chandy 2,487 Posted September 11, 2018 Share Posted September 11, 2018 ... and it is with my fiance. So my fiance just breaking up with me. It isnt something sudden, honestly. We've been facing a lot problems and difficulties these past few months. We tried everything to fixed it, even went for holiday together on our anniversary that we both enjoyed and had good time together. But still.. it didnt fix our problems or made our situations better. Tonight, everything just kinda blowing out. We talked, bickered, argued about our problems, our feeling, and everything in between... and he said we should break up. After he left from the apartment, he deactivated most of his social media account and I think he blocked my number too because he said we should burn the bridge to make it easier for us moving forward. I dont know where to start to moving forward nor what to do tho since I am away from home (I moved to this city for him) and my relationship with mom and sister is sour. My friends are his friends too and it is kinda feel weird to call them right now to tell them about my problems - or how hurt i am and how I cant stop crying. It just hurt, everything hurt and I feel empty but also strange in my (and his) apartment. ... what to do... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eodumi Jiteulsulog Joa 675 Posted September 11, 2018 Share Posted September 11, 2018 listen to break up songs, eat a family ice cream alone, do the "break up" routine, take 2 days off and then move on. it's better to break up now than prolong the misery Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cerulean 983 Posted September 11, 2018 Share Posted September 11, 2018 depends. you can eat a lot. take a vacation. dive into a hobby. or do what i did and have a fling with a friend... whatever you do just don't reach out to him unless necessary. it's gonna hurt for a while but just go through it knowing that it won't hurt forever. don't feel bad for feeling like shit and wallowing for a bit, that's okay. and be prepared for your friends to possibly take sides. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rich witch 20,592 Posted September 11, 2018 Share Posted September 11, 2018 i know that right now it seems bleak but take it as an opportunity for a new chapter in your life, to start something new. be it invest in a new hobby or just do things you haven't done before while in the relationship. the world is big, you meet new friends and partners all the time, they come in and out of your life and that's just how it is. as people said, don't contact him unless necessary so it'll be easier to move on. wish you the best, and if you need anyone to talk to my PMs are open. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Klaudea 35 Posted September 11, 2018 Share Posted September 11, 2018 Take your time...you need to love yourself now more than everything else. Don't start to blame yourself cus it didn't work. Also while healing wait. Things that are meant to be will be and he or whoever can't change it. You can start with buying an animal for example. Animals usually help a lot and you won't feel alone there. Also try to talk with your sister or mom. They are your family. You know about ohanas rule right ? I hope you will be ok dear. Much love! ⤠Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChungJoJo 31 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 I wouldn't know, since Iv'e never dated anyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
montchery 3,185 Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 Break ups are tough, I went through something similar just a couple of months after moving back to my ex's city... Cry as much as you have to, but do not stay home and do not listen to romantic or sad songs or movies, stay away from all of that. I would say do not contact him, do not check his social media or message him, it will only make things worse. My family and friends were of big help to me, they gave a lot of love, support and warmness. may be try to reconnect with your family if possible (I dont know your family situatio but if you thing you would feel better at home try to go visit them or a few days), and friends. It might also help to travel, you will distract yourself from the heartbreak, focus on work and start a new activity like learning a new language or practicing a new sport. I think meditation is a great activity as well, to clear your mind and heart. It will be though for some time... but one day you will realize you had eventually stopped thinking about it and have no longer feelings for him. I hope you find the strenght and support from your love ones, but if you need to talk about it anytime you can pm me. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 Normally you would seek out for your friends but in your case you're kind of isolated, so I would probably move from that city and try to start somewhere else among people with my own friends and family, or just any new place but there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
badassbitch 1,030 Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 I wouldn't know, since Iv'e never dated anyone. can relate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kestires 2 Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 Try to meet new people, and don't spend time on your own Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Konjo 2.0 24 Posted October 18, 2018 Share Posted October 18, 2018 Take some time out for yourself. Go on a solo holiday and do all the things you used to do together ON YOUR OWN. Rewrite the memories, am I making sense? It's not the end, plenty of fish in the sea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chvnle 16 Posted October 22, 2018 Share Posted October 22, 2018 im so sorry..im probably not the best person to answer this because im still infant age and ive never dated, but.. heres my best advice. get over him and put your priorities first. dont hold back to someone of the past. also let yourself know that its okay to talk about your feelings and cry. do whatever it takes to make yourself feel better. maybe talk to someone you trust, friends, family, etc. and if both plan a and plan b fail, get your finest of ice cream, get some blankets, take the day off, and turn on your favorite show/kdrama, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beautifulLadeu 1 Posted October 25, 2018 Share Posted October 25, 2018 hand out with your friends, do what you like to do, hobby.. if you don't have one, find it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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