toshi 1,466 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Right I have this friend and he really is a good mate, helped me loads with jobs etc and been there many times for me as a friend but I'm not sure whether I should be mad or not at the moment. We see each-other a lot in the gym we go to as he works there, and I workout there so we practically chat 4/5 times at least a week anyway. But when it comes to arranging a night out, one he always pushes it back loads anyway, but its also really hard to actually arrange a night out with him. Basically I asked a few weeks ago if he wanted to go out, just for drinks whatever, he said yeah but wait till x week for money reasons, no problem. So we wait and decide on a date. So we're supposed to go out tomorrow and I just txt to make sure its happening and I just got told that hes already going the place we where supposed to be going with two other lads as its one of their birthday's and I can come if I want. I know the two lads well and I'm quite close with one of them. So should I be mad because I'm thinking well we had plans and now you're inviting me to plans you've made without me, wtf? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaeyeonHK 4,444 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Yeah, he sounds kinda stupid. Maybe he didn't think too much into it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
toshi 1,466 Posted May 22, 2014 Author Share Posted May 22, 2014 Yeah, he sounds kinda stupid. Maybe he didn't think too much into it? That's sort of why I'm thinking I don't want to say anything because I think its exactly that. No thought has gone in to it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Good People 2,455 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Pretty obvious that you are more attached to him than he is to you. I'm not going to ask if you're in love with the guy or something. Unless you are under the impression that the two of you are dating, there is no reason to expect this guy to prioritize going out with you. You're not his girlfriend or best friend. He helps you --> you appreciate it. That's probably your relationship from his point of view. I think you're expecting too much just because he's nice to you. Be thankful for what he does and don't expect more. He's just a casual friend to you, stop expecting best friend treatment! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kowaiyo 1,123 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 I kinda understand you, as well as him. Maybe the friend who's having a birthday is kinda important for him too. If he'll stick to the plan, he won't be able to celebrate that friend's birthday. But if he will celebrate with the friends, he'll completely ditch you. So what he does is to join the events together. Maybe he sounds like already ditching you coz he said you can come if you want. But I bet he is really expecting you to come. Coz it'll be held to the setting of what you guys have planned. It's not bad to feel mad at him. Maybe you two can have another time to be alone together. ~♥ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ezgiT 3,098 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 i feel you're pain Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alt 764 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 First of all, you won't go there, right? It'll be awkward as f- And, did you see it like a date? I mean, that you would go out... Maybe he didn't see it as a date. And the day? Who choose it? If it was his choice, didn't he plan it thinking on the birthday, did he? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Wine 1,540 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 He should have told you beforehand. If he's forgotten about plans you guys have made in the past, and frequently makes it hard to arrange things like you've said, maybe you should have a talk with him about it. I had a friend like that...gives the impression that they don't care as much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ringo 4,146 Posted May 22, 2014 Share Posted May 22, 2014 Hard to say since I don't know what your relationship with him is. Isn't it better to tell him if you feel hurt by this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
toshi 1,466 Posted May 22, 2014 Author Share Posted May 22, 2014 Thankyou everyone, no where not dating, where just friends, and that's all I want it to be haha. I choose the date, which is why I'm a bit angry because, I was the one who invited him and then when I ask are we still going out, it then changes too well I'm going out with these other people but you can come if you want. Like its the way its changed around from me invited to them being invited but also feeling like I've invited myself. Its not the company or anything or that I wanted it to just be us two, I actually really like the other lads coming, its just a bit annoying the way its been turned around if that makes sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 Is he stupid or something? He is acting like an asshole and he doesn't seem to have any manners or tact. I wouldn't accept his 'invitation' and probably I would never try to make plans with him again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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