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I feel so lonely any advice to someone who’s never been in a relationship?


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Everyone is in a romantic relationship but me. I feel like I’ll never date anyone since I’ve never been in a relationship before and I’m 20. I know there are people like me and older but it’s just hard since I’m in college and everyone seems to have or has had someone before. I had a friend like me but she recently got her first bf which is great for her but just makes me feel worse about myself. I know having these thoughts aren’t helping me at all and I would love to get into a relationship but I don’t even know where to start and I’m not usually the person that takes initiative as I get nervous and awkward easily.

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i'm in a similar boat. im 22 and i've never been in a relationship. i went to a religious middle school and religious all girl's highschool and when i entered college i still lived at home and was fairly socially stunted so it took me quite some time to make friends. i personally have tried online dating apps bc i feel like i don't go out to places where i could meet possible love interests often enough, and ive been on a few dates but nothing much ever really comes of it so i'm just waiting patiently for my time tbh. 

all you can really do is wait and put yourself in social situations where you can meet more people.  i know it can often feel like you're running out of time, but at the end of the day relationships aren't everything. i'm personally at a point where i think of dating to marry more than just dating around so i feel like if i have to wait for the right person i will. once you reach a mindset like that it feels like a weight is lifted. 

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I'd say that your time will only come :) Maybe you still don't feel ready for a relationship and until then try to spend more time spoiling yourself. i think that once you are ready, it will come your way and you won't even notice how soon :)

I'd recommend trying dating sites or apps - but you mentioned that you are awkward, and I'm the same way, so I couldn't stay too long in them except a few hours. They'd just feel very weird to me and would make me feel even more uncomfortable, lol  I think that a person should not unnecessarily force themselves to make themselves "out there". It makes me things even worse and tbh the person feels even more reluctant to do anything even more.

Try doing something more out of the comfort zone such as volunteering, participating in the activities that you enjoy, hang out in the places around a library or cafe (places where there are more people), if you want to bring yourself more out there and make yourself known.

I think you've really got it! Just be more patient and kinder to yourself and don't overdo it too much, and also don't compare yourself to your friends because the more you look at the other people you will end up thinking "what is wrong with you because it is taking me awhile to get in a relationship" when there's really nothing :) Take care and wishing you the best of luck!

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Being in a relationship must be great, but personally I was never too eager to enter a relationship unless I really really liked someone. 

See, a lot of relationships nowadays happen just because...just because people don't want to be alone, just because they want a sex partner,  just because they get bored easily. So, unless there is someone special to you, I think dating is a big waste of precious time and energy. 

So my advice is to live your life without pressure, do things that make you happy, think of ways to improve yourself and your life. As long as you are sociable and meet some new people from time to time, you are going to be all right!

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