ridechanyeol 250 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 so i've been dating my boyfriend for several months now, and we've been pretty solid all throughout - he's a very sweet and considerate person, and genuinely makes me happy however there's just one issue that constantly sits at the back of my mind - he's on reasonably good terms with his ex-girlfriend. now hear me out before you call me out for being irrational - she was not a very good partner in their relationship: she lost interest within a few months and proceeded to flirt with and become inappropriately close with a lot of other guys whilst telling my boyfriend directly about those other guys, and ultimately ended up cheating on him with some random she barely knew. they eventually broke up and he's insisted that he's been devoted to me, however i see that they still text and whenever she sees us in person, she feels the need to give him a hug in front of me. i have also been told about how she sometimes misses him, and that really irritates me. one time at a party, i was taking photos with my friends, and she had the audacity to become all close and cuddly with him and get this - asked me "oh, do you mind?" about them taking a photo together, in front of everyone. like what was i supposed to say? "yes i do mind you cow, gtfo" ?? that's not the only thing, he sort of acts differently around her, like almost as if he's more interested in her and makes more of an effort to talk to her than me, and it really hurts but i don't know if i'm being overly sensitive. he doesn't know that i hate her guts and i've never directly told him not to talk to her because i don't want to be controlling, however i have dropped hints to him multiple times that were he ever to cheat on me or talk excessively to other girls, i would immediately drop him, and he's insisted that he doesn't talk to other girls, yet i see they still message each other? so yeah, are my feelings justified and what should i do? tldr; my bf's ex is a cow and i don't know if i'm being too sensitive about hating their interaction Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anki_tao 11,210 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 I think your feelings are justified. Just ask your boyfriend to make clear if he is still interested in his ex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Platty 4,891 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 Your feelings are a 100% justified. I’d go over this with your boyfriend though, because it’s better to come out with it than let it eat you alive Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlackVelvet9 2,683 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 Your feelings are justified. I'd talk with him about her and seeing his reaction Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Park Joy 19,902 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 Your feelings are justified. For the sake of your relationship, just ask him about her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YuMing 4,176 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 yeah as other people said talk to your bf about it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grape Soda 12,004 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 Completely justified to the point your boyfriend shouldn't even think thats ok. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable her being touchy with him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 Your feelings are a 100% justified. I’d go over this with your boyfriend though, because it’s better to come out with it than let it eat you alive Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoneyPopCupcake 2,421 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 Yes, talk to him, most guys are not good at taking hints. And that girl sounds like the one in this song, she just wants him 'cause she can't have him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oli London 1,762 Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 Yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted October 12, 2018 Share Posted October 12, 2018 I would probably feel and act the same way as you, but at this point I would have already dropped him. I don't know if that girl is super attractive and/or very good in bed but for instance the fact he seems to be all cool with a girl that cheated on him is definitely not a good sign. I would interpret it as him not having a bit of self respect and dignity by acting that way around someone who betrayed him. So it also means his morals are very lax when it comes to cheating, he doesn't mind that much she did it so I would infer he's also prone to doing the same if the opportunity presents. By this point I wouldn't be interested anymore in a person like that and consider it isn't worth to invest so much in the relationship anymore, like it seems there's not the same commitment by both of you and it's going to be harder for you when things get worse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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