enchante 4,542 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 So this has been weighing on my mind lately and I thought I'd let you guys see the facts and weigh in. I have a twin sister, we're both in high school. The other night at my 18th birthday party she came to visit while I was eating dinner with my friends. When she was there she made fun of me in front of them in very hurtful and personal ways, teasing me for not knowing how to drive and not having a job, and then showed off all of her car keys and her direct deposit check. It didn't occur to me that this wasn't normal behavior for siblings until my friends told me that what she said was wrong and she was being rude. I've been so used to the way she treats me I just assumed all siblings were like that. As I've been doing some research I've come to believe that she's a narcissist and here are some of the reasons why - Constantly puts me down and aggrandizes herself - Our family is too scared to reprimand for her actions because her reactions are so violent and visceral - Incredibly self-involved and believes the world revolves around her and that her needs come first - Prone to getting in fights with others because she believes she's always right - Cares more about what people think than whether her actions are harmful or not So what do you guys think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coval 9,036 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 Your sister sounds exactly like my younger sister personality wise So yes she's a psychopath & narcissist sisters putting each other down is normal idk why your friends are saying it isn't I have an older and a younger we're all very close in age, i love them to bits and we usually get on but we fight like cats and we can be bitches to each other. It's normal to fight. Especially if you're close in age Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enchante 4,542 Posted January 9, 2019 Author Share Posted January 9, 2019 sisters putting each other down is normal idk why your friends are saying it isn't I have an older and a younger we're all very close in age, i love them to bits and we usually get on but we fight like cats and we can be bitches to each other. It's normal to fight. Especially if you're close in age it's probably because of the degree my sister goes to when making fun of me, this is just one instance but her attacks are pretty constant and can get really bad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdtwfs 3,600 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 Yes, I think she's a narcissist. But I also think the teasing is pretty normal between siblings, even more so for twins... I'm assuming since you are the same age. But why was your friend so concerned? Are they an only child? My sister has said a lot worse about me in front of my friends and they just laugh with her lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ego ista 1,344 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 I don’t think you should leave people on the internet to decide Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enchante 4,542 Posted January 9, 2019 Author Share Posted January 9, 2019 Yes, I think she's a narcissist. But I also think the teasing is pretty normal between siblings, even more so for twins... I'm assuming since you are the same age. But why was your friend so concerned? Are they an only child? My sister has said a lot worse about me in front of my friends and they just laugh with her lol All of my friends have siblings and they agreed that the degree to which my sister would tease me was taking it too far. It's kind of hard to communicate in writing but she has a certain way of speaking that intonates that I'm the scum of the earth. I don’t think you should leave people on the internet to decide It's not deciding, it's just getting a second opinion. I'm fairly certain myself that she is a narcissist but I wanted to check and make sure in my own little thought bubble I wasn't overreacting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdtwfs 3,600 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 All of my friends have siblings and they agreed that the degree to which my sister would tease me was taking it too far. It's kind of hard to communicate in writing but she has a certain way of speaking that intonates that I'm the scum of the earth. I guess that makes sense. I think I was just imagining her saying it in a playful way but crossed the line. You should definitely speak to her about it and be open about how you feel. Siblings teasing each other is normal but she's pushing it if it's to the point where she puts you down and humiliates you in front of your friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seriously 1,588 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 No offence, but what she sounds like to me... is a bit of an asshole. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enchante 4,542 Posted January 9, 2019 Author Share Posted January 9, 2019 No offence, but what she sounds like to me... is a bit of an asshole. I mean yeah, she definitely is, but I still love her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emsa 1,742 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 Um I'd talk to a psychiatrist or something first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raosei 445 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 I wouldn't want that for a sister. Sounds horrible :/ This is why sometimes I'm happy to just have a brother and mostly male cousins bc I would lose the bitch fights I hear happen between sisters. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 She does appear to be one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DolphinGremlin 938 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 I don't think it does much good to get random people on the internet to "diagnose" your sister with a personality disorder. I think you should just try to talk to her about it and stand up for yourself more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enchante 4,542 Posted January 9, 2019 Author Share Posted January 9, 2019 I don't think it does much good to get random people on the internet to "diagnose" your sister with a personality disorder. I think you should just try to talk to her about it and stand up for yourself more. I'm not trying to get a diagnosis, just a second opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelanatedBeauty 13,655 Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 Yeah she's narcissistic, insecure, and jealous of you..seems narcissists always have this factor in common..they always have either 1 or 2 enabling parents who turn a blind eye to the fuckery they do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loonatrash 2,441 Posted January 10, 2019 Share Posted January 10, 2019 She definitely is just from reading all of this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
capital 855 Posted January 10, 2019 Share Posted January 10, 2019 Ah I mercilessly tease my sisters but not in front of outsiders, no. Then we're an united front. What I found odd is she's trying to humiliate you in front of your peers, and elevate herself in comparison. The thing is that you write - "she came to visit" and "my friends" which says that she isn't a part of your friend group and wasn't a part of the party, and both of you live separate lives with little/less interaction within your circles. Being that you're twins and are in high school, the above is quite shocking. This isn't normal to me. If your family is worried about her violent rage, and fears to reprimand I think you should probably try and ask your parents to take all of you to counselling, first. It may be that this is just teen-hormonal over-reaction - in which case your parents need to be taught how to guide her without causing fissure in the family. If this is serious (as in an actual phychological illness) as per the psych, then she may do better with therapy and medication. Because, if her nature extends into her adult-life she may suffer - so please try and get her treatment Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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