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Did you ever have a phase where you had more online friends than IRL friends and spent most of your time online?


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no i rather had a phase were i didn't need friends anymore be it online or irl, nowadays i only keep business relationships but only for that long...

friends/girlfriends/boyfriends in general all equally can be very demanding and i get so stressed out and anxious so easily when someone makes a lot of phone calls/messages or just in constant need of attention even in group chats i don't like to be part of those, i don't know why i just get stressed out having to keep up with friends i just can't do that anymore its just so tiring and stressful for whatever reason although i used to have tons of friends and was a very social person back in school days,..

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At the age of 19-20 I used all of my free time playing this one multiplayer game. I had such awesome friends there, but I quitted playing when I began studying Japanese full time. 

Right now about a half of my friends are irl and the other half people I've met online, but because of living so far away from everyone, all I have is Whatsapp and different social media platforms. But luckily I meet people at work

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I didn't have friends during high school because those were difficult times for me and I had a tendency to skip school a lot because of my unhappiness while being in there so I spent most of my time online or watching anime, however even online I still struggled to make friends, I just didn't feel comfortable around people in general however I would feed my needs of socializing by joining hangouts here (Went through all of its eras... plug.dj, stations, rabb.it, you would only know of ALL of them if you were here since 2014-16, otherwise you probably only know of rabb.it) and I did have a small group of friends from another forum (We moved to this forum together), so I guess during this period of time it was like half socializing online half not socializing at all?

I had this phase you are mentioning during 2017 in the middle of my gap year after graduating from high school, I got a group chat on discord with other OH users who I grew to be really close to and I would spend all of my time with them, and if i wasn't then I was practicing photo editing and graphics, we would chat, listen to music together, back then I had a microphone and we would vc, play games, during that time I really did spend all of my time online with them, I remember before that chat happened through all of these years I felt extremely lonely and because of what I went through in high school I really didn't have a single idea of how to deal with people, how to talk to them, I never saw this period of my life as something negative, i've always suffered from depression and anxiety and rather than it making it worse I genuinely think it made it easier for me to cope, the feeling of loneliness would always make it much worse and with them it lessened and I got to learn how to socialize again, skills which I had lost completely during my time in high school

I can't ever view this as a negative experience because actually if I didn't meet them, if I didn't grow close to them, by the time I started uni I probably would be back to how it was in high school, no friends at all, I re-gained trust in people and I got a group of friends I love IRL when I started my major thanks to being able to meet this group of friends online and with this gc i'm actually still close to them, we never lost contact and I also made more online friends from there on, I got to meet more people online who I treasure and love even after starting school and getting my IRL group of friends so I have both online and IRL friends and I love both just as much as the other.

TL;DR I did have this phase mentioned in the OP title but I would never regret it, it was actually very good for me because it allowed me to start trusting people again.

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I don't have any friends in real life at the moment, a small town's syndrome and I always had trouble establishing any bonds with anyone. It doesn't help that I am very introverted so I have no idea how to approach someone or make a small conversation with a stranger, I just shy off very quickly even if I am always open to making friends :)

And I also found some lovely online friends who have quickly become a part of my life and mean everything to me and I hope that I can meet all of them in real life someday 😄

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First few months of 2018. I was between jobs, no more classes, no motivation, no real plan for the future and I isolated myself. I didn't want to meet up with friends because they would ask me what I was doing and I didn't want to tell I was sitting on my ass all day. I was spending almost 24/7 on the internet because it was a good period in kpop for my favs and I didn't want to miss a thing. I don't regret that period. But I don't plan on letting myself go that path again.

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