My ex-bestfriend invited me to her wedding

[Balancetonquoi]

Its seems like she doesnt know we're not friends anymore.

 

I stopped liking and talking to her when I discovered she was criticizing me behind my back. Shes not that bad she defended me many time and we had great history but I dont want people like her in my life.

 

But the thing is if I dont go to her wedding everyone (the friends we have in common) will think something is wrong between us and I wish I could end this friendship peacefully.

 

Should I go or not?

[JNT-LEGGO]

If your other friends are gonna be there, seems like you'd have enough distraction. Plus, y'know, free food.

 

BUT don't give anyone the wrong idea, if you're forced to interact with her, be respectful but not friendly.

[KhepriRa]

If you really don't wanna go, just say that you have another planned occasion that you really can't miss. Something serious, like it being family related and send some basic wedding gifts like silverware or kitchen utensils to look like you actually care or something. I dunno, it depends on how long you guys haven't been in contact.

[woahh]

Go wearing a white dress

 

That should make things clear for her lol

 

 

serious answer now

 

 

Go to the ceremony, give your respects (congratulations etc) and then leave quietly 

[junmyeonsnoodle]

I mean, something is wrong between you and personally, I don't think you have anything to feel guilty about by being honest about that. If you don't feel like telling your other friends why you aren't going lie and say you a family or work thing going on.

 

*Also, you aren't obligated to be around people who make you feel shitty. Do what it best for you and don't really think about any one else's feelings-you'll just end up getting hurt.

[Feary]

Go. 

 

I feel like communication is so important, and the fact that she invited you, means she isn't even aware she has done anything to really upset you.

 

You should maybe talk to her and tell her how you feel.

 

But to suddenly not show and support her could breed a whole other kind of situation between you two... I mean, unless you have a really good excuse? But still. The truth will set you free. Lying digs you into a hole. 

[skcebl]

Go. You should maintain amicable relationships with people even if you're just at the level of acquaintance. You should also address things that bother you immediately with the other party. This girl thinks you're friends, your mutual friends think you're friends, but you're carrying around this burden.

[First Mod]

If she invited you, it means she doesn't know your feelings about your friendship and maybe you should tell her about them in a calm way first. You are free to go or not to go to the wedding and if you are planning on cutting ties with her, your mutual friends will come to know one day or the other.

[freya]

Is it a huge wedding? Or a small affair?

 

At our traditional weddings, only marginally known people can get invited. Someone's cousins' friend or someone's friends' husband's sister.

 

If it's the former and you don't have any formal role like bridesmaid. Great. You don't even need to interact with anyone besides saying hi to the host. Free food makes anything worth it.

 

If its a small affair, I would hesitate. Contact her beforehand and resolve the issue so both of you are on the same page, even if that means now she knows you're not friends anymore.