lilkay45 147 Posted October 10, 2018 Share Posted October 10, 2018 Not gonna go to much details but my parents have been having this on going fight for over a year now. Long story short, my dad went possessive with my mom last year. He wasn’t like this before. He would of accused of her flirting with other people and having an “affair†just because my mom and my aunt are close. (My aunt is my dad’s sister btw) He wouldn’t even let my mom go to her hair stylist which was a guy. My mom (at least from what I’ve seen is faithful to my dad and the whole family. She works from home all day and cooks for my family almost all three meals) My mom has been suffering. They went to counseling once last year but they stopped. Now they are back at it again and fought in front of my brother and me. My brother cried in front of them and told them to go seek counseling. I told them both seek marriage counseling. Idk what to do at this point. They don’t know how to communicate and my dad thinks he’s fine so he doesn’t want to go counseling. While my mom is okay with it. .- btw Incase ur wondering, we are Asians and oh boy it’s gonna be even harder to convince them. Edit: Sorry for all the typos and grammar because I’m typing on my phone. Forgot to mention some stuff too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoaYo 330 Posted October 10, 2018 Share Posted October 10, 2018 Tell your parents how you're feeling. What's most important to parents are their children. Tell them that you and your brother are also suffering with them and if they continue to act like this, it might leave to worse events. Your dad not seeking marriage counseling again shows that it might hurt his ego, but convince both of them to do it for the well being and happiness of the family. It hurts to see parents fight and lose trust especially in front of their kids. This really takes a toll on everyone's mental health and it's also physically exhausting. I wish you luck and hope you're doing fine. I'm sure you and your family can get through this together Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilkay45 147 Posted October 10, 2018 Author Share Posted October 10, 2018 Tell your parents how you're feeling. What's most important to parents are their children. Tell them that you and your brother are also suffering with them and if they continue to act like this, it might leave to worse events. Your dad not seeking marriage counseling again shows that it might hurt his ego, but convince both of them to do it for the well being and happiness of the family. It hurts to see parents fight and lose trust especially in front of their kids. This really takes a toll on everyone's mental health and it's also physically exhausting. I wish you luck and hope you're doing fine. I'm sure you and your family can get through this together Thanks for your reply. I really appreciate it. I’ll try to talk to them about how I feel. I have told him today that it will hurt the whole family and make it worse if he doesn’t try to. He doesn’t listen. It’s been over a year already. My bro even cried in front of my dad. U know boys and their ego, it took a lot for my bro to cry. If my dad doesn’t get it, then idk what will tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Repeat 1,397 Posted October 10, 2018 Share Posted October 10, 2018 You might not be able to convince your dad to go but since your mum is open to it try to get her to go by herself. They don't need to go as a couple. She might learn some skills or techniques that might help or he might even decide to go if she does. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilkay45 147 Posted October 10, 2018 Author Share Posted October 10, 2018 You might not be able to convince your dad to go but since your mum is open to it try to get her to go by herself. They don't need to go as a couple. She might learn some skills or techniques that might help or he might even decide to go if she does. that’s true. Thanks for the feedback! I really appreciate it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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