lonelytraveler 5 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 I am currently in college right now and my parents are pretty much paying my rent. I had a job but even then it is so hard to make the bills. I regret spending so much money instead of just living frugally. I have made some bad life decisions and I am now in a state of regret. I don't know what to do right now since I am losing the will to live. I have no talent and I am a burden. I have been in college for about 10 years now and haven't graduated. I am a big fat loser with no notable achievements. What's the point of living life? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mingyu's Blue Hair 1,503 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 (Sorry for my bad english.) How many years are left in your college, currently? Just try to focus to finish it first. And while, maybe you can try to search a new job with better payment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
B612 22,399 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 the least you can do is PUT MORE EFFORT and don't give up on life, your parents sacrificed a lot for you so you HAVE TO stay alive and be in their lives be a good child for your parents and no matter the outcome they will be much happier than not having you maybe quit college if you really can't continue and find a job, maybe move back with them and be a productive and dedicated person help them as much as you can just don't give up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gojo 3,258 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 i want you to know you're not alone. hold on. if you ever need to talk, my dms are open. I am somewhat on a similar boat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blond jenissi 676 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 May I ask why you haven't graduated? Are you having trouble with your courses or maybe you don't really like what you're studying? Even though I'm studying at the same city I lived before (= live with my mom so no rent etc) I feel the same. I'm in my mid-20s and I thought by now I'd be independent, making some money and helping my mom and grandma financially but I had some problems, made some bad decisions and here I am now, struggling with a degree I don't like nor understand and no time for a job. The reason I'm saying al this is that you need to understand it's not just you going thru this, some details may differ but there's many people with this issue. You need to understand what the problems are eg reason you haven't graduated and find a way to solve these problems, to be able to solve the complicated problem those simpler ones created. But dont beat yourself up for bad decisions, we all make them. We only grow up if we learn from them. Is there anyone IRL you've talked/could talk with about this? A friend, family member, professional, who ever you feel comfortable to talk to.. Don't carry this burden alone, you don't have to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YuMing 4,176 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 don't worry, think of education as an investment - so you'll get that money back eventually (and make more) once you get a higher-paying job because of your education focus on finishing college, and spend less on what you don't absolutely need don't regret too much since you can't change the past, focus in the present instead and you're not a loser or burden, you'll pay back all that money and more if you just keep going, good luck OP <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelytraveler 5 Posted March 25, 2019 Author Share Posted March 25, 2019 (Sorry for my bad english.) How many years are left in your college, currently? Just try to focus to finish it first. And while, maybe you can try to search a new job with better payment. Right now I regret a lot of the decisions I made in the past. I regret wasting so much money on frivolous things instead of saving. I literally spend money on things that I threw away the next day. I have one year if I don't fail any more classes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No1 6,258 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 It's unfortunate that you've been delayed a bit, but it doesn't mean you should give up. You say that you have no talents, but talent is usually mistaken for skill, you just haven't found or developed yours yet, so start learning, even if it's not something as prestigious sounding as playing instruments, drawing or becoming a lawyer or doctor, you don't have to be, being average is perfectly normal and acceptable, most people are. So go a find something you will be able to develop, even if it's landscaping, plumbing, becoming an electrician, it doesn't matter; if you do it right, you will be able to hold your head high and make money out of it. Not all in life is work, get some hobbies that will make you happy, you don't even need to spend money on some of them. There is no shame in turning to your parents for support if you really need it and they're willing to give it. The past can't be changed, but learn from it and change your future. Make the necessary changes, make a budget and spend on the essential and save teh rest even if it's a little bit, plan a bit ahead. How badly do you want it is the question. Are you willing to sacrifice and suffer to become the best version of yourself you can be, or will continue to suffer with regrets? You started slow, but there's no reason why you still can't taking that first step now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winter Woods 278 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 I've been there before, When I graduated I had a major depression because I spent my life doing what others told me to do and meet my parents' expectations but I was very average at everything I did and I ended getting a degree in a major that I didn't even like. I found my self lost without any desire passion interest or will to live because I forgot to figure out who I was or what I wanted in life. Here's a little advice, find a part time job anything even if you don't like it and even if doesn't pay all the bills. Secondly not everyone have to be talented to make it in life, you just need to push yourself a little. I don't know if you have any type of interest but even if you don't try a lot of things whatever sounds interesting to you try it. Maybe you can consider going to a therapist or take a break from college and try to live on your own means, It's going to be really hard granted but this is the way you can build yourself up and create yourself also keep in mid it's ok to be untalented like I'm here and I'm getting through life struggling with depression and everything. You're good at something you just have to explore to figure it out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelytraveler 5 Posted March 25, 2019 Author Share Posted March 25, 2019 It's unfortunate that you've been delayed a bit, but it doesn't mean you should give up. You say that you have no talents, but talent is usually mistaken for skill, you just haven't found or developed yours yet, so start learning, even if it's not something as prestigious sounding as playing instruments, drawing or becoming a lawyer or doctor, you don't have to be, being average is perfectly normal and acceptable, most people are. So go a find something you will be able to develop, even if it's landscaping, plumbing, becoming an electrician, it doesn't matter; if you do it right, you will be able to hold your head high and make money out of it. Not all in life is work, get some hobbies that will make you happy, you don't even need to spend money on some of them. There is no shame in turning to your parents for support if you really need it and they're willing to give it. The past can't be changed, but learn from it and change your future. How badly do you want it is the question. Are you willing to sacrifice and suffer to become the best version of yourself you can be, or will continue to suffer with regrets? You started slow, but there's no reason why you still can't taking that first step now. I have wasted so much money my parents have given me throughout my life. I regret that so much and I know that I can't change the past but the past is eating me up. I have made so many bad financial decisions that it is all coming down on me at once. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Repeat 1,397 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 You can't change the past but you can learn from it. It's not too late to turn your life around. You're not a loser you've just made some bad decisions, which you're now acknowledging and I think that's very brave. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No1 6,258 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 I have wasted so much money my parents have given me throughout my life. I regret that so much and I know that I can't change the past but the past is eating me up. I have made so many bad financial decisions that it is all coming down on me at once. So you have two choices, wallow in self regret and do nothing, or let that regret be your driving force that gets you started on a better path. It's not going to be easy or pretty, and you will probably not like it, but if you want it, then get started as soon as possible. Start with a part time job, even if it is at a convenience store with a graveyard shift, it will be better than nothing. People will be willing to help you out, even if it's a stranger on the internet that will give you a pep talk or a listening ear when you need it. Don't give up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mingyu's Blue Hair 1,503 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 Right now I regret a lot of the decisions I made in the past. I regret wasting so much money on frivolous things instead of saving. I literally spend money on things that I threw away the next day. I have one year if I don't fail any more classes. I think never is too late. I know you can't change your past but you can save your future. Look your past, see your mistakes and take lessons from them to NEVER did it again. I know you feel sad, guilty, ashamed from them. Use this negative feelings as motivations. If you quit from everything you will lose all your changes and waste your family's help for you. But if you don't give up, continue to fight I believe you will get a clear result that pay off all this works, pains, money, time that spended. Fight for your family and people who trusted you. You have to pay debt with your hardwork. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YuMing 4,176 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 Right now I regret a lot of the decisions I made in the past. I regret wasting so much money on frivolous things instead of saving. I literally spend money on things that I threw away the next day. I have one year if I don't fail any more classes. just one more year, you've got this! study hard, pass, and then you can start working on getting a higher-paying job and don't spend too much time regretting, it won't change anything and will just make you sad change yourself for the better and don't make the same mistakes, focus on the future Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nabongs 839 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 (Sorry for my bad english.) It's never too late too change, as long as there is a will there's a way. Not to think lightly of your situation, but there are a lot of people suffer much worst situation than you and could still survive. Family and friends are your source of power, communicate with them, throw away your shame and ask for their help. Slowly solve your problems, if you can still finish your study then do it, if not then it's not the end of the world, a lot of drop out made more money then graduated student work at the office, it will take time for sure but one day you will find the job for you as long as you don't stop trying, a lot of job aren't thought at school but only need your willingness to learn about it, don't afraid to make mistakes and failed. If baby afraid to make mistakes and fall then they will never be able to walk properly, think like them, all those failure and mistake will shape you to be much better person in life if you think is as a lesson. For years my grandpa used to be just a waiter at a restaurant, the he slowly go up the ladder and in the end he retired as owner of 3 big restaurant in our state. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoUsername 263 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 If you're worried about being a financial burden to your parents, why not contribute in some way? Like instead of them paying the full rent, why not they pay a portion and then you pay portion? Something you can afford. Also, are your parents making you feel like you're a financial burden? Don't worry about not graduating, everyone has their own paths and it DOES NOT make you a loser for staying in school for longer. In my first year of university, after my first semester, I was placed on academic probation because my grades were so bad. I thought that was it for me, I wasn't going to graduate and just waste all my money spent on tuition, but even after all that I'm now doing my masters. So things do get better, trust me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rubi_Rose 1,327 Posted March 26, 2019 Share Posted March 26, 2019 Don't feel that you're a failure or useless. You can't change the past but there is still time to work in the present and improve the future. I read that you still have 1 year left until you finish college, focus on that first and study hard enough to graduate and then you can get a better job. Maybe you can pay a portion of your rent while your parents pay the other portion or if you really struggling move back to your parents house. About talent, you may not yet have found your true skills, it's a matter of trying new things, maybe you can even find something that you can invest and make money from it. Don't beat yourself too much, everyone makes bad decisions you just need to learn from them. Regretting the past won't make anything better, time just passes and the situation is not resolved. It may be a hard journey but you will see that things will get better, but it is only up to you and how much you are willing change. You're not alone, maybe you should talk to someone about this maybe a professional,friends or familiars? You can't keep all this burden to yourself. I hope everything goes well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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