is it wrong to crush on someone when you're in a relationship

[Her Majesty]

i'm talking about irl situations not like crushing on celebs

[Stargazing]

i mean it's not wrong but if you're flirting a lot with your crush then that's something else entirely 

[WinnerWinnerChickenDinner]

Depends on how big the crush is. If you're sure it won't affect your relationship, it's not. But if it's not something that will go away in a few days then yeah it's a problem 

[Sakura Sunshine]

It's normal but it's a problem when it starts affecting your relationship

[deobizone]

as long as its not pursued, and u still love ur s/o. i dont think its a problem probably

[jendukiko]

There's nothing wrong with having a crush in general but if you start developing feelings for your crush then you know there's something wrong 

[eternal glow]

Depends I guess? There are those non-serious crushes that last a day and it's just like an 'in the moment' type of thing. I don't think that's a problem but like if it's a serious crush, that's wrong imo. 

[Grape Soda]

Depends on how deep the feelings are for the crush and if you pursue or not.

[Sully]

I personally think even crushing on another person can lead to a dangerous place for the relationship, so I say yes. Crushes can a lot of times end up in developing stronger feelings for that crush, and reoccurring thoughts of being in a relationship with that person. And obviously that's not a good thing for any relationship. 

[starsocks]

it's a problem when it starts affecting your relationship

[voxz]

OP are you close to your crush?

[Her Majesty]

I personally think even crushing on another person can lead to a dangerous place for the relationship, so I say yes. Crushes can a lot of times end up in developing stronger feelings for that crush, and reoccurring thoughts of being in a relationship with that person. And obviously that's not a good thing for any relationship. 

I get that loyalty is important but sometimes it just happens. You can't really stop crushes from happening tbh

 

OP are you close to your crush?

We're not close at all but she does know me

[Sully]

I get that loyalty is important but sometimes it just happens. You can't really stop crushes from happening tbh

Then the person needs to make sure they do everything they can to nip their feelings in the bud. If they can limit contact and interaction with the person, then that needs to happen, otherwise it's a slippery slope to screwing with their relationship cause of more feelings developing.

People between a rock and a hard place are the ones that develop crushes on people they have to interact with regularly.

[KaniPi]

In my opinion, it is. There is always a strong possibility of the feelings developing. Better to get rid of them quickly, and not think about them in that way. Trust me, you don't want to go down that route.

[atulvells]

I mean as long as it's not affecting your actual relationship it should be fine. Also understand that you don't have to stay with your s/o if you don't want to.

[borealis]

as long as you don't make any move knowing full well that you're in a relationship it's okay

[JiMiJu]

There is not much you can do about it.

[Jurin � Onew]

There is not much you can do about it.

[seaweedsoup]

You can't control your feelings but you can control your actions

[love]

i don't consider it wrong per se, unless you act on it.  seems odd to me that you could really develop feelings for someone else and still be 100% satisfied and in love with your current partner, but what do i know?

[TickleMePink]

If you start to act upon it, then yes