Guest Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 It's been 2 weeks since I split from the guy I had been dating for the past year (my first love) and I don't know what to do. I literally don't know what to do? I thought I'd get used to my days being empty but every morning I wake up, I feel my heart sink to my stomach. I tried distracting myself by diving back into the Kpop/iKON fandom (when I was with him, I kinda stopped keeping up with everything else), I try to meet with friends every day but at the end of the day I still feel the same way as I did when I woke up. And then my mind knows that eventually I will move on and eventually I will fall out of love and things will be normal again, but for some reason I don't believe that. I really want to, but I just can't believe it. I thought that pouring my feelings all at once might help so I made a playlist with all the songs I feel to my bones but all it did was make me feel more of whatever I was feeling and now it's all I listen to lmao (if you're interested: https://open.spotify.com/user/o83jcz4832vsf891u1u6fkafz/playlist/6rYQfDWm7LhCXhv1UBNtEj?si=hw5cHvdEQEGPd9YU4psbDA ) I really don't know what to do. I genuinely feel lost? And dumb, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vitaminplus 1,971 Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 Just try to be strong and continue doing those stuff eventually as everyone says time will heal and its true eventually you will forget that feeling im sorry you're going through this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pupp�y 498 Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 Just focus on having fun with your friends and just basically go back to what you just normally do. I don't think it'll be any easy especially if you see them everyday like in school, situations like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MicrowavedTeaforYourSoul 6,318 Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 Sorry, but can i get a bigger ver of your DP? I need some reaction gif Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Downvotesforeveryone 1,601 Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 It took me FOREVER to get over my first love, but we ended on unhappy terms and that helped me a lot After that, break ups were much easier and I never let myself dwell over relationships. Get under someone new, focus on your job and school and life, and getting over them will happen naturally. There will be a day you stop thinking about them and you won’t even realize it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 Sorry, but can i get a bigger ver of your DP? I need some reaction gif Found the original one! Lol Chanwoo is so cute Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kazed 425 Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 It definitely takes time, just go with the flow. There will be bad days, but there will be good ones too. I have come to realize that the more you want to forget about a person the more you can't since you tend to think about that said person more than usual. Do things you like, treat yourself better. One day your heart won't feel like breaking whenever you think of the times with him. p.s. If you are into reading, spend some time with this book - "This is me letting you go" by Heidi Priebe Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Esk@ 198 Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 it was an abusive one so i went to therapy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noeye 877 Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 This is a warm thread. I still think about my first girl every now and then. But it's reminiscent rather than a feeling of yearning. It'll eventually stop hurting, and you'll stop thinking about it constantly. Continue doing what you have to do. It'll keep you from thinking about the break up. We're all troopers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 Just try to be strong and continue doing those stuff eventually as everyone says time will heal and its true eventually you will forget that feeling im sorry you're going through this Thanks I really appreciate it. Maybe I'm feeling this way because 2 weeks is a short period of time, but I do believe time heals and I hope that it will be the case for this as well. Just focus on having fun with your friends and just basically go back to what you just normally do. I don't think it'll be any easy especially if you see them everyday like in school, situations like that. I think I lucked out on the fact that he lives in a different city (close by but you know, won't bump into him at the mall) and goes to a different uni. Definitely putting most of my time and energy into my friends these days It took me FOREVER to get over my first love, but we ended on unhappy terms and that helped me a lot After that, break ups were much easier and I never let myself dwell over relationships. Get under someone new, focus on your job and school and life, and getting over them will happen naturally. There will be a day you stop thinking about them and you won’t even realize it. That last line gave me a lot of hope tbh It definitely takes time, just go with the flow. There will be bad days, but there will be good ones too. I have come to realize that the more you want to forget about a person the more you can't since you tend to think about that said person more than usual. Do things you like, treat yourself better. One day your heart won't feel like breaking whenever you think of the times with him. p.s. If you are into reading, spend some time with this book - "This is me letting you go" by Heidi Priebe I was actually looking for a new book to start reading so thank you! it was an abusive one so i went to therapy. I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope things go better now! This is a warm thread. I still think about my first girl every now and then. But it's reminiscent rather than a feeling of yearning. It'll eventually stop hurting, and you'll stop thinking about it constantly. Continue doing what you have to do. It'll keep you from thinking about the break up. We're all troopers It's really comforting to read these responses of people who got over their first loves. Thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
�달 3 Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 I have been seeing lots of other people and feeling lots of feelings with/for them, I am taking care of more important things in life, real friends, studies, career... but I still haven't moved on. Kindly lmk when you find a way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bb403 5 Posted September 17, 2018 Share Posted September 17, 2018 I was lucky enough to be able to let it all out at once, the negative emotion I mean. I hope you find your way~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edelgard 4,845 Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 remove them on social media and keep busy with other things basically. also work on myself as a person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arineunha 352 Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 so im also going through one right now but thinking about the negatives and realizing that it just wasnt meant to be helped alot life isn't always a fairytale and even though it's hard..and there are days where you might want to text them or see them....you have to push through it and go NC, until you're ready to really let go first love always is the hardest to get over stay strong Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seaweedsoup 5 Posted October 9, 2018 Share Posted October 9, 2018 I know it's what everyone says and it sucks because there's nothing you can do to fast forward, but it's true that time really does change things like this. For a year and a half after my last relationship, I was in doubt over whether I would ever find anyone better but then I realised that I'd moved on. And then I did find someone better Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kestires 2 Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 I try meeting new people... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoneyBee12 33 Posted October 20, 2018 Share Posted October 20, 2018 remove them on social media and keep busy with other things basically. also work on myself as a person. I remember doing something similar. I deleted all his messages from all messaging platforms, but I couldn't unfriend him... I just couldn't press it. It was so hard to get over him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoneyBee12 33 Posted October 20, 2018 Share Posted October 20, 2018 so im also going through one right now but thinking about the negatives and realizing that it just wasnt meant to be helped alot life isn't always a fairytale and even though it's hard..and there are days where you might want to text them or see them....you have to push through it and go NC, until you're ready to really let go first love always is the hardest to get over stay strong I think I have 'just' past that process, telling myself he was not good for me and thinking about about all the pressures I felt when I was with him... helped a bit.. and then I would later on go back and think that I was the wrong one... ignoring him etc.... such a hard process to forget Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beautifulLadeu 1 Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 I started my own business and spent all my time on it... it really helped Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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