Where do some women get this idea from?

[Mrs. Morale]

I don't know about any other country but in my country is something that happens constantly. Some women might agree, some might disagree. That's y'all opinions.

Disclaimer: This no way or form to.make fun of or hate on women who chooses to to these things.

Okay, I wonder why is that when a man & a woman start dating, then few months later & they move in together. The immediate reaction is for the women to take on all chores, as in the men does nothing at all. Yes, he might work but that doesn't change that he can help around the house. It's understandable if the man was the only one working & the woman was a stay home mom but with no kids or with kids. There is nothing work being a stay at home mom. I don't care if the woman is a stay at home mom. My problem is that it's the immediate reaction for the woman do all chores; she should wash all the dishes, cook, clean, wash her & his clothes, etc.

I view relationships as a Parntership, you take care your shit & I'll take care of mine or we will divide the work. I'm not say that a woman shouldn't help her man especially when he needs her. But she's not a Maid, she can't work Monday to Friday & then comes home & take of the home all by herself. Help her! I could understand if the man was the only one working & woman would be at home all day but even then you can still help around the house. 

Some women literally walk & clean after men. No, I would have gotten so angry. I can't do that. Sorry about this, but I see a couple they both work from Monday to Friday, and the woman does all the house work. I'm confuse she wash their clothes every week, I have never seen him help her at all, not even clean off the stove, not even cook. I'm sure she would might to get some help.

This thing has become so system that everyone is expected to react like this. And even when they don't even live together this happens, "I'm going to boyfriend's house to wash & come back". No, no, no. He has 2 hands just like you.

I think is a cultural thing in my country tbh, I always hear that I wouldn't able to take care of my husband such as wash, cook,  clean, etc. And is he going take if me as wash, cook, clean for me too? I was not born nor create to take care men. If he wants my help with something, sure I can lend a hand but ain't going to be doing everything for him.

I ain't doing it at my own house, I ain't going no where to do it.

Where & how some women convinced themselves that they have to do it? Like some of them don't even question it, they just do it.

What y'all think? Is this a cultural thing in your country too?

 

I apologize if you can't understand me properly. There were some words I couldn't get right.

Edited February 28, 2021 by loveablejoy