lonelytraveler 5 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 From what I have seen from K/J dramas and interacting with international Japanese and Korean students, they tend to be very well-mannered and polite. Do you prefer those kind of mannerism when it comes to interacting with random people either just general socializing or dating? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enchante 4,542 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 I think I'd prefer it if everyone was polite yeah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ego ista 1,344 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Meh just general Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waycrispy1 3,434 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Nope, too restrictive Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UMJI MOODS 11,520 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Politeness in general is nice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaitoh 1,457 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 In certain aspects yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DolphinGremlin 938 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Politeness is nice but sometimes it can get too fake sometimes. Like I'm Taiwanese descent and people in Taiwan are very polite but sometimes they aren't telling you what they really think of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosiecon 246 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 not really Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelytraveler 5 Posted January 1, 2019 Author Share Posted January 1, 2019 Politeness is nice but sometimes it can get too fake sometimes. Like I'm Taiwanese descent and people in Taiwan are very polite but sometimes they aren't telling you what they really think of you. Why would they though? Wouldn't that start confrontations? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DolphinGremlin 938 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Why would they though? Wouldn't that start confrontations? Well it's just that things aren't told to you straight. It's not always rude things. But sometimes you want people to be honest with you and not always polite. Sometimes being polite is not always kind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ByulHarangBona 35,161 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Yes to a certain extent Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sully 4,318 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Only to a certain extent. I still prefer that it's okay to be more informal in general in the US when meeting people outside of a professional related thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
koreanpop 255 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 I don't like it personally, it's too fake and I'm sure it would lead to some stressful and awkward situations. I prefer western culture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katsu curry chips 7,808 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 it's what i'm most used to (social control, restrictive interaction esp w strangers, social mores and expectations of conduct, extreme politeness even in confrontation etc) i guess, so yea. if you know how to navigate it, it's comforting, but if you don't then it's very excluding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eyes On You 21 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 I love the Japanese and their well manners when it comes to customer service but not so much when it comes to relationships. You don't know if they are being sincere when they smile at you or when they say sorry because they keep their true feelings to themselves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starsocks 7,986 Posted January 2, 2019 Share Posted January 2, 2019 Being nice is good, but not being able to express yourself or say how you truly feel or what you really want is not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilies 2,186 Posted January 2, 2019 Share Posted January 2, 2019 I don't like it personally, it's too fake and I'm sure it would lead to some stressful and awkward situations. I prefer western culture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yiran 63 Posted January 2, 2019 Share Posted January 2, 2019 I think sometimes they have to be toooo polite, like for example the respect they have to show to their elders and superiors etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nowhere Boy 2,431 Posted January 2, 2019 Share Posted January 2, 2019 I think the respect they have to show for elders and stuff is stupid. If someone doesn’t respect me, I will never respect them. I will treat them with respect if they treat me with respect but I’m not going to roll out a red carpet and suck their dick, just because they’re older than me. Otherwise, I believe we should all be polite to each other. No reason not to, it puts good energy in the air and develops relationships. When someone is nice, I want to get to know them more usually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cobalt 2,914 Posted January 4, 2019 Share Posted January 4, 2019 I like how formal they are but I feel like there's no space for warmth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rejeshrimp 1,064 Posted January 4, 2019 Share Posted January 4, 2019 i feel like the respect they have to show for their elders can create barriers, you won't be able to be on the same 'wavelength' as them no matter how close u become because of this barrier of respect..? idk also only going from what i've seen i prefer western table etiquette ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted January 4, 2019 Share Posted January 4, 2019 I think that I would have to live that system for a time to be sure. But the idea of politeness is amazing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minnie._. 23,116 Posted January 5, 2019 Share Posted January 5, 2019 Japanese, arigato Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elscian 5,139 Posted January 5, 2019 Share Posted January 5, 2019 i like the greeting/helping people out part Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caffe 1,650 Posted January 5, 2019 Share Posted January 5, 2019 Sadly, in some cases, I've grown to find it terribly creepy and forced. It's because my Japanese teacher was so terribly conservative and cruel. She taught my class with such emotional terror that now I'm very cautious around Japanese people. I do know that teachers in Japan tend to be super harsh, but living in my country for over 10 years before teaching us should had taught her well enough that we have different social etiquette here.... However, she was good at teaching and she told us that the Japanese tend to hide their real selves behind, sometimes faked, smiles. (honne & tatemae). But ofc there are things that I do appreciate in Japanese and Korean social life, like respecting older generation and general politeness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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