Aegyo 3,461 Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 So i had an interesting conversation with my friend (who is a guy) about open relationships... and he advised me that i should loosen up, and be more open, he claims "open relationships" are more fun, less responsibility, your options are open..and most guys love it that way. He also added, that all men (or at least the current generation of young adults) at a certain point are or were in open relationships, or they just..simply cheat. We're friends for a quite along time, however, he never seeked to advise me seriously about relationships. NOW ! Just only recently I knew that he has a girlfriend, he said it by accident..and never told me before! i was bit upset and i honestly told him that such an important thing should've been told a long time ago considering that we are close, like best friends close.. and what's funny, is that he has been convincing me for like an hour or so of open relationships while he ISN'T! Do you think he was only really advising me considering that i have been single for a long time, and that's the only easy way to find a boyfriend? tbh i'm not an easy person, i actually don't like the concept of open relationships, it's either just me or none. or you think he could have other motivations? are you with or against the concept of open relationships? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasySteezy 860 Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 One: I think he's trying to fuck also most guys like the concept IN THE BEGINNING. When they don't have feelings. I have never had a guy be like, "I'm in love with you, but please keep fucking other dudes." Now of course some guys always want an open relationship, but just I haven't experienced it. I really think he just wanted to get some Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jessinwonderland 1,844 Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 Ya he just wants sex. I dont agree with open relationships because it is just for people that dont want to commit to just one person. If it works for them fine but there are risks. I want my man all to myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lolly21 2,103 Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 Ya he just wants sex. I dont agree with open relationships because it is just for people that dont want to commit to just one person. If it works for them fine but there are risks. I want my man all to myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aegyo 3,461 Posted October 9, 2018 Author Share Posted October 9, 2018 One: I think he's trying to fuck also most guys like the concept IN THE BEGINNING. When they don't have feelings. I have never had a guy be like, "I'm in love with you, but please keep fucking other dudes." Now of course some guys always want an open relationship, but just I haven't experienced it. I really think he just wanted to get some Ya he just wants sex. I dont agree with open relationships because it is just for people that dont want to commit to just one person. If it works for them fine but there are risks. I want my man all to myself. Well yeah..that's what i feared the most, considering how good our friendship is, and that's not how i wanted to turn into.. and i also agree with the fact that people who seem to support this concept have commitment issues, and i don't want to get involved with anyone who isn't committed it to me. You want to screw other girls, go ahead but not with me..you do not call that a relationship in the first place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DramaticTaeyeon" 2,851 Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 You guys have a weird “friendship†Also piece of advice: don’t feel so entitled to information even if they’re your “best-friend†Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OutroTear 1,189 Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 He just wants the coochie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aegyo 3,461 Posted October 9, 2018 Author Share Posted October 9, 2018 You guys have a weird “friendship†Also piece of advice: don’t feel so entitled to information even if they’re your “best-friend†It wasn't weird till this conversation..and that's why i made this thread. also..i think considering that we see each other very often..having a girlfriend is probably a very basic piece of information...so i don't get your point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoneyPopCupcake 2,421 Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 He just wants the coochie Lmao the coochie it's either just me or none. SAME GURL, SAME. I don't agree with open relationships cuz it's always dangerous falling in love and I would feel disgusting ''sharing'' a guy idk it's just a weird concept to me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DramaticTaeyeon" 2,851 Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 It wasn't weird till this conversation..and that's why i made this thread. also..i think considering that we see each other very often..having a girlfriend is probably a very basic piece of information...so i don't get your point. That doesn’t mean much though. I mean you think of it as basic information but that’s someone’s private life. The only way it’s an issue if you think he’s being shady about it (which is a possibility given the context you put) and at that point why be his friend?Anyway it was just a piece of advice I ain’t gonna tell you how to handle your friendships. And trust me when I say a really good friend would just leave at: “if you want to talk about something/anything, now I’m here I’m here for you†and nothing else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seaweedsoup 5 Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 I can't really say without knowing him but it does come off as him trying to get you to consider an open relationship for his own agenda. Personally I wouldn't trust ANY man who claims that "all men" engage in open relationships or cheat. It isn't true and I suspect those guys of only saying that to convince women to lower their standards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
French Rose 2,321 Posted November 4, 2018 Share Posted November 4, 2018 He also added, that all men (or at least the current generation of young adults) at a certain point are or were in open relationships, or they just..simply cheat. You should not waste your time with a guy like him. He just clearly wants to have a "good time", no commitments or anything. He's selfish and I feel bad for his girlfriend. Personally, I will never get into an open relationship. It's against my principles and beliefs so I would not be with someone who needs multiple people just to satisfy their needs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vanille 1,800 Posted November 4, 2018 Share Posted November 4, 2018 Open relationships or polyamory aren't real, it's called being a slut If you truly love someone, you wouldn't fuck or heck even flirt with others. And wether some people can truly fall for multiple people Idk but if you claim to love someone, you wouldn't wanna hurt them, you'd respect them. Unless they give you permission for fucking others but then ask yourself, do they even care? What are they (consider) doing behind your back? If you wanna help your friend, tell him to dump his gf (or at least make her his one and only) cause this is not fair for her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted November 5, 2018 Share Posted November 5, 2018 Trust me, stay as friends with him. Don't even bother going there, its not worth it. It seems he is trying to have an affair with you. Think about it, if you do this with him, in the future he'll still pick the main person (marriage) and leave you with nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futyder 0 Posted November 19, 2018 Share Posted November 19, 2018 Open relationship is a type of adult dating. Man and woman have one night stand sex. There are many websites that provide an open relationship and help find someone to this. For example, instanthookups. I have an open relationship one time with a girl who wants sex only. It's cool if you have always sex partner but it's not good for people who want a full life love... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haus of Tzu:Lai 5,450 Posted November 22, 2018 Share Posted November 22, 2018 I don't believe in 'open relationships'. In my eyes you're either committed to being in a relationship (with one person) or you're fucking / dating around - which is fine also, whatever floats your boat, but people shouldn't try to pass it off as some sort of meaningful relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riserise 1,475 Posted November 22, 2018 Share Posted November 22, 2018 My advice? Distance yourself from him. Seems like he's trying to manipulate you with his "all men" and "loosen up". He just wants to get some. That's probably also why he was quiet about his girlfriend. There are better friends to be had and spend your time with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tsukenomo 117 Posted November 23, 2018 Share Posted November 23, 2018 I don't believe in 'open relationships'. In my eyes you're either committed to being in a relationship (with one person) or you're fucking / dating around - which is fine also, whatever floats your boat, but people shouldn't try to pass it off as some sort of meaningful relationship. Facts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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