I feel discontected from my partner

[PrincessYunikoon]

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[PrincessYunikoon]

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[bustahjoong]

Hello! I am glad you decided to share this, it must have been very difficult for you to first of all be aware of how bad this relationship is for you and how toxic it is

 

it would be easy for me to say "if it makes you feel bad, then just end it" but I know first hand it's never that easy. You are very comfortable in this situation. There is good and bad comfort though, and that is what you should be aware of. The fact you are used to being with him doesn't mean he is good for you. He changed, the things you liked about him are no more, you need to let that sink in and make changes accordingly.

 

Get a back up plan, ask your family or friends for help, get resources to leave: after you secure all this, you need to emotionally cut ties with him

 

you need to slowly realize that the fact he once made you happy, laugh, enjoy your time, feel safe is not the case anymore. You are holding on to a memory of a boyfriend, not your actual boyfriend

 

Love yourself more and end it, you don't need any other human being to have a decent life, you just need yourself

 

Be strong

[eriy.m]

Can you get money from your family somehow? If yes,can you pay back whatever he paid for you til now?

If you can't just leave the phone he got you and get the fuck out.

 

This guy is abusing his power, he thinks if he pays for you, he can look down on you.

 

Seriously get out of there. There are millions of guys out there, hes not shit

[Leeyhamour]

I feel like at this stage you are not good for each other anymore, maybe it is time to split :/ sorry

[PrincessYunikoon]

Hello! I am glad you decided to share this, it must have been very difficult for you to first of all be aware of how bad this relationship is for you and how toxic it is

 

it would be easy for me to say "if it makes you feel bad, then just end it" but I know first hand it's never that easy. You are very comfortable in this situation. There is good and bad comfort though, and that is what you should be aware of. The fact you are used to being with him doesn't mean he is good for you. He changed, the things you liked about him are no more, you need to let that sink in and make changes accordingly.

 

Get a back up plan, ask your family or friends for help, get resources to leave: after you secure all this, you need to emotionally cut ties with him

 

you need to slowly realize that the fact he once made you happy, laugh, enjoy your time, feel safe is not the case anymore. You are holding on to a memory of a boyfriend, not your actual boyfriend

 

Love yourself more and end it, you don't need any other human being to have a decent life, you just need yourself

 

Be strong

Thank you.

 

Thing is he warned me his new job would be hard and that he would be grumpy but I think we both underestimated it?

 

At the moment I do feel like it is toxic but from both sides. You guys heard my side only not his. I can imagine I am a mess to him sometimes.

My home situation is not OK and when I comeback from my mom's place I am not the most pleasant person or I bottle up so much I explode in one go.

 

I think we are both mentally scarred but I don't see how to solve it since we are opposites of each other. That probably what made us attracted to each other in the first place. But now I feel stuck? I certainly don't want to break up yet. But I want to solve things and make a compromise. Just not sure how to approach it.

 

Thank you for your imput though. Gives me material to think about.

[PrincessYunikoon]

Can you get money from your family somehow? If yes,can you pay back whatever he paid for you til now?

If you can't just leave the phone he got you and get the fuck out.

 

This guy is abusing his power, he thinks if he pays for you, he can look down on you.

 

Seriously get out of there. There are millions of guys out there, hes not shit

The reason I live with him is because my family is very bad.

 

I don't think he absuse money to boss over me. He does allow me to pay him ones in a while. I just think he does not want me to be like his past-self and obsesses over that.

 

And like I said in the reply to the person above you. This is just my side of the story.

 

I will remember all your comments and think about it the coming weeks. Next week I am a whole week without him for the first time in ages so maybe it will do both of us good. And gives me time to think.