ultimatedork 98 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Yesterday I posted a topic about an underaged friend who apparently needed help because she had virtual, cam sex with a stranger and is now hysterical. We'd agreed that she'd go to talk to a counselor because apparently she wanted to commit suicide. Plus, I was afraid he might've recorded her and begin blackmailing because of a detail she told me. I thought it was serious and that she really regretted it, but a) she didn't talk to the counselor today b) before me, she'd told a bunch of other people about the situation... unreliable people, and she didn't spare any details c) she hasn't blocked the guy (he's sort of mentally abusing her) like we'd agreed on, because the other people she told don't believe she should :/ d) She still wants to talk to a guy, not in an I-can't-stop-but-I-know-it's-wrong way but in an I-know-this-is-wrong-but-I-still-want-it way. I said I would tell an adult straight away if she didn't talk to the counselor. But now I wonder if she even cares about the possible consequences, and if I should care too. Now my question is: should I let it go, and let her and the other people deal with it or should I still go straight to an adult and insist on her erasing the guy off from Skype and wherever she met him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darlie 1,607 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Dude, she has to take an action immediately. Convince her that this shit's serious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~Yotsubato~ 3,849 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 In friendships there will come a time that you will be faced with a choice. Do something against your friends wishes for his/her own good and maybe breaking that friendship OR do nothing and just be supportive as things spiral out of control. The first choice shows character and self-sacrifice. The second shoes fakeness and/or naivety. In this situation I honestly implore you to go with #1. This shit is serious, if you can prevent her from harming herself then its is your obligation as a friend and a fellow human being to GO TELL AN ADULT THAT CAN PROPERLY DEAL WITH THIS SHIT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ultimatedork 98 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Share Posted May 28, 2014 Dude, she has to take an action immediately. Convince her that this shit's serious. I've been trying since last night she told me (she begun this shit on Friday, though) and I thought I'd gotten to her but apparently I haven't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oye123 1,615 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 go out with full honesty and tell her to talk to that counselor(cause i dont really understand if she did or didnt ), to seek help cause in the future this might come to bite her and also in the "present". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darlie 1,607 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 I've been trying since last night she told me (she begun this shit on Friday, though) and I thought I'd gotten to her but apparently I haven't. Well tell her that her future is going to get screwed up if she keeps doing that, and she has to fight her own desires for her own sake. If it doesn't work, keep nagging until she gets it. Don't just let her go because it's not gonna turn out well for sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoshiMoshi 10,792 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 You definitely need to get an adult involved, especially if she's mentioned suicide. That needs to be taken seriously and she needs to get help. When I was in middle school, one of my friends had a blog. She started to write some scary stuff on it and another friend and I got worried. We told our parents, who contacted hers and they got her help. She was mad at me for months, then one day she came to my door with a letter apologizing and explaining everything. Basically, we were JUST in time and saved her life. You never know what people are thinking of doing so if you really think she's in danger you need to tell someone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrostedFlakesSaram 107 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 The only thing i can think of when reading this is what happened to Amanda Todd... You guys are so young, i dont want something like this come back to haunt her as a adult. I think you are a good friend, so i know you will do the right thing. Im horrible at giving advice but please listen to the comments above me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Symphonyâ„¢ 11,329 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 What the fuck is she doing do cam sex under age? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dupladé 2,865 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Wait OP..It is not you with the creepy long Location with a new account,right? If this really happened then you need to talk to an adult and block that psycho!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Irrelephant 4,710 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 What the fuck is she doing do cam sex under age?It seems like she's just a kid. Even with the most understanding guidance, kids can still be naïve. OP please get responsible help! Take action as swiftly as possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ikyu828 14 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 if the guy really start blackmailing her then imo you need to tell your parents about the situation that way your parents can talk to her parents, it might be easier for her parents to listen from adults Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GratedCheese 464 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Please take action as mentioned in the comments above. Be a good friend and don't leave it alone. I wish you strength to conquer this situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted May 29, 2014 Share Posted May 29, 2014 I'm sorry but your friend acts like a retard and I wouldn't trust her judgement so I would go straight with her parents and tell them about the situation if you're that worried about her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternal glow 6,196 Posted June 1, 2014 Share Posted June 1, 2014 I'm a few days late on this but I would just tell the parents tbh. It seems she has no idea what she's doing and it can just make things worse. Tell a responsible adult because I seems you can't convince her anything right now since you tried but it didn't work. Just because she doesn't seem to care about her life, it doesn't mean you need to do the same. If you're truly concerned about her well being, tell her parents or at least tell your parents what you know so they can assist you in deciding on what to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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