Would you slap a child for this reason?

[Mrs. Morale]

Edit: I didn't slap the child, I didn't think it was right; hence the argument. We argued about it but I just had enough & let him have his way. I haven't spoken to the him about it as yet, but even tho it's been weeks, I still think about it. It just rub me in the wrong way. That's why I asked cause I know am not wrong. 

 

(Before I start I'll say this, I'm insecure about my small boobs). Few weeks ago, I volunteered at an basic school. So there was this child that did something to me. I was telling this guy about. So here is what happened with the child:

"I volunteered at the basic school for CSP. Last week Thursday, some of the students were gathered around me. So 1 of the student got bright , & tap my breast.
Little girl: u have nothing there
Me: *look down at her*
Little girl: *tap my boobs again* u have nothing there x4. 
Me: *me slowly dying inside* u know what, all of u go play

5 or so minutes later she came back.
Girl: why u have this on (referring to my bra).... does it hold it (my breast)up.
Me: *shakes my head, yes*
Girl: u still have nothing, why wear it?
Me: *keeps dying on the inside, but smiled anyway*"

 

This guy inquired I should have slap the child, I said no. To be exact he said, "That girl disrespectful, I woulda slap the shit outta her". You know as children growing up, we love/d boobs. Most children feel comfortable play with boobs since most of them suck on boobs or play with boobs.This little is probably use to touch her mom's breast. My cousin loved touch her mom's breast until she grew out of it at age 7. Ps, the little girl is 3-5 years.

But my another problem is, he wants to have children in the future (like 5-8 years time). No, he wants to have a SON in the future, to be exact.

Edited June 25, 2020 by fullofjoy

[Haze]

You definitely don’t do that to a 3-5 year old child. The dude saying he would have done it would be in jail right now.

when kids are at that age it’s the prefect time to patiently explain to them why certain things they do are wrong. They’ll learn. You don’t and shouldn’t ever resort to violence with them.

[Reipaca]

I don't think you should've slapped her
The guy telling you you should've is completely wrong, I don't even believe parents should slap their kids so a stranger doing that is even worse
The girl was being rude for sure but she's just a child and she might've not realized how impolite her questioning was, sometimes kids can be really curious and they don't realize that there are things that can be asked or not
Either way the right action imo is either to just tell her it isn't right or tell her parents
but you handled it well so good job

I hope this guy you talked to either never has kids or changes his way of thinking 

 

 

Edited June 24, 2020 by Rei-chama

[Chuan]

This man's thoughts are destructive. He should never be allowed near any child. Physical violence is simply unacceptable and should never be tolerated.

[love]

i think you were right not to hit her and i agree with @Haze ...young children are not as well-versed in the social climate of manners or polite questions. they simply don’t understand what topics are off-limits yet.  they should be educated, not hit.

using violence over such minor mistakes only makes children anxious to ever do anything wrong, not to mention how much an adult can hurt a small child without even using their full power.  hope that man doesn’t have children himself. 

[blossoms]

You were right, you should never hit a child ever

[Tarted]

Well, her parents should've rised her very badly, 'cause that was very rude, no doubt 
But is well known that slapping a child isn't the best option to educate someone (even more if you're not one their parents)

[olivefoss]

you really have to question the mentality of a guy that says he would "slap the shit" out of a little girl

[Chiharu]

I would never slap a child, especially one that isn't mine, let alone a 3-5 year-old for smth like that. I hope that guy never has kids

[eli]

you shouldnt slap a child ever

[hynapia]

Nope, she's just a very small child.

[justtree]

I agree that you shouldn't slap the kid, that would be an ultra over-reaction. Even if the situation involved older kids or a boy, I think you should make sure to never resort to violence unless absolutely must (involve authorities like parents if you must but personal violence could be dangerous for the kid as well as yourself). However I do think that you should have probably told the little girl that it is not a good behavior to touch other people's body even within the same gender without the other's permission. She's still a little kid but you should still let her know. Maybe if you have time and patience, you can also ask her why she is bothered with small breast. Sometimes you will find funny unexpected answer from them. And if it's not funny, who cares? Functionally small breast or large breast is the same and if it's about being attractive to potential partners, some like it small, some like it average, some like it large, and some don't care at all. Btw good on you for volunteering on a CSP. 

Edited June 24, 2020 by justtree

[soyundorito]

Of course no, why should you punish a child over being a child?

[puellarum generatio]

no but talk to her at least

[LaVieEnRose]

I think this is going to differ a bit from the topic but I would like to say it anyways.

In my point of view, despite of that awful coment he said, I also think (and by this I am not, in any way, justifiying him)  that any person who says a horrific coment like that is that, during their childhood they've been exposed to that kind of violence and is an open wound even during adulthood that needs to be healed and the person is not aware if it.

The girl is just a child, and children have no filter at all when they speak. Some things may same rude, but specially at that early age, I don't think it is said in bad banners.

And in some ways, some discipline is necessary, but what is not necessary is educate in violence to children and violence to be at the order of the day because if we keep educating the same way that we know in history of education, we did not learned ANYTHING about history, in this case, education history.

A new education is possible and necessary but this changes need to be done educating the family members in, for example, meetings (since the family is the first environment where the baby will be, and later go to school, or even have homeschooling, but is necessary to have conetion with other children). Later qualificated teachers and teacher helpers.

If that man said something like that, what kind of education will be giving to his children? And what would be the environment of the family and the mother? That's worriying...

Edited June 24, 2020 by LaVieEnRose

[Mrs. Morale]

7 hours ago, Haze said:

You definitely don’t do that to a 3-5 year old child. The dude saying he would have done it would be in jail right now.

when kids are at that age it’s the prefect time to patiently explain to them why certain things they do are wrong. They’ll learn. You don’t and shouldn’t ever resort to violence with them.

 

7 hours ago, Rei-chama said:

I don't think you should've slapped her
The guy telling you you should've is completely wrong, I don't even believe parents should slap their kids so a stranger doing that is even worse
The girl was being rude for sure but she's just a child and she might've not realized how impolite her questioning was, sometimes kids can be really curious and they don't realize that there are things that can be asked or not
Either way the right action imo is either to just tell her it isn't right or tell her parents
but you handled it well so good job

I hope this guy you talked to either never has kids or changes his way of thinking 

 

 

 

7 hours ago, Lee said:

This man's thoughts are destructive. He should never be allowed near any child. Physical violence is simply unacceptable and should never be tolerated.

 

4 hours ago, justtree said:

I agree that you shouldn't slap the kid, that would be an ultra over-reaction. Even if the situation involved older kids or a boy, I think you should make sure to never resort to violence unless absolutely must (involve authorities like parents if you must but personal violence could be dangerous for the kid as well as yourself). However I do think that you should have probably told the little girl that it is not a good behavior to touch other people's body even within the same gender without the other's permission. She's still a little kid but you should still let her know. Maybe if you have time and patience, you can also ask her why she is bothered with small breast. Sometimes you will find funny unexpected answer from them. And if it's not funny, who cares? Functionally small breast or large breast is the same and if it's about being attractive to potential partners, some like it small, some like it average, some like it large, and some don't care at all. Btw good on you for volunteering on a CSP. 

 I didn't slap the child, I didn't think it was right; hence the argument. We argued about it but I just had enough & let him have his way. I haven't spoken to the him about it as yet, but even tho it's been weeks, I still think about it. It just rub me in the wrong way. That's why I asked cause I know am not wrong, he is wrong.

Edited June 25, 2020 by fullofjoy

[Mrs. Morale]

6 hours ago, eli said:

you shouldnt slap a child ever

 I didn't slap the child, I didn't think it was right; hence the argument. We argued about it but I just had enough & let him have his way. I haven't spoken to the him about it as yet, but even tho it's been weeks, I still think about it. It just rub me in the wrong way. That's why I asked cause I know am not wrong. 

[Haze]

8 minutes ago, fullofjoy said:

 

 

 

 I didn't slap the child, I didn't think it was right; hence the argument. We argued about it but I just had enough & let him have his way. I haven't spoken to the him about it as yet, but even tho it's been weeks, I still think about it. It just rub me in the wrong way. That's why I asked cause I know am not wrong, he is wrong.

I don’t think anyone here is accusing you of doing so. You made it pretty clear in the op you thought it was wrong. “ You “ isn’t referring to you lol, it’s a general consensus and statement agreeing with what you said.