Loonathehoe 4,579 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 Ok so... I broke up a while ago with my gf. And there's this girl I've talking (not much tbh) who goes to my school and who I honestly wanted to be friends with cause she seems cool and likes kpop lol. But she seemed to be flirting with me (even some friends said so after they saw the convo) the last chat we had. I don't have any feelings for her obviously and she's not really my type but she's cute. I know it's too soon. I don't want anything with anyone rn. But would it be like, rude to go on a date/go out with someone you kinda suspect is interested in you even if you don't want anything? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockerchic88 9,477 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 You’re kinda leading them on? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loonathehoe 4,579 Posted April 7, 2019 Author Share Posted April 7, 2019 You’re kinda leading them on? Not really. If anything I think I'm being a bit cold lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shooter 1,172 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 well, you say you've been talking to her but not that much so i'd honestly just try and chat with her a little more often to see if you feel like this could work out. but do it without flirting or going on dates. that way, if you don't feel any spark there you won't be setting her up for disappointment or creating false expectations. ultimately this is up to you but this is what i'd do Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Edgemoon 3,053 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 Rude? Nope, you have to know her better, maybe you'll become more interested, maybe not, if you don't try you'll never know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coval 9,036 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 yeah you need to date to know whether you like them romantically or not date ≠relationship don't worry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abra 40,910 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 I'd say don't go on a date if you're not remotely interested Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nimz 3,113 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 Yeah, don't do that. It would be cruel to her to lead her on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imx 311 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 Just be clear with her if she continues flirting with you. I wouldn't go on a date with someone I'm not interested in... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magus27 2,988 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 Ok so... I broke up a while ago with my gf. And there's this girl I've talking (not much tbh) who goes to my school and who I honestly wanted to be friends with cause she seems cool and likes kpop lol. But she seemed to be flirting with me (even some friends said so after they saw the convo) the last chat we had. I don't have any feelings for her obviously and she's not really my type but she's cute. I know it's too soon. I don't want anything with anyone rn. But would it be like, rude to go on a date/go out with someone you kinda suspect is interested in you even if you don't want anything? yeah you need to date to know whether you like them romantically or not date ≠relationship don't worry If you like talking to her, don't see an issue with going out to lunch or something. Some people just like to be flirty with their friends too. My mom has a friend who winks at everyone and I'm sure people think she's flirting if they've never met her before, but she does it for fun (both guys and girls). If you see her in-person and she does something you think is flirty you can just ask her if she's trying to flirt with you. That way you can find out if it's just the way she is or if she's actually interested in you. I've also known people to be more flirty in text chats than they are in-person too (if that's what you mean by showing your friends a convo with her) Dreamcatcher members are a perfect example of being flirty together, although SuA tends to take things a little too far... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eriy.m 2,900 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 Why would you show your friends what she texts you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loonathehoe 4,579 Posted April 7, 2019 Author Share Posted April 7, 2019 Why would you show your friends what she texts you... It was a simple (like, really simple) conversation and since I'm not really experienced with going out/flirting I asked my friend cause I felt the vibe she was trying to flirt but I wasn't sure If you like talking to her, don't see an issue with going out to lunch or something. Some people just like to be flirty with their friends too. My mom has a friend who winks at everyone and I'm sure people think she's flirting if they've never met her before, but she does it for fun (both guys and girls). If you see her in-person and she does something you think is flirty you can just ask her if she's trying to flirt with you. That way you can find out if it's just the way she is or if she's actually interested in you. I've also known people to be more flirty in text chats than they are in-person too (if that's what you mean by showing your friends a convo with her) Dreamcatcher members are a perfect example of being flirty together, although SuA tends to take things a little too far... Mmm. I tried to talk to her in person once when I saw her outside her classroom but she went inside super quick lol. I asked her by message and she said she went shy so... idk. Maybe she's just shy talking in person with new people (I am too) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edelgard 4,845 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 just be straight up with her. you can talk to her and hangout with her without leading her on. just be clear with your intentions when it comes up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loonathehoe 4,579 Posted April 7, 2019 Author Share Posted April 7, 2019 just be straight up with her. you can talk to her and hangout with her without leading her on. just be clear with your intentions when it comes up I mean, we talk so few and such random stuff (mostly kpop lol) that I don't really think I'm leading her onto anything. Also, I tend to be a bit cold with people I don't know or aren't my friends (and even to my friends compared to let's say something I like) But I'll try to be as clear as I can, don't worry I asked in here precisely because I don't want to play with someone feelings Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edelgard 4,845 Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 I mean, we talk so few and such random stuff (mostly kpop lol) that I don't really think I'm leading her onto anything. Also, I tend to be a bit cold with people I don't know or aren't my friends (and even to my friends compared to let's say something I like) But I'll try to be as clear as I can, don't worry I asked in here precisely because I don't want to play with someone feelings yeh misunderstandings happen all the time so its good that you're careful Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magus27 2,988 Posted April 8, 2019 Share Posted April 8, 2019 It was a simple (like, really simple) conversation and since I'm not really experienced with going out/flirting I asked my friend cause I felt the vibe she was trying to flirt but I wasn't sure Mmm. I tried to talk to her in person once when I saw her outside her classroom but she went inside super quick lol. I asked her by message and she said she went shy so... idk. Maybe she's just shy talking in person with new people (I am too) It could be she's also inexperienced (maybe she's never had a significant other). Maybe she thought by flirting she could make things more comfortable or it could be she meant to come off sounding casual and it comes off flirty and she doesn't know? I understand being concerned about not wanting to lead her on, but at the same time, if she's too shy to talk to you in-person, I don't think you have to worry about that yet. I'd continue getting to know her as a friend and if that includes a casual lunch date or hanging out somewhere that's ok. If she continues flirting and it bothers you, ask her about it. Let her explain and then tell her how you feel about it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted April 8, 2019 Share Posted April 8, 2019 You can hang out with her but not like in an actual date date. So don't go on a date if you don't want anything (romantic) with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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