The bully accusations against Hwang Hyunjin: Am I going crazy?~

[Mrs. Morale]

These my thoughts for the last few days...my thoughts currently has change but I'll post that later...

Okay, so many of you might know Hyunjin is one of my utls. I love him with all my heart. When I 1st heard about his bully accusation was few weeks after I started liking him, I didn't really care about because at that point the rumours were deducted. But now, few days ago new accusations were popping up. When I saw these accusations, I thought they were the same as before. But it wasn't & when I realized this I became very ignorant. I even refuse on reading the victim statement. I have now read the victim statement, I guess I tried to avoid it at 1st because I wouldn't acknowledge what he did. I have come up with 2 types of Hyunjin, this is no way to make excuses or anything as such...

Type 1: The old Hyunjin

This is the Hyunjin from 7-8 years, the bully Hyunjin. I believe he was a piece of shit. Hyunjin is the type that will pick on a person but will regret it later. He's major crybaby, instead apologizing because he knows he is wrong but because of his ego & pride, he won't apologize & go home to cry about. I remember his fight with Han & how he cried  after. I think he cried after that fight because he knew what he said was inappropriate but because pride he just can't apologize. I think this the old Hyunjin, a pride & egotistic piece shit, who rather cry than apologize~

 

Type 2: The new Hyunjin 

I think the new Hyunjin has calm down & not as egotistic as before. I think started to calm down after becoming trainee & realizing the work he has to put in to debut. He said he wasn't good at anything when he enter JYPE & he was offend put down for it. So from a bully to being bullied, not really but kinda. I believe he has change. He's is not going to be  12 forever.

 

I'm begging you please leaving him alone, I can't- you can criticize him but please don't be mean. Even if he was in the past. I have decided that I won't let this mess up my day. I'm going to try & calm down. It's going to my birthday in 5 hours & I don't want this to be apart my day. I have been very angry, sad, heartbroken, etc because of this. I know am taking this too seriously but I just want him to be okay•~

 

AM I GOING CRAZY!?~

It's just he has become such a huge part of my life & this is taking a toll on me....

 

Always & forever be with him~ ❤

Edited February 27, 2021 by loveablejoy
My heart can't take it~

[rananicolee]

My little advice is to not get emotionally attached to your favorite celebrity and that goes for anyone. I was a child and was so emotionally invested in BSB to the point I cried my eyes out and was so angry that AJ was engaged. I learned my lesson even as a child that is not normal. 

We all have our faves. I have mine (GD, Jay, Donghae, Heechul, TOP etc.) but I always keep in mind that I do not know these people. What they do or did in the past is on them and not on me to be upset about. Yes, I will clarify if need be but. if it's something like TOP smoking weed illegally, I'll call him out. 

I think you need to take a break and get back to realizing that you can love him but as a celebrity. You can love a celebrity. I love Slipknot but for their music and not them as people. I shake my head at stupid things Corey Taylor says. I laughed at Mick for fighting his brother and getting stabbed by his brother. Well, I shouldn't have laughed but I won't put my emotions into what they do. If they pass, that's a different story though. 

Yes defend him when something false comes up but don't use your emotions and your energy getting upset because of something he  did. That is on him and his conscious. Not yours. As long as you acknowledge he was in the wrong and don't use your time being angry over this. I know it hurts but taking a break and detaching from the parasocial relationship with your fave then  you'll start feeling like you again. 

[angy]

Happy birthday girl 

You're not going crazy but breath for a bit kek, you're pretty overwhelmed with what's going on so you better get out of social media and distract yourself with something else oof, or even better and delete them accounts. It's easy to cancel or defend celebrities over scandals that we don't know the full story of, and put them in boxes with the words "unproblematic for now" and "trash/cancelled" and that's fucked up, really, social media is toxic, get out of there

Irl there's a lot of shitty cunts who did nothing wrong and total sweethearts who did a lot of fucked up stuff. I used to hang around with clean people with clean pasts to learn that they were some of the most toxic to hang around with. On the other hand, found comfort with people who learned from their past mistakes and matured to be super fun to talk with. If anything, idols responses to controversies are the most telling of their current selves. That's my issue with chanyeol and why i'm fine with hyunjin

Stan whoever you want tbh, if you don't feel wrong doing it, don't stress over it. We don't know them afterall

[felidae]

I think you should get off of the internet/kpop related for a few days.

[Hizu]

37 minutes ago, Angy said:

That's my issue with chanyeol and why i'm fine with hyunjin

I want to kiss you.

[angy]

13 minutes ago, Hizu said:

I want to kiss you.

*baek and sehun on a sofa doing questionable things on exo next door. Gif* 

[dream thief]

You really should take a break from Kpop and see what's important in life, because some random Idols are not.

Those Idols are trained to be the perfect human being and it's easy for young people to fall for it. But reality looks different, even Idols are humans who make terrible mistakes sometimes. But it's not your job to feel bad for him and to defend him. That's his responsibility to grow from his mistakes.

 

If you are so 'obsessed' with an Idol that it takes a toll on you, then you need to take several steps back. 

 

 

[STORM BLOOM]

Read a book, watch Winx Club, take a breather cause obessesing over some Idol you barely don't know is not it hunny 

[Shalnark]

It's healthier not to be so attached to celebrities, try to keep an emotional distance from them and it will be better for your emotional and mental health. You are not responsible for the actions of someone else, but once you become emotion invested in them it's easy to start feeling guilt about it and harsh emotions, pain because of what they are going through.

Have a happy birthday and I hope you get through this

[himi]

you should take a break from kpop for a while. it's unhealthy to love an idol to that extent. of course we have our favorites. i have mine too. but you can love them for who they are/their music while still acknowledging their fault. 

[Guest]

I really love the encouraging posts around here. I agree with eveeryone, u should take a break. This is something i should do too. I got into stray kids not too long ago too, and my bias is felix. I still wanna support the guys, but i realize i dont wanna input my feelings in this scandal anymore. Imma try and block some sites. There are people who spread fake infos about the situation and there are people who excuse everything without looking at the facts. I dont wanna stand on either side. I believe in acknowledging mistakes and learning from it. As the others said, try and turn down twitter or other new platforms and concetrate on irl things. This way it may not affect u emotionally as much.