arineunha 352 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 so today i managed to make my boyfriend cry, and i feel liek a absolute dirtbag. i am a terrible gf and i think he deserves someone way better than me... he criticizes me a lot and today I couldn't find him. he started to say I was incompetent because I couldn't find the direction to his location; and I said nvm i'm not coming because you're being so rude right now. I didn't let go of my anger and said some mean things...and said I would break up with him. He ignored me and finally when he called back; I said "why can't you accept my flaws, if you loved me you'd try harder to change how critical you were of me" (I thought)..he made a sound and said " I guess we really can't be together. I thought he was laughing but then when I asked..he said he was crying. I feel so bad... I never heard him cry I just want him to feel better, and his crying made me cry as well. he said he couldn't ...muffled sounds. then he said he needed some alone time to think. I hope he is okay. do you think he will forgive me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Supreme 47 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 It's normal in a relationship for stuff like this to happen, it'll make your relationship stronger in the end. (As long as it's not toxic and you fight everyday) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nimz 3,113 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 Why are you still with this guy if he, from what it sounds like, criticizes you all the time? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Esk@ 198 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 Why are you feeling bad he was a douche to you. Everyone has a limit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arineunha 352 Posted September 12, 2018 Author Share Posted September 12, 2018 Why are you still with this guy if he, from what it sounds like, criticizes you all the time? breaking up seems like the best option because it's something we cant get past (as everyone says) but I still have feelings for him it's hard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ego ista 1,344 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 I think you two should talk about the problems you have like the criticisms I think this was all bottled up for to long and a misunderstanding Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RiseLikeACrowTit 862 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 Send him this song with the legend: " the universe wanted different, I will dedicate my life to celibacy and charity, goodbye..." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nimz 3,113 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 breaking up seems like the best option because it's something we cant get past (as everyone says) but I still have feelings for him it's hard Break ups are never easy, but its something that has to be done if the person you're with is toxic. If he's criticizing you all the time, he's not worth the struggle of trying to keep a dying relationship alive. Your partner should never talk down to you or make you feel horrible about yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delirium 4,237 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 "he criticizes me a lot and today I couldn't find him. he started to say I was incompetent because I couldn't find the direction to his location; and I said nvm i'm not coming because you're being so rude right now. I didn't let go of my anger and said some mean things...and said I would break up with him. He ignored me and finally when he called back; I said "why can't you accept my flaws, if you loved me you'd try harder to change how critical you were of me" (I thought)..he made a sound and said " I guess we really can't be together. I thought he was laughing but then when I asked..he said he was crying. I feel so bad... I never heard him cry " Um, I'm trying to figure out why you allow him to disrespect you to the point that you blow up at him? If you continue to internalize his constant disrespect, you will keep blowing up at him, he will keep crying, you will keep feeling bad about his criticism or about making him cry....you might need to take that break because it doesn't sound like you two are attempting to resolve any of the toxicity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tousle 1,178 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 Is this the same boyfriend that you once broke up with? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cake mf 1,737 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 Just break up with him. You aren’t the dirtbag he is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 What a toxic relationship lmao. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sungjins 676 Posted September 14, 2018 Share Posted September 14, 2018 I know it's easier said than done but from my personal perspective, you shouldn't be with someone who criticises you- especially if it's a frequent thing. It will definitely be difficult to end it but he sounds toxic, you'll be a lot happier a few months from now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arineunha 352 Posted September 15, 2018 Author Share Posted September 15, 2018 I know it's easier said than done but from my personal perspective, you shouldn't be with someone who criticises you- especially if it's a frequent thing. It will definitely be difficult to end it but he sounds toxic, you'll be a lot happier a few months from now thank you. its going to take some time but maybe this is best for us at this time..we'll just keep going to circles. I feel so numb... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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