was okay. None of us knew where she lived, so we had to contract her by social media. She never replied; she came back few weeks after. She still never replied to us, but we assumed that she was okay. After she gave birth, she "seemed" happy. Making a lot of post about her babies & how they were a blessings, etc. We congratulated her on her safe birth.

Few weeks ago, I posted on my status that I don't want to have kids. Out of all the 14 people that viewed my status guess who got upset? Yes, her; the only one in my contract that had a kid. She was trying to convince me to have children, saying they were a blessing, etc - to who, me or her? I told I still don't want to have children, she then insulted me, "SEX IS GOOD, I'M GOING TO ASSUME IT'S BECAUSE YOU'RE VIRGIN THAT’S U DON'T UNDERSTAND", "WHEN U HAVE SEX IT WILL ALL CHANGE YOUR MIND".....Uhm, okay, I still don't believe anything will change my mind. I'm no way suitable to be a mother to anyone.

It still upset me that she would say. Sometimes, I find her posts about her babies to be pretentious. 

[My Everything]

I was wondering why this thread was getting so much action for a nugu group LMFAOO