ultimatedork 98 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 My friend got into a huge mess with this guy she met through Facebook. They had virtual sex or something like that in front of a cam (I don't even know how that works), she stripped for him and all that. She's now come to her senses and she's hysterical. I'm so worried for her. I didn't tell her, but I know he might've recorded her or something like that, and I'm afraid that will come to light later on and haunt her. She's usually driven by her feelings and I'm afraid that if something like that does happen that she might even commit suicide. I already managed to calm her down, but I'm still worried. I asked her thousands of times if she deleted him already and blocked him, but she always evaded the question, so I feel that she might still have him added or something. Apparently, they "connected". He's a bad guy, I know because of the things she told me. And she knows it too. I don't know what to do, I'm afraid for her... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KoreaxxLove 194 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Well, there's not much to do. I've done that a fair bit before, or at least seen people do it, and it was never uploaded, but I don't know about her situation. Is she of age at least? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband 2,299 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Talk to an adult now, your parents if you can, and ask for serious advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriel Celeste 2,261 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 is the guy blackmailing her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband 2,299 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 I'm serious, talk to your parents and explain the whole situation, what you fear and what you know about the situation, don't reserve anything Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
�SHERRY� 5,081 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Talk to an adult now, your parents if you can, and ask for serious advice The best course of action for you to do.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupsidou 2,047 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Is she a minor? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PD101 Rep: BoA 1,183 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Ooooh. Didn't even consider the age thing. Now this is an entirely different situation~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArseneLupin 4,475 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Well does she have evidence its recorded? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ultimatedork 98 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Share Posted May 28, 2014 Well, there's not much to do. I've done that a fair bit before, or at least seen people do it, and it was never uploaded, but I don't know about her situation. Is she of age at least? Ooooh. Didn't even consider the age thing. Now this is an entirely different situation~ Is she a minor? Yup... the guy I think was her same age too. Or maybe 18-19, idk. Well does she have evidence its recorded? We didn't touch that topic (I didn't want to scare her) but from details she told me it's a possibility. I'm serious, talk to your parents and explain the whole situation, what you fear and what you know about the situation, don't reserve anything Talk to an adult now, your parents if you can, and ask for serious advice What would that do, though? She might get into huge trouble and hate me afterwards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yuqin 805 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Talk to an adult now, your parents if you can, and ask for serious advice this this this this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ultimatedork 98 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Share Posted May 28, 2014 is the guy blackmailing her? Nope, but I read some messages. He was sort of manipulating her and emotionally abusive. It was horrible. And I'm not sure if it's over... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeong jaehyuns boyfriend 10,627 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Apparently, they "connected". Stop her right now and get help - from someone who isn't a minor, preferably a parent or guardian. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupsidou 2,047 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Yup... the guy I think was her same age too. Or maybe 18-19, idk. We didn't touch that topic (I didn't want to scare her) but from details she told me it's a possibility. What would that do, though? She might get into huge trouble and hate me afterwards. um talk to adults/authority figures. That can be considered child pornography and is illegal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
North and South 4,680 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 There are a lot of variables in this situation, and what you both really need to do is find an adult to confide to, a parent, a teacher, or a counsellor, and take this matter to the police. Cybersexting with a minor is a serious crime and the repercussions can be serious. If this was done on Facebook then she has the identity of the other party involved, right? Your friend may be being taken advantage of, even if she may not be fully aware of it. You're doing a good thing in asking for help, and this is tremendously brave of you. But if you're already scared that your friend would be driven to suicidal tendencies because of this, SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY. As in professional help. If there is a helpline in your community, use it, and encourage your friend to use it too. But first and foremost tell an adult. And continue to offer non-judgemental support to your firmed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ultimatedork 98 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Share Posted May 28, 2014 um talk to adults/authority figures. That can be considered child pornography and is illegal. I'm talking to her right now and she's telling me she's planning to tell our school counselor for help. She feels horrible, I've never seen her this hysterical, so I'm glad she's planning to talk to someone who can help her. But I'll talk to an authority if she ends up not seeking help from the counselor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband 2,299 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 What would that do, though? She might get into huge trouble and hate me afterwards. Listen, she may be in real danger if anything in this post is true, by herself or the creep, i'm pretty sure she can't think traight right now, that's why is important to ask for help to your parents, to guide you on this; I honestly don't think it matters if she unfriends you if she is stalked by a pervert or have suicidal toughts, you know what I mean ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupsidou 2,047 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 I'm talking to her right now and she's telling me she's planning to tell our school counselor for help. She feels horrible, I've never seen her this hysterical, so I'm glad she's planning to talk to someone who can help her. But I'll talk to an authority if she ends up not seeking help from the counselor. yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ultimatedork 98 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Share Posted May 28, 2014 There are a lot of variables in this situation, and what you both really need to do is find an adult to confide to, a parent, a teacher, or a counsellor, and take this matter to the police. Cybersexting with a minor is a serious crime and the repercussions can be serious. If this was done on Facebook then she has the identity of the other party involved, right? Your friend may be being taken advantage of, even if she may not be fully aware of it. You're doing a good thing in asking for help, and this is tremendously brave of you. But if you're already scared that your friend would be driven to suicidal tendencies because of this, SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY. As in professional help. If there is a helpline in your community, use it, and encourage your friend to use it too. But first and foremost tell an adult. And continue to offer non-judgemental support to your firmed. Thank you for the advice. I already talked to her and she accepted to talk to the school counselor. She told me it was through some chat website, and then it moved to Skype. I assumed it was Facebook because she told me she "added" him through there. Listen, she may be in real danger if anything in this post is true, by herself or the creep, i'm pretty sure she can't think traight right now, that's why is important to ask for help to your parents, to guide you on this; I honestly don't think it matters if she unfriends you if she is stalked by a pervert or have suicidal toughts, you know what I mean ? Yeah, I talked to her right now and she finally accepted to talk to a counselor. Hopefully, this doesn't escalate into anything more serious. Thank you for the advice! Stop her right now and get help - from someone who isn't a minor, preferably a parent or guardian. Yes, thank you. She already agreed into talking to a counselor. But I want to ask her if she already blocked him, because I think she hasn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GUILD 3,195 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Couple straightforward steps. Reliable Adult. Police. Take every precaution to make sure the footage, does not go anywhere. Then block/delete him whatever. Doing that now could just piss him off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ringo 4,146 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Have her block him, or at least break contact, and save every message in the event you need to build a case if he becomes trouble later. Unless she has really crazy parents or something, don't worry about them or her being angry and tell an adult. Punishment for doing those things she did is nothing compared what will happen if the recording is uploaded to a revenge porn website or used to extort her in some way. She could be in real danger. Both of you should be careful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruan Ruan 7 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 X Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tokki the Awkward Potato 5,878 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Sorry if this is inconsiderate but why the f* would she do that? Tis dumb. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaengTaengoo 1,924 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 Yup... the guy I think was her same age too. Or maybe 18-19, idk. We didn't touch that topic (I didn't want to scare her) but from details she told me it's a possibility. What would that do, though? She might get into huge trouble and hate me afterwards. She might hate you now but as a friend you should do what you feel is best for her. CUz the way I see it she consented to this and if she is legal i'm pretty sure she's screwed. Parents would be the best person to rely on in this situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skibop!! 8,585 Posted May 28, 2014 Share Posted May 28, 2014 does this guy live in the area? go to your school? in the same country? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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