Would you love your father the same if he cheated on your mom?

[ItzMadame2U]

A while back, my friend revealed that her mother had found out that her father had been cheating. It was a really sad situation, her mom eventually filed for divorce from her dad after nearly thirty years of marriage (they have older children, my friend is only twenty-two). She had been feeling really bad and had been seeking other outlets to ease her mind from that situation, to be honest I felt immense pain for her. 

 

You hear the word "cheating", which is taboo as is, but we don't often see how it affects others involved who are not the significant others or spouses. It was truly a sad time and it was a bit infuriating as well, to think how someone could sabotage a relationship and their household for some bullshit. If he wasn't satisfied, fucking leave!

 

My friend didn't want to speak to her father again and as far as I know, she has yet to speak with him - and I don't blame her.

 

It made me think to myself, "what if that was me?". I couldn't help but to admit to myself that I don't think I could love my father the same after that, no doubt the relationship would be strained and I would acknowledge him as my dad, I don't think I would feel the same way for him if he cheated on my mom. He would pretty much be cheating on the family as well. 

 

 

How would you feel and how would you handle it if your parent had cheated on the other, would you feel the same way, would you be forgiving or what?

[idol diet]

I already have strong negative feelings about my father, so yeah, I kinda would.

[Stormborn]

No, to be honest. 

 

I'm far more attached/closer in general with my mother.. so yeah, it would affect it greatly. 

[Hero Kim Jaejoong]

My mom and dad been married from almost 22 years and honestly I don't know how I would handle it. My dad is always there for me and I am closer to him than my mom. I think I would still love my daddy.

[Lunatica]

i would hate my dad if he did that

[Allegra]

Well, he went to a concert in Korea with a woman at work and turned his phone off for 24 hours. I had negative feelings towards him but they kind of faded away.

[ItzMadame2U]

Tbh, cheating is already a f*cked up thing, but the longer the parents have been married, that would be incredibly devastating. 

[Elle Eaux Elle]

I don't know how I would react. 

[Yoona]

Lmao, well, he just basically ruined the entire family then. He's not exactly giving me any reasons to still be attached to him. The equivalent to a passing-by stranger, really.

[wings]

I don't love my father for many reasons, but I respect him and admire some of his behaviours. If he did that, I'd lose all the respect for him.

[Ludark]

Honestly it would depend on a lot of things

Examples are:

• How long has he been cheating?
• Why is cheating?
• Was he planning on confessing that he is cheating
• How is he behaving towards my mother, my siblings and me
• And more but that's all I can think of for now

There is also the chance that even though I might hate him for a while, that I would (partially) forgive him over time.

 

So honestly I can't say that I would or wouldn't hate my father for cheating on my mother, there are simply too many factors that play a role.

[Otaku]

I love my dad, and I know that he is not that type of person who would do such things.

But just in the off chance that he does, I probably would hate him, after all the hardships my mum has gone through, and now he's doing that to her. Quiet hard to say tbh.

[shimjoohyun]

first-i'll cry buckets

then it will never be the same again. i love my dad a lot, but if he's willing to sacrifice 26yrs of marriage because of a hoe then he's willing to lose my mom and his kids too. i just stay away from him

forgive him someday MAYBE but never forget

[Leia Greenleaf]

My dad cheated on my mom, I felt angry at him, but never stoped loving him. My parents are still together though. But even If they were not, I know that I would hate the woman he cheated with, but not my dad. I would fucking despise her, but would still love my dad, I think.

[Mehr03]

My father cheated on my mum and I hate him. 

[danny.]

I wouldn't treat him the same way again, let alone love him. I have so much respect for my dad because he is the most honest person I know and has a strong moral compass and character, so if he had cheated on my mother it wouldn't just be her who was deceived and hurt, but the rest of the family as well. I would hate him, absolutely.

 

I have a close friend who has actually went through the same thing a couple of years ago, her dad went behind her mother's back and now they're divorced, the kids are staying with their mum. Her dad got remarried 3 MONTHS after their divorce and already has a child. Now if that happened to me I honestly would never speak to my dad again. My friend on the other hand is still close with her dad and they hang out all the time, obviously displaying that she's 10000x more mature than I am tbh.

[Ulmicola]

Meh. My parents hate each other, and I wouldn't be surprised if one of them has already cheated on the other. I hate when people cheat on other people, but it's somewhat justifiable in my parents' case... hell, I wonder why they haven't divorced yet. If one of them actually still loved the other, however, I wouldn't speak to the cheater for the rest of his/her life.

[LaY_Yaa]

I can't tolerate cheating and if it's my dad I think I'll force myself to hate him even though it's hard. 

[Good People]

Maybe not the same but I'd still love him

 

There is no point wasting energy on hating parents, it's not good for you as a person

[a goldfinch]

I don't know how I feel about my dad at the moment. Does that say anything?

[Chunface]

i would hate him :ohdear:  and tell him to stay away from us

[anh.]

I honestly don't know

 

I despise cheaters but hating my parents is not something I would do. I mean, after all, they were the ones who took care of you since you were born and stuff. they are strict sometimes, but at the end of the day they just want the best for you

 

still, it's gonna suck for awhile. I might forgive, but I don't ever forget

[margarinebuttercheese]

Idk how to say this, but my situation is worse than your friend's situation. I still love my father.

[ghost_the_kid]

My dad cheated on my mom when she was pregnant w/ my brother and continued to cheat on her while she was pregnant w/ me. Because of him my mom has trust issues. She doesn't even trust her own sisters cuz they hid the fact that my dad was cheating on her. Becsuse of the trust issues my mom wouldn't even hire a baby sitter to take care of me and my brother when she went to work. My mom would always leave us at a park or a fast food place that had a play area like McDonald and would pick us up sometimes as late as 11pm. I have 3 half brothers. 2 were because of my dad cheating ways. I don't keep in contact with those 2. My dad's new wife only knows about my brother and I. She has no idea that my dad was cheating on her while she was pregnant with her 1st child nor does she know about the other 2. She should really thank my brother or else they would've been divorced by now. It wasn't until winter 2009 that my dad started treating me like his daughter. I still haven't forgiven him nor do feel confortable being w/ him. Never once have I given him a father's day present nor does he deserve one from me.

[pretty_angel92]

I already have strong negative feelings about my father, so yeah, I kinda would.