I’ve lost a really great friend

[katsu curry chips]

It hurts more than losing a partner for me tbh. He’s fine and all, health wise, it’s just that I know we’re no longer friends and he’s “broken up†with me sort of speak.

 

I can tell he’s distanced himself and there’s nothing more I can do but let him go. We’ve spoken extensively about things, about how I’ve hurt him, I’ve apologized multiple times, I’ve explained, I’ve tried to make it up to him etc. He’s ultimately chosen to leave (move) without saying goodbye.

 

He’s the casualty of a really hard time for me this spring and a relationship that I wish I had treasured better. He’s truly such a wonderful person and I’m absolutely heartbroken.

 

Anyway this is my rant. Never take your friends for granted, it’s easy to do especially when you’re not doing well - it’s far too easy to use them as a punching bag but it may ultimately come at a cost.

 

Yea so... sigh ♡ thanks for clicking on this I guess.

 

 

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[Trashie]

I've been thro this around last month too

 

it's sad, and the sad thing is how powerless we may feel, but feelings aren't something we can control

 

it's a regret that you may not have cherished this friendship as much but believe me from what I saw, there's no wrong or right side when it comes to friendships. you may have did something wrong but it's just like the last step that leads to all this, like you said he probably been distancing himself eventually things becomes different without you realizing it and maybe without him meaning to do. but time change us, we change. and our minds and what we love also change

 

so sometimes things are better let off than clinging to it, because that'd hurt you and them more, and that was my mistake, dragging things longer didn't help at all. we sometimes may need to let go of things not because we don't care but because it's the best for everyone so don't feel sad, it maybe hard but things will get better eventually and you'll get used to it sadly, maybe one time later when things are forgotten you'll be  in better terms with him. cheer up katsu, there's still alot of good friends who cares for you<3

[UMJI MOODS]

Sad, beautiful and elegant post katsu.♡♡♡

[katsu curry chips]

I've been thro this around last month too

 

it's sad, and the sad thing is how powerless we may feel, but feelings aren't something we can control

 

it's a regret that you may not have cherished this friendship as much but believe me from what I saw, there's no wrong or right side when it comes to friendships. you may have did something wrong but it's just like the last step that leads to all this, like you said he probably been distancing himself eventually things becomes different without you realizing it and maybe without him meaning to do. but time change us, we change. and our minds and what we love also change

 

so sometimes things are better let off than clinging to it, because that'd hurt you and them more, and that was my mistake, dragging things longer didn't help at all. we sometimes may need to let go of things not because we don't care but because it's the best for everyone so don't feel sad, it maybe hard but things will get better eventually and you'll get used to it sadly, maybe one time later when things are forgotten you'll be in better terms with him. cheer up katsu, there's still alot of good friends who cares for you<3

I can’t say this in any better way than this: thank you. I’m crying right now, pretty sure I really needed someone to tell me this. ♡ thank you.

 

 

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[bustahjoong]

Hey Katsu, you shouldn't blame yourself so much for the growing apart. It takes two hands to clap and two people to distance from each other. Grow from your mistakes and maybe one day you'll talk again

[katsu curry chips]

Sad, beautiful and elegant post katsu.♡♡♡

Thank you dearest friend ♡

 

 

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[Trashie]

I can’t say this in any better way than this: thank you. I’m crying right now, pretty sure I really needed someone to tell me this. ♡ thank you.

 

 

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np<3 you shouldn't keep thinking of it that way but distract yourself with other things

 

and if you need to talk, you know the way to my pm, I can listen to you <3

[lusci]

I've been thro this around last month too

 

it's sad, and the sad thing is how powerless we may feel, but feelings aren't something we can control

 

it's a regret that you may not have cherished this friendship as much but believe me from what I saw, there's no wrong or right side when it comes to friendships. you may have did something wrong but it's just like the last step that leads to all this, like you said he probably been distancing himself eventually things becomes different without you realizing it and maybe without him meaning to do. but time change us, we change. and our minds and what we love also change

 

so sometimes things are better let off than clinging to it, because that'd hurt you and them more, and that was my mistake, dragging things longer didn't help at all. we sometimes may need to let go of things not because we don't care but because it's the best for everyone so don't feel sad, it maybe hard but things will get better eventually and you'll get used to it sadly, maybe one time later when things are forgotten you'll be  in better terms with him. cheer up katsu, there's still alot of good friends who cares for you<3

♡

[katsu curry chips]

Hey Katsu, you shouldn't blame yourself so much for the growing apart. It takes two hands to clap and two people to distance from each other. Grow from your mistakes and maybe one day you'll talk again

I hope we will. Part of me keeps telling myself that it’s irreparable - that’s the side of me that wants to punish myself.

 

I don’t believe in forgiveness, as far as I’m concerned. I never do. And I think it’s easier for me to believe it’s all my fault bc it fits with my usual modus operandi in my head.

 

I know it’s ultimately his choice and taking full responsibility reduces his own agency in a way.

 

But he dislikes me now. I just know he does. No worse: he feels nothing for me. He’s neutral, he’s let me go.

 

I don’t know how to come back from that. Anger I can deal with. Hatred. But indifference is another beast.

 

It’s game over.

 

 

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[Delphine]

Yeah, losing friends is never easy, one can say it can hurt even more than romantic breakups. I lost 2 female friends that I had known since highschool, and it hurt a bit for a while. Now I totally accepted that we don't fit anymore anyway, and I wish them all the very best in their future, without me. I'll live my life to the fullest, I hope they do too, and find people that fit them more than we did.

[Seunghee's eyebrows]

You know me well. I'm here for ya and so is rest of the squad. I'm sorry to see you go through this!