Mrs. Morale 5,121 Posted September 4, 2020 Share Posted September 4, 2020 (edited) Alright. Here is the full thing. So 2 weeks ago I saw my cousins at the supermarket, they were at the end of the lisle. I saw them & they saw me. Let's call them Kay & Tai. I saw Kay whisper something to Tai, then Tai walked over to me. Tai asked me if I was going up (for school). I wasn't planning on going up as my classes will online & I would be alone since I don't have friends, so I was very scared to go to the city & be alone. So, I said "no". She asked "why", I said "all my classes will be online". She said "okay" & walked off. I know they orginally asked because they wanted a ride with me to go up since my father has a bus, but it may not be that case, idk. Wednesday morning (2 days ago) Tai's mom (let's call her Zoe) came to me & said that Tai had found a house for all us to stay togethe & that Tai came to my sister (Pat) about this but my sister said that Tai did not say anything to her. I was obviously interested in all this as I will have someone to keep my company So I texted Tai about this. She replied but she didn't answer the question. So in the night texted her back about it, she didn't replied. Thrusday morning when I woke up I realized that she didn't read my message still but she had updated her status. Which annoyed me because she have to see my messages. Friday (this morning) she texted me "Hey", I replied with "Hey". She didn't reply afterwards. A hour after I sent her "Hey", she updated her status. Which again annoyed because I know she saw my message. So I texted 4 hours later, asking her again. She came online, I saw that but she didn't read the message. But I know saw it because i know she's online. It's been 10 hours & no reply but her status is updated. I just don't want to go to the city & be alone. I'm not really close to them. Do you think it's because they don't want to share a house with, I get it I'm little weird. But it's not a hard question, just say "yes or no". Maybe I did something to them? But what's the point of posting on your status & I'm going to see it but not reply to me, knowing have seen her status. Like she texted me in the morning & I replied. But then she completley ghost me, I don't get it why text me if you were going to ghost me?!!! Do you think she's being rude or do you think people who does this is being rude? Sorry, for my english, etc. Edited September 4, 2020 by fullofjoy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bustahjoong 340 Posted September 4, 2020 Share Posted September 4, 2020 You're clearly overthinking. Nobody is obligated to reply to you on a chatting app as soon as you want them to, even if they're online and active. Maybe she's busy with something else, maybe she doesn't feel like talking to anyone, any reasons she may have are valid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs. Morale 5,121 Posted September 4, 2020 Author Share Posted September 4, 2020 (edited) 7 minutes ago, bustahjoong said: You're clearly overthinking. Nobody is obligated to reply to you on a chatting app as soon as you want them to, even if they're online and active. Maybe she's busy with something else, maybe she doesn't feel like talking to anyone, any reasons she may have are valid. I know am overrating. And I know she's not obligated to reply to me but it's yes or no question, all she has to say is "yes or no". Like she's trying to avoid me, & idk why!!!! But what's the point of posting on your status & I'm going to see it but not reply to me, knowing have seen her status. Like she texted me in the morning & i replied. But then she completley ghost me, I don't get it why text me if you were going to ghost me?!!! Edited September 4, 2020 by fullofjoy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reipaca 4,666 Posted September 4, 2020 Share Posted September 4, 2020 I'm typically the type that doesnt like to call out people for not replying or leaving u on seen cause we should just let everyone do what theyre comfortable with but ngl i would be annoyed as well especially since its something urgent you need to decide on and she just needs to say yes or no i dont really know either of you so i cant really judge but yeah she needs to just reply 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
felidae 2,742 Posted September 4, 2020 Share Posted September 4, 2020 (edited) I think she is still undecided, that's why she hasn't answered with clear yes or no. Or it's a "no" but she doesn't want to hurt you explicitly. The way she texted you again without answering your question would piss me off too if I'm in your position. I'm also overthinker so it makes us two. Edit : if the question isn't urgent and important, that's different. But this is, no? Edited September 5, 2020 by felidae 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs. Morale 5,121 Posted September 4, 2020 Author Share Posted September 4, 2020 10 minutes ago, Rei-chama said: I'm typically the type that doesnt like to call out people for not replying or leaving u on seen cause we should just let everyone do what theyre comfortable with but ngl i would be annoyed as well especially since its something urgent you need to decide on and she just needs to say yes or no i dont really know either of you so i cant really judge but yeah she needs to just reply I know she's trying to make up mind but her school starts on Monday, so idk. She has to go up before Monday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
satoori 45,814 Posted September 4, 2020 Share Posted September 4, 2020 6 minutes ago, felidae said: I think she is still undecided, that's why she hasn't answered with clear yes or no. Or it's a "no" but she doesn't want to hurt you explicitly. The way she texted you again without answering your question would piss me off too if I'm in your position. I'm also overthinker so it makes us two. this seems like it's a 'no'. but the person trying to avoid telling the op since their family. i guess they're hoping the op will just forget about it or let it go... 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Siobhan Halo 2,769 Posted September 4, 2020 Share Posted September 4, 2020 Tai's being a bit rude, a place to live is something that needs to be sorted out quickly, you need to know ASAP, she's also lying to her mother and that's not cool. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rananicolee 10,276 Posted September 5, 2020 Share Posted September 5, 2020 Well, I've been learning just because they're on social media posting doesn't mean they want to reply to texts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digiwon 5,843 Posted September 5, 2020 Share Posted September 5, 2020 Kind of. I always feel bad when I do that even when I don't even like the person (for example, a random guy interested in me). It is rude, but I think sometimes it's better just to ignore. Unless it's a close friend and we talk a lot, I feel even worse because that's actually nasty, especially when they're waiting for your response. It depends on the situation though. If I know the other person won't care it's not that bad. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lighterxx 12,204 Posted September 5, 2020 Share Posted September 5, 2020 Don't go if you don't want to sis, you don't need to text her or ask her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jjoyul 164 Posted September 5, 2020 Share Posted September 5, 2020 (edited) . Edited September 6, 2020 by jjoyul 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoUsername 263 Posted September 5, 2020 Share Posted September 5, 2020 Honestly, I understand not wanting to talk to other people and go about your business on social media but this is an important topic about living arrangements... so its kinda rude for her to ignore you after 3 attempts, especially since she's including you in her lie to her mom. Idk if you're comfortable but why not call her or talk to her in person, at least that way she cant ignore you? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JNT-LEGGO 6,380 Posted September 5, 2020 Share Posted September 5, 2020 Not really However if it's an urgent or important message that's a little rude. Also if they're consistently almost habitually ignoring you. Trust me, even though it's online after while you can tell the difference between people who are genuinely less chatty or just busy and people who are being neglectful and disrespectful. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chiharu 1,008 Posted September 5, 2020 Share Posted September 5, 2020 No. Sometimes ppl will message me and I'll take hours to respond to them. Nothing against them, I'm just lazy and can't be bothered. But in this situation, since it's kind of important she shouldn't take too long to reply to you. Though, it's possible she's not responding because she hasn't made up her mind yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imov 1,295 Posted September 5, 2020 Share Posted September 5, 2020 (edited) If that happened to me, I think its natural to wonder why they did not reply. But I won't consider them as a sign of avoidance. Its just that they probably have something that is keeping their hands full. By not replying, there is no confirmation meaning for now its best to assume the answer is a "No". Then just plan with that circumstance. Edited September 5, 2020 by Imov Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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