Found out today the person I loved, is getting married to someone else.

[KaniPi]

Long story short, we couldn't be together because he did not want to leave his girlfriend for me. He admitted his feelings for me before I left though, which made it worse. Everyone knew about us as well. I became more depressed and almost suicidal, because I had lost my father and grandmother, in the same year. I was left heartbroken. I tried very hard to come back to my workplace (as I was on contract) but couldn't get the job.

 

I'm not exaggerating but I cried almost everyday, and missed him terribly. I never forgot about him.

 

Sometimes I would look at his Facebook profile to see how he was doing, but today really shocked me.

 

I saw a post of him with his partner, he was on holiday to Chicago and the post said:

 

"Really enjoyed my time here in Chicago! Had to ask this beaut to marry me, she said yes!"

 

This was his only recent post he made public, which makes me think he did it on purpose to show me.

 

Needless to say I was really devastated. I wasted almost more than a year, missing and crying over someone who never really cared in the first place.

 

:(

[Nimz]

Oh well. Time to move on.

[HoneyPopCupcake]

I don't think he truly cares about that girl either, I mean he basically cheated on her and hurt you. I'm sure you can find someone better, as cliche as it sounds

[Pessego]

Oh well. Time to move on.

So dang heartless but sis question 

 

 We couldn't be together because he did not want to leave his girlfriend for me.

 

 

Sis homie was still entertaining  you and playing with your feeling when he had A WHOLE GIRLFRIEND.... he wasn't the one,he ain't the one and trust me if he cheated on her he would've cheated on u ..... you saved yourself rejoice 

[t a e c h u u]

So he cheated on her with you, and is engaged with her now? He sounds like trash. You need to love yourself first, and value your wellbeing above anything else. Move on....start by blocking him on your social medias. 

[KaniPi]

So dang heartless but sis question 

 

 We couldn't be together because he did not want to leave his girlfriend for me.

 

 

Sis homie was still entertaining  you and playing with your feeling when he had A WHOLE GIRLFRIEND.... he wasn't the one,he ain't the one and trust me if he cheated on her he would've cheated on u ..... you saved yourself rejoice 

 

Yes, I should have figured it out when he said he didn't want to keep in contact...yet he would look at my profile as well. I thought he was serious because he admitted his feelings.

 

I just feel like a complete loser because I was suffering from serious depression and even suicide because of him.

 

I'm really isolated.

[Ego ista]

You wasted your time and your feelings he probably would’ve cheated on you even if he had left her

[RiseLikeACrowTit]

Long story short, we couldn't be together because he did not want to leave his girlfriend for me. He admitted his feelings for me before I left though, which made it worse. Everyone knew about us as well. I became more depressed and almost suicidal, because I had lost my father and grandmother, in the same year. I was left heartbroken. I tried very hard to come back to my workplace (as I was on contract) but couldn't get the job.

 

I'm not exaggerating but I cried almost everyday, and missed him terribly. I never forgot about him.

 

Sometimes I would look at his Facebook profile to see how he was doing, but today really shocked me.

 

I saw a post of him with his partner, he was on holiday to Chicago and the post said:

 

"Really enjoyed my time here in Chicago! Had to ask this beaut to marry me, she said yes!"

 

This was his only recent post he made public, which makes me think he did it on purpose to show me.

 

Needless to say I was really devastated. I wasted almost more than a year, missing and crying over someone who never really cared in the first place.

 

:(

 

Time to move on; you need to find a new passion in your life, it doesn't need to be a person, a person can't fix our problems

[KaniPi]

So he cheated on her with you, and is engaged with her now? He sounds like trash. You need to love yourself first, and value your wellbeing above anything else. Move on....start by blocking him on your social medias. 

 

It was more like an emotional type of thing, we never did anything physically, and I never met him outside of work. I shared my problems with him since my dad died, and well he was the first person I felt actually cared.

 

I haven't added him on any social medias. I don't have his number either. It was all at work.

 

You're right...it just hurts a lot because I have been missing him for over a year.

[KentasGlittery EyeMakeup]

He was leading you on and playing with your feelings and at the same time he was cheating on his girl? What a horrible guy. You've lost nothing by losing him. 

[Pessego]

Yes, I should have figured it out when he said he didn't want to keep in contact...yet he would look at my profile as well. I thought he was serious because he admitted his feelings.

 

I just feel like a complete loser because I was suffering from serious depression and even suicide because of him.

 

I'm really isolated.

Aww we trust me been there done that.... you'll heart will heal in time trust me a year from now when you see his picture you're going to be completely over it and you are going to be proud of yourself... lile I said been there done that

[Fluffyhairedbaek]

Tbh you dodged a bullet sis

 

Wipe your tears because this dude aint a keeper, just like he cheated on his soon to be wife, he could have easily done the same to you if you have gotten together

[Le kwan]

I'm so sorry you're going through this, it must hurt a lot but this is the closure you need to move on over him because the past year you were still hanging by his threads. Just a little advice stop checking him on social media no matter how much you want to, you're just gonna torture yourself this way.

I told you he was a jerk and honestly he's not even worth it, try to stop thinking about him because believe me a few years from now you're gonna want to bury yourself alive for wasting your precious time on someone like him.

[blue7kaoru]

Sis just be happy you dodged a bullet i guess....Since he was cheating on his gf with you it means he could cheat on you too with some other girl, doesn't matter the fact that he said he loved you...

 

It's time to forget about him, yes it's gonna be hard but do things you like; go out with friends, do some sport, travel etc... it will help you forget about him and be happier !!

[cake mf]

He’s cheating trash.

 

My friend’s dad is like that...cheaters never change.

[Villanelle]

I mean you deserve it

People are only mentioning the guy is a cheater but op the same thing

 

This should be a wake up call for you

[Whoville]

Cheaters will always be cheaters, and I think it’s best for you to move on. I don’t think he necessarily posted that for you to see, though I’m not sure how long it’s been since you’ve separated. You should keep your options open and your head up, I’m sure that you’re going to meet someone better.

[modella]

You know what.

Screw that guy.

You're better than this and you don't need him. You will find someone else who wouldn't hesitate to give you the world.

I HOPE IT RAINS ON THEIR WEDDING DAY.

[BeTaS]

i cant put myself in your shoes, maybe it's because I'm too selfish. I love me the most so i'm always calculating if I'm at the short end of the stick. I demand equal input, be it emotionally or financially.

 

I hope you'll feel better soon, time heals everything. Personally i think you dodged a bullet.

[KaniPi]

I mean you deserve it

People are only mentioning the guy is a cheater but op the same thing

 

This should be a wake up call for you

You can judge me if you want but I was very lonely after my fathers death. I didn’t have anyone to turn to. Also I was the only one who gave him the choice to leave his girlfriend instead of continuing what was between us.

[Mayumi]

This dude ain't worth it. If he really like you then he would have choose you and broke up with his gf.

[Serenee]

I want to congratulate you. You had enough self control to stop the affair after he said he won't leave his girlfriend. That's a brave thing to do when you still have feelings for him.

 

 

Look, there are plenty of fish in the sea. When mom first told me that, I got angry at her saying she doesn't understand how special my fish was.

 

But after all...my mom was right. I lost my special fish in the sea. When I looked for it, I realized all the fish look exactly the same and I couldn't recognize my fish anymore.

 

The only thing that makes your fish special is your own feelings towards it. Maybe he was a great guy to you, but just like after a break-up, you tend to see him and your relationship better than it was.

 

Truth is there is nothing uglier than emotionally unaviable guys. Those guys who for some reason can't give you all their love, all their loyality.

 

Girl, you deserve to have all the love, all the loyality. Such a guy is never going to give you that.

 

One day I was at a lecture and the professor made a joke about something being similar to going on a date. Immedietly my eyes got teary thinking the guy I like will never take me on a date.

 

Do I deserve to be taken on a date? Hell, I know I do! And if he isn't going to provide me that then screw him. That's the attitude!

 

 

Now you are going through a hard time and it was easy to fill the void you feel with him. But you should find power from within.

 

Stop ever checking his SNS and start improving yourself. Seems clichee, but it's true. Turn this into something positive for you. I saw girls taking up sports because they wanted to get over a break-up and it worked. Keep your mind and time occupied with things. Learn something new, go somewhere new, meet people, read something, just do something that boots your self confidence and gets your mood up! Even if you don't feel like it and all you want to do is cry in your room, do it!

 

As time goes by, things will get better, I promise. Eventually you will find your fish too.

[TalkingCat]

Although I think your situation is so difficult and I feel sympathetic to you in that aspect, I don’t think you should have started the affair with him in the first place because indirectly you are also causing pain to someone else. He’s the biggest douchebag in this situation though, messing with both feelings. Anyways this is one of my favorite poem that maybe is a relatable:

 

what does love look like the therapist asks

one week after the breakup

and i’m not sure how to answer her question

except for the fact that i thought love

looked so much like you

 

that’s when it hit me

and i realized how naive i had been

to place an idea so beautiful on the image of a person

as if anybody on this entire earth

could encompass all love represented

 

 

You were in a vulnerable situation and for a bit he was able to give you the comfort and temporary happiness that you needed. However you need to find a person who is willing to make you important to them, someone who won’t make you a second choice

[KaniPi]

I want to congratulate you. You had enough self control to stop the affair after he said he won't leave his girlfriend. That's a brave thing to do when you still have feelings for him.

 

 

Look, there are plenty of fish in the sea. When mom first told me that, I got angry at her saying she doesn't understand how special my fish was.

 

But after all...my mom was right. I lost my special fish in the sea. When I looked for it, I realized all the fish look exactly the same and I couldn't recognize my fish anymore.

 

The only thing that makes your fish special is your own feelings towards it. Maybe he was a great guy to you, but just like after a break-up, you tend to see him and your relationship better than it was.

 

Truth is there is nothing uglier than emotionally unaviable guys. Those guys who for some reason can't give you all their love, all their loyality.

 

Girl, you deserve to have all the love, all the loyality. Such a guy is never going to give you that.

 

One day I was at a lecture and the professor made a joke about something being similar to going on a date. Immedietly my eyes got teary thinking the guy I like will never take me on a date.

 

Do I deserve to be taken to a date? Hell, I know I do! And if he isn't going to provide me that than screw him. That's the attitude!

 

 

Now you are going through a hard time and it was easy to fill the void you feel with him. But you should find power from within.

 

Stop ever checking his SNS and start improving yourself. Seems clichee, but it's true. Turn this into something positive for you. I saw girls taking up sports because they wanted to get over a break-up and it worked. Keep your mind and time occupied with things. Learn something new, go somewhere new, meet people, read something, just do something that boots your self confidence and gets your mood up! Even if you don't feel like it and all you want to do is cry in your room, do it!

 

As time goes by, things will get better, I promise. Eventually you will find your fish too.

That was beautiful. Seriously thank you. I have been feeling terrible but I know it’s for my own good. It was always me making the effort. I don’t know I just feel like I’m not good enough for anyone. Maybe something to admire but nothing ever liking me for me. Maybe that’s why I became so attached.

 

I’m trying to keep myself busy now it’ll take some time to heal.

[redfoxqueen]

Long story short, we couldn't be together because he did not want to leave his girlfriend for me. He admitted his feelings for me before I left though, which made it worse. Everyone knew about us as well. I became more depressed and almost suicidal, because I had lost my father and grandmother, in the same year. I was left heartbroken. I tried very hard to come back to my workplace (as I was on contract) but couldn't get the job.

 

I'm not exaggerating but I cried almost everyday, and missed him terribly. I never forgot about him.

 

Sometimes I would look at his Facebook profile to see how he was doing, but today really shocked me.

 

I saw a post of him with his partner, he was on holiday to Chicago and the post said:

 

"Really enjoyed my time here in Chicago! Had to ask this beaut to marry me, she said yes!"

 

This was his only recent post he made public, which makes me think he did it on purpose to show me.

 

Needless to say I was really devastated. I wasted almost more than a year, missing and crying over someone who never really cared in the first place.

 

:(

 

Oh honey by the sounds of it, this guy did not have any best intentions in mind. Like everyone has said, if he was entertaining you and his gf at the time, who else knows what this guy does right?

 

Love yourself first my dear and you will see who is really worth your time and your love    Take time to heal and keep yourself busy, work on your goals and stay positive <3 it gets better