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Did you ever have a phase where you had more online friends than IRL friends and spent most of your time online?


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That was me like month ago, I basically spent 70% of my time online, even when I was at work and I thought it was fine but it was honestly sad because it made me create an alternate reality in my mind. I tried to convince myself that I didn't need much IRL connection if I just had good friends online, which just made me withdrawn and more depressed.

I can't say I have many IRL friends right now but I at least try to control how much time I spend purely in group chats as opposed to normal interactions.

 

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I never had many friends because I've always struggled to create bonds with people. I've always had really small circles of people I considered as friends. But I met a lot of people online that I bonded with more easily. So when I was a teen I think like 70% of my friends were online people (and I ended up meeting some of them irl).

Now I think it's quite balanced, I managed to create bonds with more people irl and at the same time I consider way less people to be my friends online.

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2016/2017, my phase. Between forums, twitter/line/discord and multiplayer games, was online 24/7. In my case, I have 0 difficulty to bond with people the problem was that I felt like shit back then, wasn't happy with my life and it's easier to hide than face things. Ofc my depression got worse and worse until I had enough and got professional help.

I don't regret that phase tho as I met wonderful people from different places I still have contact with.

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Definitely when I started to become active here. I kept spending all my time spamming away and messaging friends even when I wasnt at home. It wasnt until my grades were dropping that I realized that I was too absorbed into OH. It was bad rip.. 

I took a much needed hiatus and sorted out my goals in real life. It has really helped me as I focused on working hard to obtain my dream job, maintaining and finding new friends and hobbies atm. 

Now I'm on this site whenever I can afford the time to and make casual talks with others. I'm glad to be back cus I missed all these users. I can connect with those who like kpop cause my friends irl arent into kpop. Its honestly an inviting community and I dont regret joining

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I don't really remember it. But I suppose I had that phase years back, I don't remember how many... But I always had some friends to hang around with and when we where not together we used to chat online so... it's ok, not very alarming, I think.

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Yea!

2007-2010 

I spent most of my time on anime and manga's forums.

I loved chatting with others and we had one of those "virtual family" or sumn like that.  Everyone was pretty much older than me though, a lot of them were born in late 80s early 90s.  Dunno what those people are doing now.

It was fun but also a waste of time.

Maybe it's a bit weird but back then I trusted "online friends" more than people irl.

 

 

 

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Bold of you to think that I've ever had more IRL friends than online ones LMAO

Seriously tho, I never had that much friends to begin with. It was always one or two and the only thing that connected us was school (so whenever one of us moved to another school, we would automatically stop being friends and never talk to each other again).

My online friendships last longer and the bond feels more "intense". (not that I have lots of online friends, tho)

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i don't have many friends. i used to be a social butterfly when i was younger. but then i grew up we all grew apart and i wonder what was all the time spent for. now i barely have any friends irl or online. maybe 3 at most irl and i see them on separate occasions, never together.  It's worse now since I'm back overseas for uni and I'm living in a studio apartment alone. I don't crave for human interactions either. Thing is, i hate being with people. 3 is a crowd and i hate crowds.  i can make friends easily but whenever I start to be friends with too many people, or get too close to them, my brain automatically pushes them out and it will do anything. idk what's that about, it's something i can't control. this happens in both reality. I don't have any desire to date too.. It's like I wanna date but i just can't really care for someone and it's hard to put in effort.

i think i used to feel like you, but i've started to embrace it and i don't feel withdrawn anymore

 

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Yes, I went through that phase too. Now it’s kinda flipped around, I spend more time making friends irl and hanging out with them instead. I spend more time on discord compared to here as well.

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On 10/21/2019 at 12:13 AM, sonagi said:

I feel like the odd one out here lol but even though I'm a shy and reserved person I've always found it easier to make friends in real life rather than online. None of my attempts at making online friends have worked out well for some reason 😅

If you want to be friends with someone but you ignored them for some reason then obviously it won't work. The same goes for the other person.

 

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On 10/24/2019 at 10:12 PM, JunChanHun said:

I have more friends online than irl but I also have many irl friends. It's not that sad. As I spend alot of time offline these days.

Of course it's not sad. How is it sad when you have a lot of real life and online friends and you spend a lot of time offline ?

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