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How did you realize that you weren't in love with someone

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Last year I had a very serious boyfriend that I was living with. I could've sworn up and down that I was in love (It was my first time being in love with someone),

but now that I'm in my current relationship and I see how my current bf makes me feel? I've learned I was never in love with my ex... like at all. Maybe in friend love.

What about you guys? what was your lightbulb moment that made you realize it wasn't love

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Well ive prob had this several times but honestly this happened to me within last few months.  It was actually a girl i dumped about 5 years ago tbh. And it was hard on me ttb.  Like i was always telling myself after that i hated her. I went on to date someone else, for slightly longer even (almost 2 years) but like my ex was out of mind there cuz i had convinced myself i hate her.  But when my next gf & i broke up. Well first , this moment for that ex is diff tho like as well idk if i ever love her, we just had a lot of physical/sexual attraction/chemistry. Given how we still hooked up often for a few years after. But i was really smitten before we broke up. Once we break up i just miss my ex before.  And im like fuck. I don't hate her. She was my best friend and we were in love for 1,5 yr. But then it occured to me, 5 yrs after dumping her. Ive prob been over her for a long time,  i just wanted her back because that sort of relationship where they're ur best friend,, that's a keeper in every other relationship ive had the emotional connection is not there,  just physical n sexual. And i love that idea of her.

Tho we were young n stupid it didn't work.  We fought too much that i give up. 5 years later, we're both much different people and move on. But the biggest wake up call for me to realize its a fantasy to me to still "love" her i found out thru SNS that she has jaded view on love and hates her ex(me). Realizing she doesn't love me anm like i thot she did just made me rralize this.  I dunnp tho cuz like the fight that cause me to give up was she was mad at me was i talked to a mutual friend getting over her ex that's its ok to not be able to move on cuz i still love my exes. Not "in love" anymore duh. But obviously no one wanna hear about their gf saying that.  I want even like 100 fr tho like i just said that to comfort our friend.  I am real abt that tho i think i fall out of love with my exes, but to me if they r an ex. Always love there,  i am able to move on but there was sumn there as a relationship

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I realized things weren't working when I did everything possible to avoid him, I didn't answer his messages in hours and I started seeing all the things I didn't like about him. 

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Since I was born, I still don't love someone besides my family. Don't even know what's does mean.

When I find out I'm in love, I might be still like them and take care of them even though, they have a bad side. I could accept who they are.

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