sdtwfs 3,600 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 My social anxiety has improved a lot since this time last year. I just came home after meeting with two of my close friends that I haven't seen in over a year and normally I would have felt really anxious and drained halfway through but now my anxiety is only at its peak after I arrived home but it's still bearable. I feel like listening to relaxing songs helps to calm me down lately (but it never used to work though so I don't get what's changed lol) Also just organising my thoughts by speaking out loud? i've listened to so many songs that were recommended in the last hour but these two were my favourites!^^ btw the lyrics for the second song are kind of dark lol i still liked it though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eriy.m 2,900 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 I sleep. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nimz 3,113 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 I listen to music, play a video game, take a nap if I feel tired, and really just bask in some quiet for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lugoose 11,398 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 simple, i don't. LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO no but, i really just force myself to hang out with people... and i'm so tired nowadays that my anxiety can't even kick in unless it's a presentation in front of a huge group of people so i guess i have one thing to thank my insomnia and unhealthy body for... idt i'll ever be comfortable with holding oral presentations but i'm getting much better at casual convos with people i'm not close to i used to find it scary paying for shit at the store... but now i just can't be bothered Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amal.ha 6,674 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 One of my best friends has the same thing !! Most of the time, we have a code and she text one of us that she want to leave or feels uncomfortable, so we leave . She deals with it little by little , and day by day . She gets huge panic attacks, but we try to give her space to calm down . She loves the sea, it calms her down a lot so hope you can try it too ?? Also she does Yoga and public speech courses + therapy too . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdtwfs 3,600 Posted February 18, 2019 Author Share Posted February 18, 2019 simple, i don't. LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO no but, i really just force myself to hang out with people... and i'm so tired nowadays that my anxiety can't even kick in unless it's a presentation in front of a huge group of people so i guess i have one thing to thank my insomnia and unhealthy body for... idt i'll ever be comfortable with holding oral presentations but i'm getting much better at casual convos with people i'm not close to i used to find it scary paying for shit at the store... but now i just can't be bothered yeah that might be the reason why i'm less anxious in social situations - i barely get any sleep because of school work and just being super unorganised in general which caused me to have insomnia lol. my therapist and parents have given me strategies to work on my organisation so i can be more realxed and try to get enough sleep and it seems to be working? i hope things get better for you when it comes to sleeping, it sure can be a pain in the ass :((( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdtwfs 3,600 Posted February 18, 2019 Author Share Posted February 18, 2019 One of my best friends has the same thing !! Most of the time, we have a code and she text one of us that she want to leave or feels uncomfortable, so we leave . She deals with it little by little , and day by day . She gets huge panic attacks, but we try to give her space to calm down . She loves the sea, it calms her down a lot so hope you can try it too ?? Also she does Yoga and public speech courses + therapy too . I live in the city so I don't think that's ideal for me haha But I have been going to therapy and I recently started a cookery course! So far I think it's a good distraction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amal.ha 6,674 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 I live in the city so I don't think that's ideal for me haha But I have been going to therapy and I recently started a cookery course! So far I think it's a good distraction. Oh the city I live in is surrounded by water so I forget that's not the case for everyone sorry. Good luck and wish you the very best I'm sure you'll do great . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digiwon 5,843 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 I try to pretend I'm fine bc I remember most of the time ppl can never tell how I'm feeling inside. There was only few times my anxiety kicked so hard ppl literally asked me if I was ok lmao now I just try not to judge myself and focus in the present. If something embarrassing happens I act as if its no big deal and lately this been really working for me, I don't have these annoying flashbacks you know? If I have I just laugh. Esp when i know a lot of ppl who trigger my social anxiety I'll probably never see again anyway. So I just try to move on. But I think its essential to choose wisely the people you want around you. People who are in a similar vibe and think in a similar way as you are less draining to be with. Even if I had good friends and fun with them, some just weren't the best option when I was feeling anxious, so it depends on the moment too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lugoose 11,398 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 yeah that might be the reason why i'm less anxious in social situations - i barely get any sleep because of school work and just being super unorganised in general which caused me to have insomnia lol. my therapist and parents have given me strategies to work on my organisation so i can be more realxed and try to get enough sleep and it seems to be working? i hope things get better for you when it comes to sleeping, it sure can be a pain in the ass :((( ohhh! i've heard about exercises but not strategies on how to organize your schedule i suppose is what you're doing? i used to take sleeping pills but they were of a very low dose so they really did no difference and my family do not want me to get stronger ones so i really have to rely on waiting for my body to become so exhausted that i fall asleep... it's an unhealthy way of living but i really don't know what else to do... i'm too busy and anxious over seeking help irl, i did once but they just prescribed me those faddy sleeping pills that barely made a difference thank you ;; i'm starting uni soon so i really want to get my life in place before then i'm glad things are working out better for you now! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shalnark 989 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 I carry a pocket mirror everywhere, I look at it straight into my eyes as if I were talking to myself. I pretend like I'm checking my make up so it doesn't look weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katsu curry chips 7,808 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 i get plenty of sleep, avoid drinking too much, work out a lot, work on my mindset (i.e. prevent myself from spiraling due to old experiences), and above all, i take meds - not for social anxiety but for general anxiety and it's changed my feelings about my social life too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rebelheart 7 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 To "cure" social anxiety, I try to put myself in situations where I have to deal with people. It's uncomfortable, but it's a good kind of uncomfortable and it gradually gets easier the more I commit. I think social interaction is a skill that can be improved, but can also get rusty if you avoid it for too long. For immediate relief, I make it a habit to put myself in third person and analyze the situation before allowing myself to be nervous. For example if I'm in a crowded space and I feel that I'm being stared at by everyone, I ask myself "Why would they be staring at me? They have their own lives to worry about. I'm overreacting, and even if they are staring at me why should I give af?" Reminding myself that my mind is my own worst enemy gives me confidence to slay in public like its a runway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vortex 7,015 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 I guess getting the full 8 hours of sleep works best for me. If I don't feel awake and energized, then I'm just not willing to put any effort into social interactions. I have a networking event that I'm gonna attend in an a few hours and honestly don't know how I'll fare or even if I'll go tbh lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 I listen to music, play a video game, take a nap if I feel tired, and really just bask in some quiet for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose. 4,207 Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 I've just let the waves take me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caiii 1,420 Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 Meditating. Smoking. And having gone to the gym before any social event really boosts my mood and confidence, makes me much less likely to feel anxiety for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cherry yuuki 458 Posted February 23, 2019 Share Posted February 23, 2019 Working out has helped me improve a lot but I mostly just force myself, at this point. At the end of the day, avoiding certain situations is going to make me more anxious because then I get fear of missing out so, I've been saying "F*** it" and just doing things now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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