Bom 2,161 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 Is so difficult.. to make real friendships. I have work friends, my old circle who are always busy, it's lonely.. I have no one to spend my free time with and I'm so fed up of sitting home. Anyone have any tips for making friends as an adult? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hormones. 886 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 I mean you can join clubs whether it's martial arts, dancing or a sport club... It's normal to be like that though, every friend I have talks like this....I'm introverted so having just one friend is way more than enough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChooChoo 1,510 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 sport sounds like the best bet Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soilei 4,812 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 side activities or try to find someone who listens kpop who is your age. maybe they end up being nice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
montchery 3,185 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 Same.. I am introverted and kind of shy too so it makes it hard to approach new people.. My only real friends are now living far abroad and sure I know people from work and there is my flatmates as well, but we dont really hang out together. I wish I could give advice but I think I need it too.. I am not into sports so so far I've tried joining language classes but most of my classmates are younger than me, I've also joined book clubs but other than the 2 hours spent together talking about the book of the week it hasnt really worked out. I am now looking into voluntary work activities, we will see how that goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
begginforthread 869 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 Bars Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eunheart 4,862 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 sports is one way indeed but some gonna cost you money for it so- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NINI 16,267 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 sport sounds like the best bet [2] especially sports that require teamwork - also, maybe even if you aren't particularly fond of some of your old friends I'd suggest to go out with them once or twice, you'll eventually meet new people! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fairyn 78 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 i have exactly the same problem. i used to do my college years abroad, but now i'm back to my hometown. most of my college friends weren't from my city so we barely met each other anymore. i only have my high school friends here, but not all of them lived here anymore. i have only like 1-2 friends that i can hang out with right now, and they aren't always available so i feel lonely sometimes. i tried to find new friends from joining some clubs, i met new people, we haven't really become friends but at least it's something. i'm a shy person so it's also hard for me to find new friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bom 2,161 Posted March 19, 2019 Author Share Posted March 19, 2019 I mean you can join clubs whether it's martial arts, dancing or a sport club... It's normal to be like that though, every friend I have talks like this....I'm introverted so having just one friend is way more than enough. I've joined a language exchange club in my town since I'm learning Japanese will see how that goes. I wish I was introverted enough to be alone. side activities or try to find someone who listens kpop who is your age. maybe they end up being nice I will try ~ It'd be nice to have friends who I actually have things in common with. Same.. I am introverted and kind of shy too so it makes it hard to approach new people.. My only real friends are now living far abroad and sure I know people from work and there is my flatmates as well, but we dont really hang out together. I wish I could give advice but I think I need it too.. I am not into sports so so far I've tried joining language classes but most of my classmates are younger than me, I've also joined book clubs but other than the 2 hours spent together talking about the book of the week it hasnt really worked out. I am now looking into voluntary work activities, we will see how that goes. I'm in the same boat, except I'm kind of extroverted I like being around people but I'm so socially awkward. I attend a Japanese class once a week and thought I'd end up making friends but it didn't work out that way. I've joined a language exchange club in my city so I'm going to see how that goes. I feel so awkward to go out of my way to meet people. Good luck ~ I hope it goes well for you. Bars Tried it, once people sober up it never ends up working out. i have exactly the same problem. i used to do my college years abroad, but now i'm back to my hometown. most of my college friends weren't from my city so we barely met each other anymore. i only have my high school friends here, but not all of them lived here anymore. i have only like 1-2 friends that i can hang out with right now, and they aren't always available so i feel lonely sometimes. i tried to find new friends from joining some clubs, i met new people, we haven't really become friends but at least it's something. i'm a shy person so it's also hard for me to find new friends. Same, I have like 1-2 people I can hang with but they're mostly busy. My experience was the same met people but we didn't become friends. Why is it so difficult? I hope you have some luck soon! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss.Miss 8,896 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 Get involved in local activities or volunteering groups depending on what your interests are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
montchery 3,185 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 I'm in the same boat, except I'm kind of extroverted I like being around people but I'm so socially awkward. I attend a Japanese class once a week and thought I'd end up making friends but it didn't work out that way. I've joined a language exchange club in my city so I'm going to see how that goes. I feel so awkward to go out of my way to meet people. Good luck ~ I hope it goes well for you. Oh I understand, I feel awkward as well.. also I find it hard to connect with people for some reason, so even when I meet new people it is just hard to become friends (what I mean to say is I dont feel like we really click well? most of the times, so the people I make an effort to meet usually end up being acquaintances only, not friends). I dont know why I am like this. Thank you, I wish you good luck too and hope it all goes well ♥ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fairyn 78 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 Same, I have like 1-2 people I can hang with but they're mostly busy. My experience was the same met people but we didn't become friends. Why is it so difficult? I hope you have some luck soon! good luck to you too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abra 40,910 Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 It's so difficult Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 After graduating college and getting a job I found the easiest way would be to have different activities to do besides work. I also don't hang around much with people in work as most of they're older than and the people I used to hang around with now are either busy or live somewhere else so I would only hang with them in holidays or when they visit town. Then besides work I try to do other stuff like doing exercise, learning a new language or even something like going to dance classes would help you to socialize with different people. P.S. I also have online friends from playing videogames lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blond jenissi 676 Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 ikr I guess it's easier to make friends in work or uni, otherwise a hobby/activity helps you meet people with common interests as you Going out with friends and their other friends can be fun too bc if a friend of yours likes some people you'll probably like them too ig Online friends are easier to find but you gotta be careful trusting people in the internet and all and you can never really hang out together... - advise from a person that has actually made 0 real/good friends as an adult Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lolly21 2,103 Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Wow, this is my kind of thread :( I am 24 and graduated from college last year and I am in the same situation! I have like, maybe 2 or 3 people I can hang out with but they are all so busy or I feel like I´m bothering them I joined a gym last year and I have lost around 45 lbs (yay!) but I do not have friends from there... They are acquaintances and I´m awkward when I meet new people. How do you make friends? How to start a conversation? I wish I had friends who could be as interested enough to hang out with me just as I would be with them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edelgard 4,845 Posted March 22, 2019 Share Posted March 22, 2019 the only new friends i've made is from work lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lumimochi 182 Posted March 23, 2019 Share Posted March 23, 2019 All the suggestions mentioned are ones I'd suggest as well. I also recommend volunteering somewhere, or if you have a pet, a pet meet. :-) good luck, OP! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilkay45 147 Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 I feel you. I graduated college last year and have been more anti social than ever! When I got my full time job, I was surrounded by people who were nice but mainly older than me. They were always talking about their kids and partners. I could have a fast conversation with them but wouldn’t know how to further continue the conversations. Plus they have much different interests than me. Then I got placed in another position for the mean time and now I just sit in an office with my supervisor who doesn’t talk at all. It’s just me and him. He’s so focus on his work. The office is on the other side of the warehouse and far away from my the those co workers. I don’t even see them anymore. Plus I don’t really keep in contact with my friends from college. I was a commuter and it was hard to make friends. We even had a confession page and so much people felt the same. We were all so busy. I’m type of person who needs to take some time to be friends with someone. Luckily I do have 1-2 friends from hs I still talk to and we hang out pretty often but that’s about it. I tried to take dance classes to learn some kpop dances and to meet people but everyone just goes to class and go home. Felt like college again. Idk it has been hard and I’m not good at making friends tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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