행복하� 282 Posted April 4, 2019 Share Posted April 4, 2019 So there’s a guy that I became friends through an app. I don’t use my picture on there because actually that app really hurt myself esteem. Every time someone asked for my picture, they would block or stop talking to me. It hurt me so badly to the point I started wearing a mask because I thought I was so ugly. So I asked people on that app not to ask for my pictures. That’s the only thing I wanted from them. I didn’t want to keep going through the same pain. Then I met this guy and we became close. Recently he confessed to me and wanted to see my picture. But I was too scared. I told him I felt uncomfortable and wait a little bit longer for me. But he just told me he thinks I don’t trust him and don’t like him even though I do. I do like him and I want to trust him but it’s so scary getting hurt again and again over the same thing. Anyways sometimes he would say things that makes me angry or feel bad on purpose. And if he is angry at me, he won’t explain why. So it always makes me feel bad about myself. Recently I had a lot of exams so I’ve been stressed and busy and couldn’t respond back to him. So he got angry at me and told me he thinks I don’t like him. I told him about my situation but he didn’t believe me. We fought over that and got over it. But today again we fought. Actually this was really bad. So he messaged me but I couldn’t see his message because I have another exam next week and I was studying for it. And then he tried to call me but I kept my phone on silence so I didn’t pick up. As soon as I saw he called me, I tried to call him but he kept rejecting my call. So I sent him photo of me studying as proof that I wasn’t ignoring him. But he still kept rejecting me calls and started saying stuff like “oh am I so cute†It made me furious. I started to feel like he would purposely say and do things that he knows hurts me and gets a rise out of it. So I seriously lost my temper but he kept laughing at me. And this is when I really really really fucked up. I called him a sociopath who is really evil because he does things on purpose to hurt others, he is good at emotionally manipulating people and he is worse than my ex boyfriend who physically and sexually abused me. At that time I really felt like this guy was just really manipulating me. And then he lost his anger and told me he was just joking around with me and I’m a crazy bitch who needs help, that I fucked up his morning, that he really liked me and wanted to talk to me. But I don’t understand his actions. If he liked me, why would he pressure me to do things I don’t want to do? Why would he do things that would hurt me? But now maybe I was the one who was overreacting and too sensitive. I’ve been crying a lot and I don’t know what to do right now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olivefoss 382 Posted April 4, 2019 Share Posted April 4, 2019 wow.. idk, i hate to say this but... he doesn't like you he just seems like a manipulative piece of shit, n some of the crap he said makes it seem like you just dodged a bullet with this guy. be glad you never sent him ur photo you're not a shitty person. i feel like it was kind of wrong of you to assume he's a sociopath, but only because he just seems like an insecure loser boy i think u should stop talking to him/block him because if this is how he reacts when you tell him the truth/proof, and still is a shitty guy, then i really don't think he's worth your time don't worry though, someone will come along one day that is worth your time, and is patient and kind toward you, and it'll make you so glad you skipped this one (sry idk how much of this is comprehensible, or even good advice, T_T) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gay Nerd 18 Posted April 4, 2019 Share Posted April 4, 2019 Well if he forces you to go out of your comfort zone then it's not your fault, pushy people are just... well I guess you can call him a sociopath. If you told him you were busy and you tried to explain to him then it's his fault for not understanding. It's better off to forget about him, it will be hard. Wish you the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kookcarl27 1,493 Posted April 4, 2019 Share Posted April 4, 2019 Don't talk to him if you can't. Fix yourself first and reflect on everything you and he had done. You have trust issues and he shoud understand that. Being empathic won't hurt his butt. Your online partner may be kinda infuriating at that point he doesn't deserve to be called a sociopath for that single manner of being petty. As for you, yes you overreacted but neither deserved to be called being a bitch just for prioritizing your priorities. You two should be rational in your actions. He likes you and he kinda pressedyour buttons at that moment. Fix everything you guys started. Save it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Primarina 1,465 Posted April 4, 2019 Share Posted April 4, 2019 He clearly doesn't like you, I mean, not even my dad is so demanding of me :/ and why is he even calling you a bitch? come on... please don't talk to him anymore, he is a manipulative person and you don't need that kind of toxicity, you deserve better He is always going to force you to do things you don't want and then he's going to say "oh so you don't like me" ???? that is manipulating... I don’t understand his actions. If he liked me, why would he pressure me to do things I don’t want to do? Why would he do things that would hurt me? Because he doesn't like you, a person who likes you is going to respect your decisions and is never going to force you to do things you don't want to do. He's toxic af. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shalnark 989 Posted April 4, 2019 Share Posted April 4, 2019 He's a manipulative asshole, don't feel like a shitty person because you aren't!. You were just unlucky, he doesn't deserve your tears. You did overreact but he showed his true colors after that, you are better off without him. Also someone that pressures you to do things you don't want to and hurts you is not someone that you should keep around, those are red flags for abuse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeriousRonin 54 Posted April 4, 2019 Share Posted April 4, 2019 Seems like he was just acting friendly and being patient to find out how you look at first. But clearly towards the end of your story he is NOT patient and appears to be quite manipulative. He's blaming you, making himself the victim, and undermining your situation and feelings. This guy is not considerate at all. Shut contact with his stupid ass and call it a day. Edit: You aren't the shitty person here. He is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
행복하� 282 Posted April 4, 2019 Author Share Posted April 4, 2019 Thank you everyone for the great and lovely advice. I’ve decided to cut off all contact with him and focus on myself from now on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted April 4, 2019 Share Posted April 4, 2019 I don't think there's anything particularly wrong you've done there, you both kinda got mad over some pretty silly things and I think it's actually for the best to cut contact with that person even if it ended that badly between you guys. If you want more insight I think he was just overthinking stuff and tripping himself out of insecurity and when meeting people online it's just something it can be helped no matter what you do. So it's not so much about what you did but the nature of the platform and online dating apps. Maybe it would be best for you to focus on meeting new people in person instead if you keep having trouble but like I said you don't seem like a bad person and everyone gets mad, eventually, when pushed hard enough constantly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edelgard 4,845 Posted April 5, 2019 Share Posted April 5, 2019 good that you moved on from him. time to focus on yourself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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