Yoonability 4,159 Posted November 25, 2018 Share Posted November 25, 2018 Okay so, to make this story a little more simple, the first thing you should know is that a couple of years ago I would call myself a lesbian to most people whereas these days I'm coming to terms with the idea that I might very well be bisexual, but I haven't told this to anyone except for a handful of my best friends since I'm still figuring things out. There's this guy I've liked since a while ago. I've only met him in real life for three times? I believe, but he's a mutual friend of my friend's boyfriend so he occasionally pops up at events. I was always intrigued by him. I think he's quite handsome and I have always liked his personality, but obviously back then I didn't think I was attracted to men at all. We've been chatting on instagram some times recently and talking to him is really easy and the conversations are nice. Our last chat was really flirty and idk what that means. I would really like to ask him to go and have a drink with me, but I'm not sure how. As I sketched above, our relation to each other is not quite friends yet. It would feel super strange to sort of be like 'by the way, I'm figuring things out about my sexuality, and if you want we can have a drink' lol. Also, even though we have long conversations through instagram and I really don't feel like he's just replying to be kind, he has never begun the conversation himself. I don't want to make him feel burdened/be pushy. But I feel like I really like him. I want to reach out to him somehow, other than late night instagram chats. How should I proceed people of OH? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blond jenissi 676 Posted November 25, 2018 Share Posted November 25, 2018 maybe if you asked him out for coffee? make it sound casual. or if you feel like your relationship is not at that level yet, talk more online and if you both happen to be in some event, try having a conversation irl too. even if he doesn't start the conversations, if he didn't want to reply he just wouldn't or he would make excuses like "i have to go now for (thing) i have" early into the chat. Do you think he might dm you first if you don't for some days? i'm not so great with romantic advice ._. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tsukenomo 117 Posted November 25, 2018 Share Posted November 25, 2018 Get more comfortable with them first then tell him and maybe he'll understand better after getting more familiar over time about your situation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yoonability 4,159 Posted November 25, 2018 Author Share Posted November 25, 2018 maybe if you asked him out for coffee? make it sound casual. or if you feel like your relationship is not at that level yet, talk more online and if you both happen to be in some event, try having a conversation irl too. even if he doesn't start the conversations, if he didn't want to reply he just wouldn't or he would make excuses like "i have to go now for (thing) i have" early into the chat. Do you think he might dm you first if you don't for some days? i'm not so great with romantic advice ._. Your advice sounds pretty good to me. I should build a bit more on the way to a friendship, then I can probably ask him out for coffee or the movies casually~ thank you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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