I feel like I would never become a women.

[Mrs. Morale]

I feel like I would never become a women. I'm 18 years old, entering my second year of college at the end of August. I see other women around my age or women that were at my age & they act more mature then I do. Many it's a fake imagine or may be because I live a different life than them. It seems like most of these women have mature since 16, like literally. I don't know how they do it.

Would I can maturity at age 21 when I'm graduating from college or never? Or do I need friends so that I can grow & mature?

Do you feel like this a weird question? When did you become mature/ a women/ a men? When your mature at 18?

Sorry, for grammar. 

[rananicolee]

Stop comparing yourselves to others, okay? You are you and they are them. Everyone's different. 

[starsocks]

Relatable content.

Everyone grows and matures at different rates though, and nobody in their teens or twenties really feels like a proper adult yet <3

[Nelkoya]

I’m 23 and I still don’t feel like an adult (woman). Still many “adult” things that I don’t know how to do and I just feel like an old teen tbh. 
Everyone grow at their pace so no worry. Enjoy your life without thinking too much about how you should be to society’s standards. Honestly 18yos are still teens so no rush!

[harumaki]

I feel like it's all about pretending, acting mature and actually being mature are different things. Maybe other people see you and think you are more mature than them lol 

I'm 19 and honestly, I still feel like a child, but there is nothing wrong with it, every person has a different way of living and growing up and that's why hoomans are so interesting uwu

[shooter]

i'm certain that a lot more people feel this way than you might think. plenty of those who look mature to you might have the same doubts about themselves. this is actually something a lot of people can relate to.

i'm also 18 and entering my 2nd year of college, i still feel very unprepared to go out into the "real world" once i graduate. but it's okay, none of us are born with experience and wisdom, we're all in the same boat. besides, we just became adults. we have plenty of time to grow into this new stage of our lives so i wouldn't worry too much

[BlessMeAchoo]

Don't worry, I'm 22 and I honestly feel no different from how I did at 18. Just live at your own pace and try not to compare yourself to others. Some people move faster in life and some people move slower and that's okay. I feel like I'll probably feel more 'grown up' once I move out of my parents house and find my own place.

[Mrs. Morale]

1 hour ago, rananicolee said:

Stop comparing yourselves to others, okay? You are you and they are them. Everyone's different. 

 

1 hour ago, choiyujins said:

Relatable content.

Everyone grows and matures at different rates though, and nobody in their teens or twenties really feels like a proper adult yet

 

50 minutes ago, Koya said:

I’m 23 and I still don’t feel like an adult (woman). Still many “adult” things that I don’t know how to do and I just feel like an old teen tbh. 
Everyone grow at their pace so no worry. Enjoy your life without thinking too much about how you should be to society’s standards. Honestly 18yos are still teens so no rush!

 

49 minutes ago, harumaki said:

I feel like it's all about pretending, acting mature and actually being mature are different things. Maybe other people see you and think you are more mature than them lol 

I'm 19 and honestly, I still feel like a child, but there is nothing wrong with it, every person has a different way of living and growing up and that's why hoomans are so interesting uwu

 

31 minutes ago, marlax said:

i'm certain that a lot more people feel this way than you might think. plenty of those who look mature to you might have the same doubts about themselves. this is actually something a lot of people can relate to.

i'm also 18 and entering my 2nd year of college, i still feel very unprepared to go out into the "real world" once i graduate. but it's okay, none of us are born with experience and wisdom, we're all in the same boat. besides, we just became adults. we have plenty of time to grow into this new stage of our lives so i wouldn't worry too much

 

4 minutes ago, BlessMeAchoo said:

Don't worry, I'm 22 and I honestly feel no different from how I did at 18. Just live at your own pace and try not to compare yourself to others. Some people move faster in life and some people move slower and that's okay. I feel like I'll probably feel more 'grown up' once I move out of my parents house and find my own place.

Honestly, all of this made me smile. I feel much better. Thank you!

[angy]

Uh a 18yo is still a teenager, don't let the "legal" word fool you m8, you're not supposed to feel like an adult, but you're supposed to act and be treated like one

The way you feel might change once you become financially independent in your late 20s but who knows, some hags don't feel like adults either 

[Delphine]

I had the exact same feeling when I was 18 years old too, it's... difficult to parse what it means to be a woman, and how to become one, or, sometimes, if you even want to become one. I personally finally came to terms with my womanhood and let it flourish between my 23rd and 25th years, those years were very important for me in terms of development and I learned a lot of things about myself then. It's a journey, and each have their own, it's not a competition and never should be, but I also wholly understand the feeling of lagging behind when you see so many people around you looking like they figured it out and are comfortable. Most of the times though, they're either faking it, or going in blind hoping something sticks.

This is why I related a lot to IU's 23 and IU's Palette. I feel like these songs perfectly encompassed what my mindset was during those times. You feel lost, you feel anxious, you don't know what you're doing, and you don't really know yourself nor what you want to be, nor how to understand and integrate womanhood to yourself, but there's also something exciting about that period, where you can try, stumble and try again differently, slowly but surely to discover who you are and who you want to be.

Sorry for the essay, just know that it's a process, and that you're gonna get through it

 

PS: I'm in my early thirties, but I still don't feel like an adult yet either lmao. But I know myself better for sure, it's a little bit less hectic now than it used to be 10 years ago. Growing up is truly interesting!

Edited August 10, 2020 by Delphine

[Reipaca]

Honestly this whole "once you become an adult you mature" concept is kinda a myth

its not some magical day where you wake up and suddenly you're wiser, stronger, and a mature legend, personally i think its something that happens gradually, you mature over time and with experience
my sister has a child and she is 30 years old and still feels like a child, and 18 aint mature in any way you're technically still a teenager so dont overthink it just let it happen naturally

Edited August 10, 2020 by Rei-chama

[Trashie]

believe me you dont want to mature that fast... take your time

 

I am 20 and i feel like I'm mature but then I'm not really mature.. it sucks lol but I live with myself 

[No1]

Stop comparing yourself to others, that's the first thing. It's normal to feel anxious at that time since it's when you start feeling the brunt of adulthood, but be sure to water your own grass until it turns green intead of being envious of others'. Someone up there put it perfectly, being legal is not necessarily being an adult.

Secondly, and I don't mean this in a condescending way, you're still very young, you have time. As a 30 year old, I can tell you, most of us don't know wtf is going on and just figure it out as we go. You always think you'll have to have your shit together at a certain age like it's some sort of life achievement you have to check off, but it's not like that at all. There are times where I still feel like a 15 year old, the only difference is we have been longer here so we have more experience on how to deal with certain things, but we never stop growing and maturing.

Don't sweat it, who knows...maybe the people around you look at you and think "she really has got her shit together". We're all freaking out in the inside.

[hynapia]

18 is literally just barely legal (and even still minor in certain countries) so it's normal you don't feel like an adult yet. Almost nobody in the 18-22 range feels an adult even though there could be exceptions. I didn't start to feel more adult-ish until 24/25 and even at 26 I still feel fairly young and not 100% adult yet. I think majority of people in their late teens and early or even mid 20s feel like this, because we're in a transitional period where you're no longer a minor but don't have enough life experience and/or responsabilities to feel 100% as a proper adult, but of course that depends on each person too. I have friends that are already got married and started families as early as 22-23 while others at that age are still in college or getting their first "real" jobs.

[KoreaxxLove]

Honestly, slow down (I mean that in a nice way!). Learn to love life at the pace it's going. You'll miss feeling youthful one day. There's no rush! You're incredibly young, and your worth/status as a woman doesn't come from how you feel about others. Chances are, they feel much the same way you do. And even if they don't--it doesn't really matter.

[felidae]

No need to worry and compare yourself with others! Live your life. Do what you want to do. Focus on yourself and people you love. 18 is still considered 'a kid' so you still have some freedom on that. 

I only feel "fully like a responsible adult" when I was graduated from uni. It's different for everyone. I need years because of my sheltered and comfortable life. People only need a year or less. It is normal and okay. So enjoy your life!