how do you cope/deal with people treating you badly/rudely?

[afterschoolappreciate]

for me i always try to be nice to everyone, yes, i do believe that if you are good to others, others will be good to you.

but it doesn't always go that way, there are always encounters and interactions with rude, mean, inconsiderate people.

you can try to avoid it, you can try to be safe and protect yourself from it, but in the end you will still have to go through it.

it gets frustrating because wouldn't it be great if the world treats you as nicely as you treat it?

it really triggers me though, i ruminate over revenge, i obsess with anger and rage.

fellow OHers how do you cope? what do you do when you face experiences like these?

[Mrs. Morale]

I'll ignored it. Why should I let other people opinion bother me? I didn't have anybody before & I don't need nobody now.

 

And why would they treat me badly when I don't even talk nor interact with people and normally try to stay out of people's way If they do treat me badly, I'll be more confused why they're even mad at me 

Edited March 27, 2021 by loveablejoy

[afterschoolappreciate]

2 minutes ago, loveablejoy said:

I'll ignored it. Why should let your opinion bother me? I didn't have anybody before & I don't need nobody now.

 

And why would they treat me badly when I don't even talk nor interact with people and normally try to stay out of people's way If they do treat me badly, I'll be more confused why they're even mad at me....

hey, you have us here in OH to support you.

i should stay out of people's way more, maybe because i like interacting with people too much. i don't like being on my own, and because of that i like meeting people.

but thanks for the feedback. good luck to the both of us.

[felidae]

Sometimes people would be ashamed if we treat their rudeness with kindness, but assholes aren't rare.

It doesn't help if they are the people we meet often lol. If in their rare days they seek my existence in a nice way, I'd give it back. If they don't, I'd mostly ignore them but sometimes my petty self would bite back. Funny thing is when I do, they are the victim. Some people would buy it and hurl nasty words at me, some people would offer me high5 bc they know why I did that.

[No1]

If it's just one asshole being rude, I ignore them or laugh them off, but I'm pretty confrontional, so if someone gets on my face, I"m more than willing to fight if it gets to it.

 

[Hizu]

If they're just a bit unpleasant I'll be subtly passive-aggressive, but nice enough that it won't be noticeable, until they either start either being nice or rude.
When they're straight up rude I'll politely tell them to go fck themselves and ignore them until they disappear from my sight.
I'm so good at ignoring people it feels like an art form. I perfected it from "subtly ignore so that people can tell I'd rather not talk to them but it's not blatant" to "ignore their whole existence in a way that's so obvious that there's no way to mistake it for something else".

[harumaki]

I try to ignore it but I always end up overthinking about it later. Just think about something else and forget about it.

[johnnyrose]

turn it into self-hatred.

[RiseLikeACrowTit]

4 hours ago, afterschoolappreciate said:

for me i always try to be nice to everyone, yes, i do believe that if you are good to others, others will be good to you.

but it doesn't always go that way, there are always encounters and interactions with rude, mean, inconsiderate people.

you can try to avoid it, you can try to be safe and protect yourself from it, but in the end you will still have to go through it.

it gets frustrating because wouldn't it be great if the world treats you as nicely as you treat it?

it really triggers me though, i ruminate over revenge, i obsess with anger and rage.

fellow OHers how do you cope? what do you do when you face experiences like these?

One Psychologist unveiled this for me, for life: ask the person being agressive to you how is her/his day, if everything is ok; it disarm them, let them talk/bleed, works everytime....but if for some reason it don't work i'll treat them with the most upmost cold distant respect, like you would do with an snake

[Bel.]

As a long time leagues of legends player, nothing phase me anymore. I was getting personally attacked at first, but then I realized those people are the problem not me. I don't have to feel bad for their behaviour.

[Anii]

Whenever someone is rude to me, I watch a lot of funny videos to make myself happy so I don't focus on the negative stuff.

[hahalol]

revenge

 

screwing

[Solfa]

How old are you?

[afterschoolappreciate]

12 minutes ago, Solfa said:

How old are you?

Hello, I’m 24

[Solfa]

2 hours ago, afterschoolappreciate said:

Hello, I’m 24

I thought you were younger. People are usually shits when teenagers for example. 

At your age, it’s best to simply ignore and move on. Focus on your studies if you haven’t graduated yet. Or look for a job, though it’s extremely difficult now 

If you are unable to just live and let live, no matter how much you try, seek professional help. It’s possible your brain isn’t processing emotions well because the chemistry has gotten fucky. I have a friend who was like that. We are prescribed the same medication, but I had different symptoms.

Edited March 30, 2021 by Solfa

[Elscian]

Ngl, I be rude to them too

[schue]

I'd try to confront them.

[Youahaen]

I would ignore them at first but if this continues to happen then we need to talk. If there seem to be no solution, if push comes to shove, then and eye for an eye or I'd probaby record proofs (videos) of their rudeness/bad treatment and post them on social media to expose them.

[deobizone]

In my head I write a speech bodying them like "this what I'll do next time"

Next time..I just cry and contemplate killing myself

[Seja]

Leave.  I don’t want to waste more times with those kind of people.