Should I drop out uni for my mental health?

[beingpositivehere]

Recently I have been contemplating alot, I am now in my second year and major in business economics. Tbh I dont have problem with my major, I like the lessons and I'm interested in it. I don't have problem in academic demand, I'm grateful that I could achieve highest gpa in my major and recently obtain small part of scholarship based on my grades and organization. In organizational experience I dont have much problem as well. I'm now in 4 organizations in my uni and even become president in one of them. So I should be grateful and there's should not be any reason for me to drop out.

 

But it's because of my mental health. I think I'm quite fragile in terms of this as I have struggle in suicidal tendency since last year and a bit self harm. What I dont like about my uni is they really emphasized in group work, and I entered the group which the leader is manipulative, objectifying women, like to have sexual jokes, does not reluctant to even hit you, and he can stir everyone's mind to dislike one people. The thing is, he looks down on me because I cannot do presentation really well (I often nervous and has social anxiety) and he once accused me that I obtained good grades by cheating and questioning my leadership when I run for president (which I try hard to develop as I used to have severe social anxiety). I become paranoid with him to the point that my suicide tendency and self harm occur again (which I tried to suppress since last years). The things get worse as now i often get sick due to stress and infection from my self harm (I even bite myself out of conciousness). The thing about my self harm and suicidal thoughts is that I cannot control, as they are the one who overcome me and I become somebody else. I even hide my knife now and lock my window if it suddenly occurs again, which recently are more frequently than the past semester.

 

I think its ridiculuos how I should drop out because of one person, but my mental health is now worsen that I don't really dare to be alone as my otherself can do anything.

 

So what should I do? In my otherself it will be regretable that i have to leave everything, even my organization, but at the same time I want to keep on living

[#goddamnitkongwee]

I only took part in one club, because I knew my limits.

[AfterglowVape]

Can you take a semester gap? It sounds like me but I don't have the option of taking a gap or dropping out so it increases my chances of killing myself from the stress more. So if u feel pressured from anything that is affecting you mentally and causing stress that is interferring with daily activities and ending up in self harm you most definitely need to cut yourself off from the objects that are stressing u out however way possible. IT IS IMPORTANT TO DO SO AS SOON AS POSSIBLE OR IT WILL GET WORSE. (like it happened with me) You need to be kind to yourself because no one else will.

 

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Take a gap and do things that you find enjoyable like reading novels , watching tv or spending time with family/friends. Don't wait around for things to change by themselves because it does not and the hoping makes things ten times worse because you have expectations which will most likely get crushed.

[Panther]

Have you tried to change group ?

[Gojo Satoru]

Do you have any plans on what you will be doing after you maybe drop out? 

[BadByeBae]

I am so very sorry you have to deal with this. Before you leave, can you go to your university advisor as soon as possible and see how they can help you and support you in approaching the teacher? If you're not sure who that would be reach out to your advising office and they'll tell you who's assigned to you. You can also go directly to your teacher as well and discuss the treatment - I'm sorry again, I know this level of confrontation is terrifying when you're already anxious and spiraling.

 

But it's worth putting the effort in to get taken out of this group and away from this horrible human being before quitting school and losing all the hardwork you've done so far.

BUT again, if you can't get support, is there the option of online learning and finishing your degree with transferring your credits? You sound like a great student, so any way to get that official paper is good.

 

*hugs from a random stranger* Sorry again. People can suck so bad.

[bluesclues]

You're being bullied. He's being emotionally abusive and sexually harassing you to the point where you are having suicidal ideations and inflicting self harm means it's gone too far. 

 

You need to report him to the school. Talk with the other girls who he's also targeting and come together to change the scenario.

 

It's one thing to take a leave of absence for your own mental health but when there is a specific person who is the cause of this distress you need to deal with that first.

 

The problem isn't you, it's him.

[whisky23]

I believe that you are the best person to decide that threshold, where you feel that any further and the risk of you self-harming will be too much. Having said that, to leave and give up what you have already accomplished because the actions of one individual is also self-harming, and in the long-run may affect you mentally and emotionally as well, especially if it becomes a decision that you come to regret and beat yourself over. Leaving university can have a big impact on your life, socially and economically. While I don't believe that such a decision will be so life-changing that it can't be recovered from, deciding to drop out should be a decision that you shouldn't take lightly. 

 

The reality is that the person you described is everywhere in the world - online like here in OH, or even in your next job as your future boss. It's an issue that you'll continue to face throughout your life - that everyone also faces - and you are likely to encounter this type of person and situation again and again. How you deal with it now may reflect on how your deal with it in the future. 

 

My suggestion is to find some counseling service at your university and talk out your problem. They may not only be able to help you with managing your stress and anxiety, but they may also be able to get the university to do something about this person. Before you make a drastic decision like leave school, get help - talk to someone (at your university), get a different perspective, explore different options.

 

Stay positive.

[coval]

Definitely dont drop out

 

That should be your last resort after all the other options such as changing group, seeking advisor or counsellor help and reporting

 

You may not want to make a fuss and move group but after taking the initial step you will be 100x more thankful for it. You don't even have to report the guy if you really don't want to ( I still suggest you should) but please please please just tell your ta/ lecturer, anyone in charge that you are having serious issues either your group and you want to be moved because you feel very uncomfortable

[· Moonrise ·]

You shouldn’t have to suffer because of his actions why should he have the power to control your decisions regarding uni

 

And I agree with everything that previous posters have said