How to get over not being physically attractive?

[YeoChin Fairies]

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[neo velvet]

a) become attractive

b) realize your self worth doesn't depend on how fuckable other people think you are

 

i'd say the latter option is definitely healthier than chasing after an unattainable ideal. being happy and confident in your own skin usually makes a person 10x more attractive anyways, while looks will fade with time regardless. 

[felidae]

Always be grateful and thankful for what we have, rather than crying over what we don't have.

Not being "attractive" isn't the end of the world. So what if I'm not attractive? Cats would still approach me. 

[westrocket]

maybe if you focus on hygiene, smelling nice and expressing your style through fashion? I feel like most attractive people are those who are clean and have a distinctive style they're comfortable with. this is what I strive for at least.

but I actually had a period when I thought I was one of the ugliest people in the world. now I find that idea ridiculous but I was able to get out of that mindset by realizing that beauty standards are awful and that my ideals don''t even fit together with them. it was a bit of a slow process but low self-esteem will not necessarily follow you forever

[Mami3chan]

stay busy 

[borealis]

I like to think that we are all struggling in our own ways. That somehow makes me feel better knowing that no one has a perfect life.

[seokii]

People are quick to dismiss this and say "you shouldn't base your self worth on how others see you!" but it's not that simple sometimes. Society tangibly rewards those that are conventionally physically attractive.

It really sucks.

I think it's easier to seek self-worth in something else than to just try and NOT base your self worth in your appearance

[Pleasure]

looks are not everything, eventually that will fade and what substance are people left with?

[angy]

People are like games

Some have good graphics but boring

Some look like shit but are addictive as hell

And vice versa

At the end of the day graphics alone aren't enough to keep a game at ur library

In 20 years games with even better graphics will come out so what's the point in the end uh

If you're entertaining, fun and make people around u happy even if u have some 70's horrendous graphics people are gonna keep u around

[Oli London]

You know people will like you for you and not your looks.

You don't have the option to make money off your looks but neither do a lot of pretty people.

Get plastic surgery?

If you are a girl, remember that guys will fuck anything.

Distract yourself?

Work on other things rather than obsessing over your looks.

Focus on being a good person. That is the most important to me.

[YeoChin Fairies]

6 hours ago, bittermelon said:

You know people will like you for you and not your looks.

You don't have the option to make money off your looks but neither do a lot of pretty people.

Get plastic surgery?

If you are a girl, remember that guys will fuck anything.

Distract yourself?

Work on other things rather than obsessing over your looks.

Focus on being a good person. That is the most important to me.

Why would PS fuck everything for girls?

[lilkay45]

Be the best version of yourself. Idk if it’s the best advices but that is something I’m trying to achieve this as well. I do agree with people, you shouldn’t rely on society for your worth. However, what can you do to improve your confidence? Is it your looks? Let’s try to find some fashion that suits you the most and that enhance your best features. Same thing with makeup. What about body image? You can always try to work out and get into shape. Talk to a personal trainer or someone you may know that works out a lot for help. Know that this will help you to a certain extent. You can change everything on the outside but you can’t change in the inside. However I do believe once you feel more attractive, you will feel more confident. But make sure this is what you want and not what society wants. But also accept  that there is a certain extent that you can change on the outside and no one really fits in society standards. It’s okay not to fit in. Nomatter where you go, someone will find you attractive or ugly. It’s all about preferences. You can get plastic surgery and all but it won’t change the way you feel, if you yourself don’t feel good about yourself. This will take some work and probably the balance is different for everyone. What about your personality traits? What is the best thing about yourself?Your inside/personality  is what keeps people around and attracts people too. In the end, it’s all about the growth. You can have a glow up inside and outside.  I hope this made sense. Im typing in the phone and it’s late at night lol. Fighting! 

Edited April 18, 2020 by lilkay45

[sonagi]

Good question… this is something I've been struggling with myself

Edited April 18, 2020 by sonagi