Why do people go around looking for "sympathy" with their bodies?

[Mrs. Morale]

We all know that thick is the current body shape / type for this generation. Recently, I realized that many people have been making some weird comments:

"Am so skinny, I can't wait for some thickness"

"Look at me & my skinny body"

"I can't wait for skinny to become the trend again"

"Can people stop skinny-shaming me"

"Thick trend will die & skinny will rise"

 

Most of these girls are even skinny, yes they are slim but not skinny. Like what are they trying to achieve? For people to sympathize & feel bad for them? I don't even see actually skinny people make these comments.

This kinda gets to me tbh. Yes, I'm skinny. People tell me a lot, but when I look at these girls calling themselves skinny (when they are not). Makes me kinda angry. Most of life I have been compare to others girl having "better body" than me.

 

[eli]

i really dont understand why people saying theyre skinny when u think they arent would bother u

[deliriousness]

women's bodies on instagram have distorted our perception of the average body

[Mrs. Morale]

13 minutes ago, eli said:

i really dont understand why people saying theyre skinny when u think they arent would bother u

In my country thick has always been the trend. As a child growing up am normally compared the with the much thicker girls. It make me feel self conscious (until I found kpop & most idols are skinny, it kinda make me feel good about myself). I often force myself to over eat or eat only food with very high calories as a way to gain weight. Idk why these people thinking that being opposite of trend will make cool, when they are actually apart of the trend.

[eli]

2 minutes ago, fullofjoy said:

In my country thick has always been the trend. As a child growing up am normally compared the with the much thicker girls. It make me feel self conscious (until I found kpop & most idols are skinny, it kinda make me feel good about myself). I often force myself to over eat or eat only food with very high calories as a way to gain weight. Idk why these people thinking that being opposite of trend will make cool, when they are actually apart of the trend.

but how r u sure these people dont get the same comments as u for maybe not being super skinny but not thick enough to be "part of the trend"? you say they are slim, they might still feel bad about their body just like you.

[HRH Ayyu]

its a reassurance thing.

Most people probably dont realize they do it. But they want someone to sooth their insecurities.

And sometimes people like to complain to eachother ,its very comment with women in my experience A bonding thing.(im a women)

[BlessMeAchoo]

It's all about perception. What you perceive to be skinny and what someone else perceives as skinny might not be the same. Everyone has their own insecurities even if they have features that might be seen as desirable or ideal for other people. If someone calls themself 'too skinny' perhaps they really think that and would like to be curvier than they are.

TW: Eating disorders

Spoiler

As someone who struggles with an eating disorder myself, I have a warped perception of weight. In the past I got to the point where I wouldn't eat for days and my family would cry and beg me to eat because they were worried I would die. Even though my weight was dangerously low at that point in time my mind was so warped that I considered myself fat. Since then I've been working on recovery and I've learnt not to judge other people's weights because at the end of the day we all have our own troubles and insecurities to deal with. When people make comments about their own bodies don't compare them to yourself. They're talking about their own body and not yours so try not to draw comparisons where they aren't necessary. It's made me so much happier to just focus on myself without comparing myself to other people all the time. If people voice their insecurities to me, rather than judging them or questioning them I try to just be supportive and reassuring.

 

[xiaodery]

sometimes people have problems with how they perceive themselves. i used to be quite thin and everyone told me i was skinny (which isn't even considered good in my country), but i thought i wasn't skinny enough and wanted to lose more weight. i've gained a lot more weight since then, and only now do i realize that my body back then was just fine.

[xiaodery]

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Edited July 12, 2020 by neovelvet
repost bc of bad internet

[Mrs. Morale]

1 hour ago, eli said:

but how r u sure these people dont get the same comments as u for maybe not being super skinny but not thick enough to be "part of the trend"? you say they are slim, they might still feel bad about their body just like you.

That's another problem. As "they" used to force the idea that they were curvy few years back & now they are "skinny" when their weight haven't change.

[Vtzu]

2 feel better abt themselves