sensitive content [Knetizen+NB] Former AOA member Kwon Mina reveals she was s*xually assaulted by a male celebrity during middle school + Shin Jimin hasn’t apologized to her yet

[KentasGlittery EyeMakeup]

source: Former AOA member Kwon Mina reveals she was s*xually assaulted by a male celebrity during middle school + Shin Jimin hasn’t apologized to her yet

 

Former AOA member Kwon Mina revealed she was s*xually assaulted by a male celebrity during her middle school days. But he apologized and she forgave him

Jimin and Seolhyun have yet to apologize to Mina

original post: theqoo

1. Haven’t Jimin and Seolhyun apologized to her yet???

2. I really don’t want to see Seolhyun anymore

3. So you were s*xually assaulted in the past, but the perpetrator apologized and you forgave, and in case 2, Jimin and Seolhyun have yet to apologize..

4. She means they haven’t properly apologized to her yet…

5. I wish I never saw Jimin and Seolhyun on TV in my life

6. I’m not talking about Seolhyun, but Jimin didn’t apologize = Only Han Sung Ho apologized

7. Am I the only one curious about that male celebrity? He should be put in jail

8. Jimin and Seolhyun are so shameless.. Before you become a celebrity, you must have a good personality

9. When will Jimin and Seolhyun apologize to Mina?

10. She never even talked about Seolhyun’s apology, why did you mention Seolhyun in the post?

 

source: Kwon Mina reveals she was sexually assaulted in school by someone currently famous

Article: Kwon Mina, "S*xually assaulted in school... famous enough to name"

Source: Donga Ilbo via Naver

1. [+337, -3] Reveal who it is. If you see trash in the street, pick it up and throw it away. You shouldn't avoid it just because it's dirty. Kwon Mina, find strength. The public will help you. Please muster your bravery. Trust that this country has more people fighting for justice than not.

2. [+168, -5] It hasn't been long since we've been able to reach a society where we could confess to something like this. She has nothing to lose, and I'm sure she hopes to treat her past wounds through action. I support her... I trust that she can find happiness. I hope that she fights this with strength and that she loves herself enough to overcome it.

3. [+140, -1] Mina-ya... please overcome this... and come back ♡

4. [+130, -1] Reveal who this person is, someone who has the audacity to work as a celebrity after assaulting someone. Don't let him get away with fooling his fans.

5. [+55, -3] Find strength and keep living with bravery. I will pray that you only have happiness and flower paths in your way. I support you~!

6. [+27, -0] She should be allowed to reveal his name

7. [+16, -0] We as a society need to allow victims to be brave enough to reveal their pain to us so that we can accept them warmly without bias

8. [+14, -0] Kwon Mina-ssi... you need to reveal his name so that more victims aren't put in harm's way... actually, there might already be so many more victims aside from just you, Mina-ssi. You were brave enough to take the first step. This is nothing to be embarrassed of. You must be brave enough to reveal him now.

 

[lighterxx]

Maybe i will get negged but i am concerned she told us this in a way to say Jimin didnt apologize, it made me worry for her mental state so I hope she has someone close to her taking care of her. 

[Mrs. Morale]

5 hours ago, KentasGlittery EyeMakeup said:

Haven’t Jimin and Seolhyun apologized to her yet???

Why Seolhyun have to apologize!?

Edit: Y'all acting as if Seolhyun was only bystander. The other members did not neither expect for Yuna. 

Seolhyun wasn't the one who bullied her.

Edited March 8, 2021 by loveablejoy

[Charlene]

1 hour ago, loveablejoy said:

Why Seolhyun have to apologize!?

Because she was watching Mina being bullied for years and she said nothing. 

[Aphrodisiac]

Mina has been through hell almost her entire life. I hope she gets the help she really needs.

[Jikrytae]

1 hour ago, Charlene said:

Because she was watching Mina being bullied for years and she said nothing. 

Unless something was said more recently, we don't actually know the extent of Seolhyun's involvement or even knowledge of the situation with Jimin, we only have Mina's insinuations of guilt. But she's mainly gone after Jimin. Speaking of which, if she brought this up only to contrast an apologetic assaulter with unapologetic Jimin... big yikes. Who accepts an apology from a sexual assaulter anyway?  Even if Jimin hurt her, she can't allow herself to go off the deep end obsessing over her like that. It's not healthy. She already got a sort of revenge. She shouldn't go seeking another insincere apology. It won't help. Neither will downplaying an assault just to get back at Jimin, if that's in fact what she's doing. That would be irresponsible in multiple ways.

Edited March 8, 2021 by Jikrytae

[Mrs. Morale]

2 hours ago, Charlene said:

Because she was watching Mina being bullied for years and she said nothing. 

But she wasn't the only one. What about the other members? From what Mina stated only Yuna stood up for her.

[Charlene]

1 hour ago, Jikrytae said:

Unless something was said more recently, we don't actually know the extent of Seolhyun's involvement or even knowledge of the situation with Jimin, we only have Mina's insinuations of guilt. But she's mainly gone after Jimin. Speaking of which, if she brought this up only to contrast an apologetic assaulter with unapologetic Jimin... big yikes. Who accepts an apology from a sexual assaulter anyway?  Even if Jimin hurt her, she can't allow herself to go off the deep end obsessing over her like that. It's not healthy. She already got a sort of revenge. She shouldn't go seeking another insincere apology. It won't help. Neither will downplaying an assault just to get back at Jimin, if that's in fact what she's doing. That would be irresponsible in multiple ways.

Didn't people drag you enough for this yesterday? Can you stop?

[Jikrytae]

59 minutes ago, Charlene said:

Didn't people drag you enough for this yesterday? Can you stop?

I could "stop," but I'm not going to. If you don't have a valid response to anything I've said, don't say anything. 

[Ludo]

13 hours ago, lighterxx said:

Maybe i will get negged but i am concerned she told us this in a way to say Jimin didnt apologize, it made me worry for her mental state so I hope she has someone close to her taking care of her. 

I'm not gonna lie this rub me the wrong way too...

[YooJeong]

12 hours ago, Jikrytae said:

I could "stop," but I'm not going to. If you don't have a valid response to anything I've said, don't say anything. 

ok, you saying "who forgives a sexual assaulter anyway" is messed up in SO many levels.

1) Your statement implies that Mina's response to her own trauma is weird or wrong, as if her choosing to forgive is "wrong" or weird.. You're painting her negatively for choosing to forgive. Forgiveness is her way to heal and cope from the trauma. There are no "rules" for what's right or wrong.

2) Her forgiving him doesn't make the assault any less traumatic and terrible, it means this was her way to survive and overcome a traumatic experience. Forgiveness can be healing for a a lot of survivors, not all, and it's extremely rude and invalidating that you paint her negatively/insinuate there was something "wrong" with her response. It's her response to her trauma, there's nothing wrong or odd about it. Everyone copes differently. 

3) You focusing on Mina's forgiveness of her assaulter rather than on the terrible fact that she was bullied and assaulted is concerning and indicates your priority is focusing on painting Mina negatively rather than supporting someone who clearly had a lot of trauma and hell during her days as an idol. 

4) Seolhyun and every AOA member who watched and knew about the bullying needs to apologize. Being a bystander is another form of bullying. People are mentioning Seolhyun specifically bc she;'s most famous + she's Jimin's best friend/"soulmate." But every member who was a bystander should apologize and it seems most members did at some point except Seolhyun, so...

 

[lighterxx]

6 hours ago, Ludo said:

I'm not gonna lie this rub me the wrong way too...

Rather than wrongway, this is not a typical behaviour someone in good mental health to show, it tells me her brain really has a some defense mechanism so she won't feel impact of sexual assault, which in general is a bad sign. It is kind of expected I guess but I am absolutely baffled how no doctor tried to help her considering this happened years ago... People have different styles to cope with a trauma, but her actions tells me she is not aware of some things? It's different to accept sexual assault and cope with it compared to give it as an example of a good behaviour. 

Edited March 9, 2021 by lighterxx

[A Hamster Named Loneliness]

https://www.koreaboo.com/news/former-aoa-member-kwon-mina-clarifies-person-sexually-assaulted-not-celebrity/

I'm confused, first she says the man who assaulted her was a celebrity, now she's saying he wasn't a celebrity? Unless, as someone on reddit put it, she meant "celebrity" as in he was locally well known. 

[Jikrytae]

4 hours ago, YooJeong said:

ok, you saying "who forgives a sexual assaulter anyway" is messed up in SO many levels.

1) Your statement implies that Mina's response to her own trauma is weird or wrong, as if her choosing to forgive is "wrong" or weird.. You're painting her negatively for choosing to forgive. Forgiveness is her way to heal and cope from the trauma. There are no "rules" for what's right or wrong.

2) Her forgiving him doesn't make the assault any less traumatic and terrible, it means this was her way to survive and overcome a traumatic experience. Forgiveness can be healing for a a lot of survivors, not all, and it's extremely rude and invalidating that you paint her negatively/insinuate there was something "wrong" with her response. It's her response to her trauma, there's nothing wrong or odd about it. Everyone copes differently. 

Unless she's exaggerating what this person did, It is weird to simply forgive them. Very weird. And I know you secretly realize this, you just want to be PC too desperately to admit it. Couldn't be me. It's okay to be truthful. No one will wag their finger at you disapprovingly, I promise. 

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3) You focusing on Mina's forgiveness of her assaulter rather than on the terrible fact that she was bullied and assaulted is concerning and indicates your priority is focusing on painting Mina negatively rather than supporting someone who clearly had a lot of trauma and hell during her days as an idol. 

4) Seolhyun and every AOA member who watched and knew about the bullying needs to apologize. Being a bystander is another form of bullying. People are mentioning Seolhyun specifically bc she;'s most famous + she's Jimin's best friend/"soulmate." But every member who was a bystander should apologize and it seems most members did at some point except Seolhyun, so...

 

I don't have a priority of "painting Mina negatively." I'm "painting" Mina objectively, using the facts presented to me. Am I supposed just sit here and pretend it's okay that Mina apparently wants so badly to make Jimin out to be the devil incarnate that she's even willing to go as far as comparing a rapist to her, favorably even!? Just because she hasn't apologized and he did? Because I'm not going to do that, and neither should you. Even verbal bullying isn't okay, and emotional torment can be very damaging in its own way, but they're simply NOT comparable offenses. 

While I don't doubt that Jimin was mean to Mina and caused her emotional strife, it's clear as day that Mina is in her own head. She's mentally unstable and is still focusing on what Jimin did to her instead of earnestly trying to start the healing process, even after enacting her revenge (because that's clearly something she wanted.) She may even be subconsciously assigning blame to Jimin for damage caused by things other people did to her. You preach about the healing value of forgiveness, but you don't find it at all peculiar that she's inexplicably willing to forgive a rapist, but she's unwilling to let go of this grudge with Jimin for the sake of her own well-being? Dwelling on the past won't help her, searching for another insincere apology won't help her, and normalizing sexual assault for the sake of getting back at Jimin, or anyone else she feels has wronged her, won't help anyone. Period. 

We don't know what the other members of AOA saw or knew. We just don't. So there's little point in speculating, unless of course you're needlessly out for blood. 

Edited March 9, 2021 by Jikrytae

[Ludo]

2 hours ago, lighterxx said:

Rather than wrongway, this is not a typical behaviour someone in good mental health to show, it tells me her brain really has a some defense mechanism so she won't feel impact of sexual assault, which in general is a bad sign. It is kind of expected I guess but I am absolutely baffled how no doctor tried to help her considering this happened years ago... People have different styles to cope with a trauma, but her actions tells me she is not aware of some things? It's different to accept sexual assault and cope with it compared to give it as an example of a good behaviour. 

Well actually we more or less think the same thing, i realise that my wording would have sounded wrong in my native language too

Sorry i did not intent to critize her

[lighterxx]

10 minutes ago, Ludo said:

Well actually we more or less think the same thing, i realise that my wording would have sounded wrong in my native language too

Sorry i did not intent to critize her

nahh its ok i did understand what you meant i think someone else didnt really understand rip but its ok, dont worry 

[Elscian]

Woah, ngl I'm shocked she forgave him

I think jimin's career is already destroyed so she doesn't want to apologise.  There is little point in expecting an apology from her

[rowe]

I feel bad for her. She went through so much.

[Youahaen]

Poor Mina

[Mami3chan]

On 3/8/2021 at 5:55 PM, Jikrytae said:

I could "stop," but I'm not going to. If you don't have a valid response to anything I've said, don't say anything. 

if you don't have anything worthwhile to say besides trying to victim blame Mina don't say anything. 

[Jikrytae]

14 hours ago, Mami3chan said:

if you don't have anything worthwhile to say besides trying to victim blame Mina don't say anything. 

Too late. I've already said a lot in this thread, everything I need to say on this topic, and you've chosen to self-righteously dismiss all of it as mere "victim blaming" with a single-sentence response instead of actually addressing any of my points. I guess you're the one with nothing worthwhile to say. 

Edited March 12, 2021 by Jikrytae

[Mami3chan]

3 hours ago, Jikrytae said:

Too late. I've already said a lot in this thread, everything I need to say on this topic, and you've chosen to self-righteously dismiss all of it as mere "victim blaming" with a single-sentence response instead of actually addressing any of my points. I guess you're the one with nothing worthwhile to say. 

nah I did read multiple of your posts and I read behind the lines so my point stands still and you can go on trying to redeem yourself lol

#don'tsayanything

Edited March 12, 2021 by Mami3chan

[Jikrytae]

21 minutes ago, Mami3chan said:

nah I did read multiple of your posts and I read behind the lines so my point stands still and you can go on trying to redeem yourself lol

#don'tsayanything

If you want a point that stands, you should maybe try making one first. You're only proving me right. Composing these snarky yet completely pointless responses is just as much a waste of your time as it is everyone else's to read them.

[Mami3chan]

3 hours ago, Jikrytae said:

If you want a point that stands, you should maybe try making one first. You're only proving me right. Composing these snarky yet completely pointless responses is just as much a waste of your time as it is everyone else's to read them.

your whole argument is pointless and a waste of time that's why I don't even bother explaining you shit cause others did already it's like speaking to a damn wall cause your brain can't practice thinking 

Edited March 12, 2021 by Mami3chan

[Jikrytae]

1 hour ago, Mami3chan said:

your whole argument is pointless and a waste of time that's why I don't even bother explaining you shit cause others did already it's like speaking to a damn wall cause your brain can't practice thinking 

I'm sure this is all going much better in your own head.