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This Guy Who Knows I Have A Thing For Him Continously Tells Me Things That I Really Have No Idea How To Respond To


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Long story short, this guy who I met through friends knows I have a thing for him and so he talked to me showing interest in me. However, I realized that the majority of the time he talks to me it's always him telling me how he went on a date with someone who ended up ghosting him, how he saw it coming, how he went on a date and didn't feel anything toward him, etc. It's like, he keeps bringing shit up like this and I really have no idea how to even respond to him. I'm usually a good person who is patient and gives people good advice (according to the people that I do) but when it comes to someone who KNOWS I like him and proceeds to tell me all this, I'm just stumped at what to do since it's me in the situation first hand.

 

I need some advice, like why does he keep doing this when he knows pretty clearly that I like him? And then when I respond with simple, "Oh, sorry to hear that" or "I see" he writes back with, "Sorry cutie, I shouldn't be bringing this up with you! What you up to now?" It's like he's stringing me along or something (maybe the fact that people keep ghosting him is payback for him stringing me along like this idk)

 

Please help :(

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he sounds insecure af, and this:

 

"Sorry cutie, I shouldn't be bringing this up with you! What you up to now?"

 

Is cringy af and putting me off EVEN MORE

 

are you sure you like this guy? These type of insecure, wanna try doing to others what has been done to them guys are a BIG NO they're worse than people who ghost tbh

 

+ There should be A REASON all this stuff that happened to him happened so yeah basically he's a no

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He's a commitment phobe. He's trying to keep you on ice, either as an ego boost or a pick me up whenever he gets rejected. Maybe in the back of his mind, he's thinking if he can't find something better, maybe he'll "settle" for you. He gives just enough interest to make sure you won't try to move on, but he's happy to keep things nebulous so that if you ever try to press him on it, he can pretend like you're imagining things or in your feelings and he had nothing to do with it.

 

You don't deserve to be treated that way. Find an emoji or a canned response like "aw that sucks" to text to all his messages so he takes a minimum of your energy and stop letting him play with your mind.

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I know guys like this reeks of insecurity and just wants to play with you and make himself feel good.


Ignore him. If he texts you just ignore. Don't block, just ignore and if he asks why you haven't been responding, just shrug your shoulders and say you been very busy. 


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he seems like a weewee

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Thank you everyone for responding and sharing your thoughts. I think the more people I heard from, the more I realized that I'm really wasting my time on this guy. He is clearly only stringing me along until he's bored with me then moves onto someone else. A lot of what you guys said makes so much sense. I don't need someone like him in my life, I can do better than this. Our text conversation (thanks to all of your help) went like this yesterday:

 

Him: Hey gorgeous, what you up to?

Me: Having dinner with some friends (Side note: I was at home doing absolutely nothing and responded 30 minutes after lol)

Him: Are your friends cute? Wouldn't want them taking you from me haha. :P

Me: All of my friends are cute because I surround myself with good people. I'm not your property to be taken from.

Him: Haha you right, just wanted to talk to you and ask you something.

Me: What is it this time?

Him: Haha 'nother guy ghosted me tonight. We were supposed to go on a date and he stood me up. He blocked me on Jack'd.

Me: Oh. That sucks.

Him: Yeah, idk why guys keep doing this to me.

Me: I don't know either.

Him: Are you okay? Your texts seems off, you're not using emojis like you usually do.

Me: *rolling eyes emoji* happy now?

Him: Are you mad at me?
Me: No. I just don't have time to be listening to your failed hookups.

Him: Aww, you jealous babe?

Me: Don't call me babe, I'm not your babe.

Him: Damn ok I'm sorry. Let's go out for dinner.

Me: Already ate.

Him: Dessert? hehe ;)

Me: Nah I'm full.

Him: I can fill you up in other ways hehe ;)

Me: What's that supposed to mean? (Clearly I know what he means though)

Him: Haha oh you know just (Cutting this off cause he gets pretty vulgar here)

Me: I practice safe sex

Him: Ok. We can use a condom. ;)

Me: Who's "we"?

Him: You and I duh

Me: What makes you think I'm gonna wanna sleep with you?

Him: I thought you liked me too?

Me: I did at first, but not after I got to know you better.

Him: What did I do? :(

Me: You only talk to me when someone ditches you, and you only flirt with me when nobody else is on your tail. I don't have time for your games.

Him: Damn I'm so sorry. I didn't mean that. Can I call you? (proceeds to call)

Me: I'm busy now I can't talk and I don't wanna be on my phone right now when I'm with my friends.

Him: Can I talk to you later?

Me: I'll think about it. Goodnight.

 

He proceeded to message me three more times but I just ignored it.

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Thank you everyone for responding and sharing your thoughts. I think the more people I heard from, the more I realized that I'm really wasting my time on this guy. He is clearly only stringing me along until he's bored with me then moves onto someone else. A lot of what you guys said makes so much sense. I don't need someone like him in my life, I can do better than this. Our text conversation (thanks to all of your help) went like this yesterday:

 

Him: Hey gorgeous, what you up to?

Me: Having dinner with some friends (Side note: I was at home doing absolutely nothing and responded 30 minutes after lol)

Him: Are your friends cute? Wouldn't want them taking you from me haha. :P

Me: All of my friends are cute because I surround myself with good people. I'm not your property to be taken from.

Him: Haha you right, just wanted to talk to you and ask you something.

Me: What is it this time?

Him: Haha 'nother guy ghosted me tonight. We were supposed to go on a date and he stood me up. He blocked me on Jack'd.

Me: Oh. That sucks.

Him: Yeah, idk why guys keep doing this to me.

Me: I don't know either.

Him: Are you okay? Your texts seems off, you're not using emojis like you usually do.

Me: *rolling eyes emoji* happy now?

Him: Are you mad at me?

Me: No. I just don't have time to be listening to your failed hookups.

Him: Aww, you jealous babe?

Me: Don't call me babe, I'm not your babe.

Him: Damn ok I'm sorry. Let's go out for dinner.

Me: Already ate.

Him: Dessert? hehe ;)

Me: Nah I'm full.

Him: I can fill you up in other ways hehe ;)

Me: What's that supposed to mean? (Clearly I know what he means though)

Him: Haha oh you know just (Cutting this off cause he gets pretty vulgar here)

Me: I practice safe sex

Him: Ok. We can use a condom. ;)

Me: Who's "we"?

Him: You and I duh

Me: What makes you think I'm gonna wanna sleep with you?

Him: I thought you liked me too?

Me: I did at first, but not after I got to know you better.

Him: What did I do? :(

Me: You only talk to me when someone ditches you, and you only flirt with me when nobody else is on your tail. I don't have time for your games.

Him: Damn I'm so sorry. I didn't mean that. Can I call you? (proceeds to call)

Me: I'm busy now I can't talk and I don't wanna be on my phone right now when I'm with my friends.

Him: Can I talk to you later?

Me: I'll think about it. Goodnight.

 

He proceeded to message me three more times but I just ignored it.

honestly good for you, you can do so much better 

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Thank you everyone for responding and sharing your thoughts. I think the more people I heard from, the more I realized that I'm really wasting my time on this guy. He is clearly only stringing me along until he's bored with me then moves onto someone else. A lot of what you guys said makes so much sense. I don't need someone like him in my life, I can do better than this. Our text conversation (thanks to all of your help) went like this yesterday:

 

Him: Hey gorgeous, what you up to?

Me: Having dinner with some friends (Side note: I was at home doing absolutely nothing and responded 30 minutes after lol)

Him: Are your friends cute? Wouldn't want them taking you from me haha. :P

Me: All of my friends are cute because I surround myself with good people. I'm not your property to be taken from.

Him: Haha you right, just wanted to talk to you and ask you something.

Me: What is it this time?

Him: Haha 'nother guy ghosted me tonight. We were supposed to go on a date and he stood me up. He blocked me on Jack'd.

Me: Oh. That sucks.

Him: Yeah, idk why guys keep doing this to me.

Me: I don't know either.

Him: Are you okay? Your texts seems off, you're not using emojis like you usually do.

Me: *rolling eyes emoji* happy now?

Him: Are you mad at me?

Me: No. I just don't have time to be listening to your failed hookups.

Him: Aww, you jealous babe?

Me: Don't call me babe, I'm not your babe.

Him: Damn ok I'm sorry. Let's go out for dinner.

Me: Already ate.

Him: Dessert? hehe ;)

Me: Nah I'm full.

Him: I can fill you up in other ways hehe ;)

Me: What's that supposed to mean? (Clearly I know what he means though)

Him: Haha oh you know just (Cutting this off cause he gets pretty vulgar here)

Me: I practice safe sex

Him: Ok. We can use a condom. ;)

Me: Who's "we"?

Him: You and I duh

Me: What makes you think I'm gonna wanna sleep with you?

Him: I thought you liked me too?

Me: I did at first, but not after I got to know you better.

Him: What did I do? :(

Me: You only talk to me when someone ditches you, and you only flirt with me when nobody else is on your tail. I don't have time for your games.

Him: Damn I'm so sorry. I didn't mean that. Can I call you? (proceeds to call)

Me: I'm busy now I can't talk and I don't wanna be on my phone right now when I'm with my friends.

Him: Can I talk to you later?

Me: I'll think about it. Goodnight.

 

He proceeded to message me three more times but I just ignored it.

Lol he deserved it, this was so satisfying to read

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Haha glad you enjoyed it, it honestly felt so nice to be "whatever" with him instead of being nice.

I'm glad you realized he's a nobody. To be honest, don't reply to him anymore at all no matter what he sends, if comes to talk to you outside tell him to leave you alone and to not talk to you anymore. That way you can get rid of him, bc he sounds clingy

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I'm glad you realized he's a nobody. To be honest, don't reply to him anymore at all no matter what he sends, if comes to talk to you outside tell him to leave you alone and to not talk to you anymore. That way you can get rid of him, bc he sounds clingy

 

Yeah I'm not responding to him, he's messaged me a couple of more times apologizing but I just stopped caring. Chances of seeing him in public are slim but if I do happen to run into him that's exactly what I'm going to do. He knows what he did and if he thinks I'm ghosting him then so be it, it was his doing anyway. :)

 

Try dating a girl next time?

 

No. Because I'm gay, not bi.

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